Virtual Teen Forums

Virtual Teen Forums (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/index.php)
-   Abuse (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=105)
-   -   Are you still a virgin if you are raped? (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2035795)

christophe March 24th, 2017 12:55 AM

Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
My Brother did Anal and oral sex often to me before i got into Foster care. I am still a Virgin?

lliam March 24th, 2017 01:06 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
imo, if you consider you as a virgin, you still remain a virgin.

personally I would recommend you to forget this virginity stuff.
it only creates id-irritation and such.

clobo March 24th, 2017 02:08 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by christophe (Post 3500102)
My Brother did Anal and oral sex often to me before i got into Foster care. I am still a Virgin?

That's awful, poor you. I would say you're a virgin. **hugs** x

Vegas2933 March 24th, 2017 02:45 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
I'm guessing it wasn't consential...? :(

christophe March 24th, 2017 02:51 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
No��

Vegas2933 March 24th, 2017 03:00 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by christophe (Post 3500140)
No��

Omg I'm so sorry. While your tecnically not still a virgin, you can choose as to whether or not to count this as your first sexual experiance.

ChloeF March 24th, 2017 03:58 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Hugs, l hope you're ok.
Technically no. Given your background though, l'd accept that you are if you want to think that way.

Beauregard March 24th, 2017 07:15 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
I'm sorry this happened to you.
I personally always thought the whole virginity thing overrated so I would advise not to think too much about it.
As the others said technically you aren't a virgin but it would be okay if you consider yourself one till your first consensual sexual intercourse.

pconnor March 24th, 2017 07:39 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Gosh, so sorry to hear that.

KingClyde March 25th, 2017 03:27 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
I'm so sorry what happened to you, one thing I can say is think of it this way, everyone has 3 virginities. You technically lost 2 but you still (from my understanding) have one left. Most straight (I take from your post history) guys never lose those 2 so you're no different than anyone else. Regardless, chin up buddy; virginity doesn't matter anyway. There's only a physical difference in females as they have a hymen, we don't. Nobody will ever think anything of "virginity" in your case as long as they know what happened because it's not your fault. Remember, virginity is a social construct. It doesn't matter anyway :)

Michael M. March 27th, 2017 03:15 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
you unwantedly got laid. That's really disgusting that it happened to you the way you did. I am sorry to hear.

ChrisM98 March 27th, 2017 08:50 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
So sorry to hear about that

Devinsoccer March 27th, 2017 08:57 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by christophe (Post 3500102)
My Brother did Anal and oral sex often to me before i got into Foster care. I am still a Virgin?

I'm sorry to hear about this. Sadly, you are no longer a virgin. Any type of sex, concentual or not means you are no longer a virgin.

Shiny Moon March 28th, 2017 12:07 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Sorry to hear that :( And to answer your question, I don't think so.

bigwolf2 March 29th, 2017 09:16 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Well, technically you are not. But if you choose so to not consider it as your first sexual experience, you are.

But I must say virginity is a very artificial concept.

zack.zack March 29th, 2017 10:21 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
I am very sorry that happened to you, I hope you are in a better place now.

As everyone has pointed out, technically youre not a virgin because youve had intercourse. HOWEVER, since you never had vaginal intercourse, I would assume you hymen is still intact and that would make you a virgin still because you were never penetrated that way. This is just my opinion.

maddogmj77 April 1st, 2017 05:40 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by zack.zack (Post 3502026)
I am very sorry that happened to you, I hope you are in a better place now.

As everyone has pointed out, technically youre not a virgin because youve had intercourse. HOWEVER, since you never had vaginal intercourse, I would assume you hymen is still intact and that would make you a virgin still because you were never penetrated that way. This is just my opinion.

The OP is male.
The hymen is not a "virginity-detector".
You seem to be very misinformed, I would suggest watching this video.

Also, virginity is pretty much a made-up idea, there is no concrete definition.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PM79UBTwfsg

zack.zack April 1st, 2017 04:11 PM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by maddogmj77 (Post 3502834)
The OP is male.
The hymen is not a "virginity-detector".
You seem to be very misinformed, I would suggest watching this video.

Also, virginity is pretty much a made-up idea, there is no concrete definition.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PM79UBTwfsg

I apologize for not paying attention to the OP's gender, thank you for pointing that out and for the video link.

jacob.neruda September 20th, 2017 10:02 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
The dichotomy between "virgin" and "slut" is beginning to grate on my nerves. Whether you are a virgin or not is irrelevant: the whole obsession with virginity began in Biblical times, where Kings would demand their wives be virginal in order to ensure that the sons their wives would bear would be of the father's blood, and therefore, entitled to inherit the kingdom and it's wealth.

Nowadays, it is a meaningless concept except for the devoutly religious and the superstitious.

And so to answer the question as to whether the OP is a virgin: who's to say? It is up to the OP whether he believes this first sexual experience deserves canonisation as his "loss of virginity".

Does he think the loss of virginity is important for religious reasons? Then, no -- God would never impune anyone for having suffered sexual abuse. Is it for emotional reasons? Then it would depend if the OP is still a virgin or not -- does he feel that his event marked a significant chapter in his life (the same way that the loss of virginity came to be a rite of passage in Western culture, post-Victorian era)? Or is he just asking to ask -- pure semantics? Then undoubtedly yes: he was penetrated, and through that definition, lost his virginity.

Anyway, my dear Christophe -- hugs. I hope you are doing well. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. We're with you, mate.

NewLeafsFan September 24th, 2017 12:47 AM

Re: Are you still a virgin if you are raped?
 
Personally, I think that you're a virgin. You did not have sex as a willing participant; you were abused.

If the abuse did not involve vaginal sex I don't think that anyone could not consider you a virgin.

You have my deepest sympathy for what you have been through.


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:58 PM.

Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright©2000 - 2018
Search Engine Optimisation provided by DragonByte SEO (Lite) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2018 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
Copyright 2004 - 2017, VirtualTeen.org