Hehe, my 2 cents is that its such a controversial thing these days. It isn't necessarily bad. And this is coming from a very Christian girl
But I feel that in ways its okay. I mean if it's not so harcore and like "in your face." I mean only if you're doing it in private and not getting people really involved. In some states it is illegal. I actually don't know about my state. I know to my Dad its illegal
But hey, everyone's rules are different. And as long as you don't let it run your life its okay. Like I said, its just probably not a smart idea to get people you know in real life involved.
And yeah that guy you described sounds a little creepy...