Re: it's like a chain reaction!
Woah. I'm shocked. My condolences go out to you.
I agree with Hyper. Trying to be positive is just like trying to erase the affect these two traumatic events have had on you. The only thing you can do is stay strong. It is natural to feel as if there were things you should have done/said. But you will have to accept that you can't change any of it. You just have to work through these tragic losses.
I cannot identify with you, but please, if you feel yourself losing any strength come on here and talk to us. We are all here for you.
~ The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step ~
* Nothing in the world has ever been accomplished without passion *