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Old September 3rd, 2007, 06:55 AM  
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Default Re: Gay, Bi, Straight or Asexual

Originally Posted by Crazysam View Post
some people can be asexual im pretty sure my uncle is i mean hes 50 and he has never had a girl friend...
What is Asexuality?

Asexual: A person who does not experience a desire to have sex, either straight or gay.

There are four types of asexuality:

1 Those who experience sex drive but no attraction: These are people who are aware that sex, on a purely biochemical level, might feel good but who would never feel compelled to engage in it with another person. The sex drive is dormant. Asexuals fitting this description may find sex with another person so socially and emotionally awkward as to be completely unpleasurable. (Yeah it might feel good to have sex with someone, it might feel good to run out and shoot up heroin but for the time being I've got other things to do with my life..)

2 People who experience attraction, but no sex drive: Those who feel an attraction to others similar to sexual attraction but have no desire to consummate it sexually. Attraction is centered less on sexuality and more on emotional and sometimes physical (though non-sexual) intimacy. Like sexual attraction this sort of attraction can be oriented along specific gender lines. (Sure I like you, but why of all things would we want to do THAT?)

3 Both: People for whom sex biologically feels good who experience attraction that is purely emotional. This person may find it pleasurable to masturbate, and they may see someone and feel an unexplainable emotional attachement to them but they would never see any reason to put the two together.

4 Neither: Those who don't find sex pleasurable and don't experience attraction to other people. It's important to note that not experiencing attraction does NOT mean that these people do not form intimate emotional relationships, like those in group A they are fully capable of forming intimate bonds with others and finding particular people particularely interesting without feeling anything that they define as "attraction."

Orientation has nothing to do with asexuality, so you can be a gay or straight asexual, but many asexuals do feel a level of same-sex attraction and identify with communities .

Hope this helps a bit.
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