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Coznyx November 8th, 2017 06:12 PM

Is this normal/okay?
 
Ever since I was about twelve, (I'm fourteen now) I've only really had romantic and sexual feelings for other boys. However, I still feel a very small amount of romantic attraction (nothing sexual) towards some girls. I still feel like I'm gay, and I don't want to label myself as bisexual or anything. Is it normal to feel this way, but still not call want to yourself bi? I just feel really weird about it.

ska8er November 8th, 2017 07:02 PM

Re: Is this normal/okay?
 
Ive felt the same as u do ever since Ive
been 13. Yeah I would say it is normal.
The way I'm dealing with it is that I'm
trying to let it play out for me. I'm not
labeling myself as yet but I have the
same physical feelings toward both
guys and girls but I cant say I have
anything romantic with both. I will
say I am Curious with feelings with
guys. I'm 17 and I still don't know y.
Yeah it feels weird but don't let it
mess with ur head. U r just starting
puberty-u have time to try and figure
it out but just go along and enjoy ur life.

Lost in the Echo November 8th, 2017 07:05 PM

Re: Is this normal/okay?
 
Puberty can be a weird time so Iíd say donít stress over labels right now. Youíll figure it out as you get older Iím sure once your hormones start to level out.

Tbh it sounds like youíre bi with a strong preference for males, but like I said no need to label yourself at this point with all the confusion that comes at your age. Youíll figure it out :)

mick01 November 9th, 2017 11:15 AM

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I just turned 16 and I thought I was gay at one point, then I thought I only liked girls, now I'm back to feeling like I'm bi. So just give yourself time and eventually you'll figure out who you are.

Vegas2933 November 9th, 2017 01:12 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Lost in the Echo (Post 3588368)
Puberty can be a weird time so Iíd say donít stress over labels right now. Youíll figure it out as you get older Iím sure once your hormones start to level out.

Tbh it sounds like youíre bi with a strong preference for males, but like I said no need to label yourself at this point with all the confusion that comes at your age. Youíll figure it out :)

This is very good advice! I'm the same as well, bi with males as preference. This sort of thing is extremly common during puberty and should blow over as it comes to an end. :)

Jamiec1130 November 9th, 2017 03:52 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Vegas2933 (Post 3588569)
This is very good advice! I'm the same as well, bi with males as preference. This sort of thing is extremly common during puberty and should blow over as it comes to an end. :)

Same here. As others have said, don't worry about labels. They aren't what defines you. You define you. Who you are as a person. Your sexuality doesn't define you. Puberty is a rough time to go through, especially with sexuality. Just let it all pan out naturally, and I'm sure you'll be happy :).

Jordanchill November 9th, 2017 07:58 PM

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Being 14, you have a long road of development ahead of you. I would just relax with the labels and go with the flow. If you find a boy that you like a lot, then date that boy. If you find a girl that you like a lot, then date that girl. The only thing that really matters is your happiness in life. In reality, the human life span is a short span of time, so just do you.

jamie_n5 November 9th, 2017 08:37 PM

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I am gay and only have sexual feelings for boys. I also like and love some girls and they are good and best friends. But that is all they are to me. I may hug and even kiss them but it is out of friendship. So I think the way you feel is a perfectly normal way to feel and be.

bojack November 10th, 2017 12:24 AM

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Honestly, labels can be really constricting, and can pigeonhole you into a simple category, when obviously people are a lot more complex than that.

Bull November 10th, 2017 07:49 AM

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We are all sexual beings. No other "label" needed. Enjoy life as it presents.

pjones November 10th, 2017 12:29 PM

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very normal and at 14 you don't need to worry about being anything but a teenager

Falcons_11 November 11th, 2017 10:11 AM

Re: Is this normal/okay?
 
You're normal, bro. Most of us growing up have sexual feeling for same and then opposite sex. You have a while to figure things out for yourself. Just take life as it comes and don't freak out worrying about your sexuality. Good luck.

SouthGeorgiaTeen November 24th, 2017 11:21 PM

Re: Is this normal/okay?
 
Completely normal, I used to be the exact same way except the only thing I knew at that time was that I liked girls and guys. I never wanted to label myself as " gay " because it has a negative connotation where I'm from and in my household. At that time I didn't want to admit that I was attracted to guys because then I had the closed mindset I so regrettably had. All it took was some soul searching to come to the realization that I am bisexual.
I hope that you overcome the confusion and find yourself as I did, no mater what your orientation happens to be.

kyrocks03 November 25th, 2017 08:14 AM

Re: Is this normal/okay?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Coznyx (Post 3588354)
Ever since I was about twelve, (I'm fourteen now) I've only really had romantic and sexual feelings for other boys. However, I still feel a very small amount of romantic attraction (nothing sexual) towards some girls. I still feel like I'm gay, and I don't want to label myself as bisexual or anything. Is it normal to feel this way, but still not call want to yourself bi? I just feel really weird about it.

It's okay to feel this way. You are the same age as me and seem to have had a similar path to mine, although mine started at about 11years old. I didn't put a lot of thought in it and eventually just became comfortable with the fact that I am gay. For me it was the romantic feelings I had toward boys and complete disinterest in girls that helped me decide. There isn't any rush though. Be yourself and when the time is right for you, you'll know. No one here can guide you one way or the other. This is an individual and personal thing that eventually sorts itself out.

Just JT November 25th, 2017 09:46 AM

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Very normal feelings. Iím pretty sure everyone has had to some degree some feelings, curiosities etc about all kinds of sexual feelings. Just avoid labels and donít stress over it

If you find someone your attracted to and the feeling is mutual, then go with it and enjoy yourselves. You might find you like what youíre doing and you might find you donít.

Only one way to find out. So just roll with it, be ok with whoever you are and donít let anyone make you feel anything but good about yourself, cause you are absofuckinlutly normal.

SeansLittleBro December 4th, 2017 03:09 PM

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You're 14 and there is NO need to label yourself...actually you don't have to label yourself ever...YOU know who you are and who you want to be with in a romantic/sexual way and that is the only person that needs to know...YES i have labeled myself because I have known my preference since I was 11 and needed to tell my parents because it does effect them and I knew that they would be supportive no matter what (called unconditional love)...of course the rest of my family knew as well...My friends had a feeling and if asked I wouldn't deny it...so of course it got around and I was outed, not intentionally and something that really didn't bother me anyway...

noah.whynot December 6th, 2017 05:06 PM

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My advice is to not worry about labeling yourself at all. If you're mostly into boys, but a little bit into girls, that's totally okay. Everyone is different and there's nothing that says you have to be 100% one thing or another. Do what feels right for you. Screw everyone else :)

crushinator January 6th, 2018 06:40 PM

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If you don't want to call yourself bi then don't

TWDjacob January 17th, 2018 12:01 AM

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I've felt this way for a long time and still do to this day. Try not to worry about the label and forums on what feels right to you


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