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Old September 22nd, 2007, 11:34 AM  
IAMSAM
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Name: Sam!
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Default Re: how am i suppose to get over him

Well, Jane, I still think you've learned some important things here.

First, 'Sex crazed guys' would have put the moves on you almost immediately, their only goal being a little nookie. This guy talks it alot (maybe he just can't control all that hormonal stuff), but when it came down to it, he actually was nice to you and tried to get to know you. And he held the door open. (that's a metaphor). So, what people do is way more important than what they say.

Also, you make it sound as if there was some competitive thing going on in wanting him, as in wanting him not so much because of a real attraction, but rather because 'they' had something you wanted. And you felt left out. That's not such a good rason to want a particular person, but actually a pretty good reason to want someone. And it sounds like you learned the diff between the 2.

It's not about him, it's about having a relationship. Lonliness is a powerful motivator, but experience and the insight that (hopefully) comes from it can help you get what you really want. Not the mirage.

You'll make a better choice next time, and with it, a better outcome. Your only 'fault' was not recognizing this before you got involved with him.
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