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JacoboBlandonPineda June 23rd, 2017 02:48 AM

Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Ever since I've been able to speak, I have talked to myself. Apparently, many people in the autism spectrum, of which I'm on, experience this.

I've found that I do it when doing almost anything as to focus and think on what I'm doing, and analyze. In the night, it's my introspection tool to see and reflect on what I did on that day. I only do it when there isn't anyone else around listening, because I fear I might be judged, especially because I say things that would be really embarrassing in public.

I also have conversations in my head, but I'm completely aware it's my imagination. I have them on a future tense, so it's like what I would imagine interacting with people based on my life goals and what not.

Other times it's like I was making a video, I start 'explaining' a topic I was thinking of, or giving an opinion on something. Even ranting. I've found it helps to organize and better argument the thoughts on what I was thinking.

It might be weird, unconventional and kinda creepy, but it helps to keep my mind organized and focused (though my ADHD still makes that kinda hard in the end).

Does anybody else do this? Is it similar to the way I do it, or are there any differences? Please let me know :)

Just JT June 23rd, 2017 07:22 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
I'm not on the spectrum, but I can relate. I think it might be more of my ADHD kicking in with my imagination. Sometimes I think of things, or how to explain things, as if I'm Speaking to a group of my friends sometimes. I think it helps me use up my "imagination memory energy" or something.

I don't think it's weird really, I'm pretty sure we all do this to some degree. Hence the "spectrum", being not autism, but just everything in life is a spectrum. We all have the same qualities and characteristics, it's only a matter of to what degree.

Voice_Of_Unreason June 23rd, 2017 07:30 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
I do something very similar to what you are describing. I don't think is is particularly abnormal nor something related to any mental illness.

Elysium June 23rd, 2017 10:13 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
I do talk to myself. Sometimes while doing work, sometimes while trying to organize my thoughts and actions, sometimes with the guise of talking to my cat, occasionally to comfort myself.

I do the future tense conversation thing, too. Also frequently I'll act out conversations with people in my head because for whatever reason, it most helps me examine what's actually going on with me and my feelings.

I will occasionally mentally rant too, but only if I'm not trying to sleep :lol:

Phosphene June 24th, 2017 01:19 AM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
That's not abnormal whatsoever, and you shouldn't be worried if it's affecting you for better and not for worse, as you describe. I talk to myself sometimes while walking myself through the action(s) of completing a task, when I'm frustrated, and even to the thing that's the source of my frustration. I also do a variation of this for music - I compose solos over pre-learned chord changes in my head to acquaint myself with the changes on a more profound level and develop ideas for when it comes time to actually play a solo.

Jadennow June 24th, 2017 04:32 AM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
I think it's normal, idk, I talk to myself a lot too. I don't have full on 2 sided conversations with myself out loud, but I do have inner dialogue about things or if I'm trying to figure out how to word something I want to say, I'll try it out a couple times in my head first. I definitely think a lot at night when trying to go to sleep, which is why it takes me so long togettosleep. I think there's doesn't degrees depending on the person but I think everyone does it, it's part of having thought process.

Dalcourt June 24th, 2017 09:27 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
I guess talking to oneself is normal and most people I know do it.
When I tell them I have never ever in my life talked to myself most find it is weird, so guess talking to yourself is the normal thing to do.
Me, I never utter a sound at all when I'm alone - I would never even curse aloud if something goes wrong or so.
I sometimes talk to my pets but that's about it...
So just don't worry about the whole thing here.

Kooy June 24th, 2017 10:08 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Sometimes i talk to myself

JacoboBlandonPineda June 26th, 2017 07:26 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
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Originally Posted by Just JT (Post 3536053)
I think it might be more of my ADHD kicking in with my imagination. Sometimes I think of things, or how to explain things, as if I'm Speaking to a group of my friends sometimes. I think it helps me use up my "imagination memory energy" or something.

I agree, while people on the spectrum can certainly experience this, many that aren't also do this self talking. Maybe my ADHD contributes towards doing that.

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Originally Posted by Just JT (Post 3536053)
I don't think it's weird really, I'm pretty sure we all do this to some degree. Hence the "spectrum", being not autism, but just everything in life is a spectrum. We all have the same qualities and characteristics, it's only a matter of to what degree.

While I agree with your sentiment here, the autism spectrum has several unique qualities and characteristics that aren't present withtin most people.

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Originally Posted by Elysium (Post 3536101)
I do talk to myself. Sometimes while doing work, sometimes while trying to organize my thoughts and actions, sometimes with the guise of talking to my cat, occasionally to comfort myself.

I do the future tense conversation thing, too. Also frequently I'll act out conversations with people in my head because for whatever reason, it most helps me examine what's actually going on with me and my feelings.

I will occasionally mentally rant too, but only if I'm not trying to sleep

We do the same thing. Yes, sometimes I try to mentally rant trying to stay awake, but eventually I fall asleep :p

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Originally Posted by Amethyst Rose (Post 3536198)
I talk to myself sometimes while walking myself through the action(s) of completing a task, when I'm frustrated, and even to the thing that's the source of my frustration.

Oh my, I do that too! I forgot to put that on the post. I'll start like scolding the thing that frustrated me (if I'm too frustrated).

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Originally Posted by Amethyst Rose (Post 3536198)
I also do a variation of this for music - I compose solos over pre-learned chord changes in my head to acquaint myself with the changes on a more profound level and develop ideas for when it comes time to actually play a solo.

That's interesting - and pretty cool! I'm guessing it is particularly helpful when you're playing or preparing a play.

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Originally Posted by Jadennow (Post 3536266)
I think it's normal, idk, I talk to myself a lot too. I don't have full on 2 sided conversations with myself out loud, but I do have inner dialogue about things or if I'm trying to figure out how to word something I want to say, I'll try it out a couple times in my head first. I definitely think a lot at night when trying to go to sleep, which is why it takes me so long togettosleep.

Yeah, that happens a lot, but I eventually get asleep.

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Originally Posted by Peanut_ (Post 3536502)
I guess talking to oneself is normal and most people I know do it.
When I tell them I have never ever in my life talked to myself most find it is weird, so guess talking to yourself is the normal thing to do.
Me, I never utter a sound at all when I'm alone - I would never even curse aloud if something goes wrong or so.
I sometimes talk to my pets but that's about it...
So just don't worry about the whole thing here.

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Originally Posted by Jadennow (Post 3536266)
I think there's doesn't degrees depending on the person but I think everyone does it, it's part of having thought process.

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Originally Posted by PlasmaHam (Post 3536057)
I do something very similar to what you are describing. I don't think is is particularly abnormal nor something related to any mental illness.

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Originally Posted by Amethyst Rose (Post 3536198)
That's not abnormal whatsoever, and you shouldn't be worried if it's affecting you for better and not for worse, as you describe.

Yeah, you're right. A lot of people do talk to themselves and there are some benefits to that. I'm guessing I shouldn't fret because of a very common and normal phenomenon.

Thanks to all of you for your responses! Now I feel a little bit more comfortable about my self-talking.

lolaa June 26th, 2017 08:09 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
i was contemplating on making a thread about this since mine is a bit abnormal compared to these replies .
i don't talk to myself to "organise my thoughts" or for "future conversations" , i legit imagine anyone i want to in my room and just talk , i would just predict their replies and talk back out loud and this could go on for hours and i'd just stop when i've realized the amount of time i just wasted .
i started doing this a few years ago and i noticed it stemmed from loneliness , i'd stop doing it when i'm busy with friends or i had someone i frequently talked to
now is this crazy?

Dalcourt June 26th, 2017 09:06 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
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Originally Posted by lolaa (Post 3537506)
i was contemplating on making a thread about this since mine is a bit abnormal compared to these replies .
i don't talk to myself to "organise my thoughts" or for "future conversations" , i legit imagine anyone i want to in my room and just talk , i would just predict their replies and talk back out loud and this could go on for hours and i'd just stop when i've realized the amount of time i just wasted .
i started doing this a few years ago and i noticed it stemmed from loneliness , i'd stop doing it when i'm busy with friends or i had someone i frequently talked to
now is this crazy?

Oh yeah, that is totally crazy, lolaa. No just kidding of course. Well I make up whole conversations in my head. I imagine what I would answer someone in a certain situation or how I would explain things.
I never talk aloud when I am alone as I said above but I don't feel that saying things out aloud makes it more crazy.
People just deal differently with being on their own and a lot of people said how they talk to themselves, so nothing wrong I guess as long as you don't "hear voices" or anything.

KatieCO2003 June 27th, 2017 12:51 AM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
All the time. Every day.

maddogmj77 June 27th, 2017 08:33 AM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Completely normal. I talk to myself a lot, probably because I don't have anyone else to talk to. I usually do it in order to dissect a topic that I'm thinking about (usually politics). Plus, it helps me keep track of my thoughts a lot easier, which I have a hard time with.

Yugen June 27th, 2017 01:19 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Just in my head. I think it's like an extension of thinking.

JacoboBlandonPineda June 27th, 2017 03:04 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by lolaa (Post 3537506)
i was contemplating on making a thread about this since mine is a bit abnormal compared to these replies .
i don't talk to myself to "organise my thoughts" or for "future conversations" , i legit imagine anyone i want to in my room and just talk , i would just predict their replies and talk back out loud and this could go on for hours and i'd just stop when i've realized the amount of time i just wasted .
i started doing this a few years ago and i noticed it stemmed from loneliness , i'd stop doing it when i'm busy with friends or i had someone i frequently talked to
now is this crazy?

Nope, not at all. It's a way to entertain yourself when you're alone and bored. And I do it too since I'm pretty lonely, but I don't do it if I'm with someone, like in your case.

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Originally Posted by Peanut_ (Post 3537526)
Oh yeah, that is totally crazy, lolaa. No just kidding of course. Well I make up whole conversations in my head. I imagine what I would answer someone in a certain situation or how I would explain things.
I never talk aloud when I am alone as I said above but I don't feel that saying things out aloud makes it more crazy.

I do the first part, even and mostly when I'm alone, because - as I explained in the OP - it would be very embarrassing.

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Originally Posted by Peanut_ (Post 3537526)
People just deal differently with being on their own and a lot of people said how they talk to themselves, so nothing wrong I guess as long as you don't "hear voices" or anything.

Exactly, it's completely normal.

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Originally Posted by KatieCO2003 (Post 3537650)
All the time. Every day.

me irl

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Originally Posted by maddogmj77 (Post 3537786)
Completely normal. I talk to myself a lot, probably because I don't have anyone else to talk to. I usually do it in order to dissect a topic that I'm thinking about (usually politics). Plus, it helps me keep track of my thoughts a lot easier, which I have a hard time with.

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Originally Posted by Yugen (Post 3537878)
Just in my head. I think it's like an extension of thinking.

It indeed is an extension of thought, I linked an article in my previous reply that talked about it, we start doing that in childhood.

lolaa June 27th, 2017 07:15 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
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Originally Posted by JacoboBlandonPineda (Post 3537899)
Nope, not at all. It's a way to entertain yourself when you're alone and bored. And I do it too since I'm pretty lonely, but I don't do it if I'm with someone, like in your case.

hey who said i do it in public?!?!?! im not that crazy

Dalcourt June 27th, 2017 10:10 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
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Originally Posted by lolaa (Post 3537976)
hey who said i do it in public?!?!?! im not that crazy

Haha dunno where that came from. I didn't read anything like that in your post. From what you wrote I assumed you do this talking to yourself when you are alone in your room or home alone in general.

JacoboBlandonPineda June 28th, 2017 02:30 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Peanut_ (Post 3538012)
Haha dunno where that came from. I didn't read anything like that in your post. From what you wrote I assumed you do this talking to yourself when you are alone in your room or home alone in general.

Yeah, I never said you did it on public (I, however, sometimes do) and your post didn't give that away either.

Barbara. June 28th, 2017 05:30 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Yes all the time, but mostly when I'm pissed off about something or someone.

lolaa June 28th, 2017 07:57 PM

Re: Do you talk to yourselves?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by JacoboBlandonPineda (Post 3537899)
but I don't do it if I'm with someone, like in your case.


there is no real someone , thought you misunderstood me doing it with people around


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