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Castle of Glass September 2nd, 2013 12:36 PM

A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
Firstly, I am not the most experienced person in SH on this forum, but i have tried ways to stop, as most of us.

Secondly, I am making this thread so people can easily see ways to stop self harm.

Method 1:

Go for 24 hours of no cutting. then, if you make it, got for 3 full days of no self harm(72 hours). If you cut in those 72 hours, you have to start all over. But if you make it(even if you cut on the 4th day), go for a full week(7 full days). And again, if you cut, you have to restart it. once you make a week(even if you cut on the 8th day) go for a week and a half(10 days). And keep repeating. If you cut during the time you are not suppose to, you have to start again. Keep doing this month by month and you should do fine.

Method 2:

This is the Butterfly Project. What you do is you get a permanent marker and and draw a butterfly near where you cut. Inside or next to the butterfly, write the name of someone you care. You must keep this butterfly alive. If you cut, it dies. If you rub it off it dies.

Method 3:

This is called the Paper Chain Project. To do this method, for everyday you go without cutting or self harm, you add a colorful chain. If you relapse, you add a white chain, but you keep adding. The more you go with this project, the more you see your progress. So you can see that you can go without cutting for longer periods of time.

Alternate
An alternate for the Paper Chain Project is to do it with paperclips instead of paper chains. It is easier to hide this way(if your parents/family doesn't know about your SH). All the same rules apply. Use Colorful paper clips for days without SH and plain ones for days you do SH

Method 4:

Distractions are everything. Read books, draw, write poetry and songs, play video games, exercise. Any thing that puts your mind doing something. Do work. Just anything to get your mind of things.

Method 5:

Do something less harmful. Take a rubber band and flick it. Rub and squeeze ice to where ever you SH or take hot wax(Paraffin) and
drip it. (Credit for this method goes to Kryptonite(Siobahn))

Method 6:

Clear your mind. Meditate. It may seem hard but it works. There are may different ways to do it and all of them work.Here is a list of different ways to do it. Not all of them work as well as others. you just have to find the one that works for you. Also listening to the rain works. Here is a site to listen to constant rain (credit for Listening to Rain goes to Kryptonite)

Method 7:

Get a red marker and draw lines where you cut, instead of cutting. It looks like blood but you don't harm your body. (Credit for this method goes to Mynick)

Alternate
Another Version of this is to draw your body with out any cloths and then using a red pen, draw lines where you cut. Like if you cut on you hip, you would color the hip up with red marks. This is what i mean with the body. And then you would use a red pen to draw on it.

Method 8:

Hide your "tools". Get rid of them. Close your eyes and throw them away. Do anything so you get rid of of what ever you use to self harm with. (Credit for this method goes to handle with care)

Alternate
When you're in a state of mind where you don't want to harm yourself, put your tools for self harm all in one spot and write a note near them. You could write something like "Remember how you felt before" or something and it will remind you that you may not want to. If you see it and know that YOU wrote it, fully conscious of what you were doing, it might help a little. I don't know how much sense that made but it works for me.(Credit for this method goes to ByXaz)

Method 9:

Cut into an orange, apple, or other fruit. cut it any way you want, and then after you are done, you have something to eat :3 (Credit for this method goes to Rasmusdk)

Feel free to post other methods that have helped you below and I may add them to this list and give you credit for it.

Mynick September 2nd, 2013 02:07 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
If im allowed to add one more.
Draw red lines where you would cut. They look like blood and sometimes helps.

Castle of Glass September 2nd, 2013 02:14 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Mynick (Post 2483664)
If im allowed to add one more.
Draw red lines where you would cut. They look like blood and sometimes helps.

yea. I will add them as the come along and as long as they are safe.

1_21Guns September 2nd, 2013 03:46 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
I like this thread it's a nice idea, although I unfortunately don't have anything more to add, the butterfly project is one of my favourites though :P

Ethan1369 September 2nd, 2013 10:43 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by 1_21Guns (Post 2483832)
I like this thread it's a nice idea, although I unfortunately don't have anything more to add, the butterfly project is one of my favourites though :P

I also love the butterfly project it makes me think about people who care about me that I care for also.

handle with care September 2nd, 2013 11:15 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
this is a great thread my method is actually just giving my lighters and other things i use to harm to a trusted friend or hide them from myself.

ksdnfkfr September 2nd, 2013 11:26 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
I like method 3, except I'd wear rubber band bracelets. I've done something like method 5, using a braided leather necklace as a little whip to give myself a welt in place of a cut.

Castle of Glass September 3rd, 2013 06:04 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by handle with care (Post 2484745)
this is a great thread my method is actually just giving my lighters and other things i use to harm to a trusted friend or hide them from myself.

ok, thanks. forgot about that one, mainly cuz it never works with me :/ but i am adding it anyway

xStar64 September 4th, 2013 08:53 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Thanks for this list bro. I really like the butterfly project, and I got my friends to do it. Paper chain sounds good. I'll try that.

Versae September 8th, 2013 10:00 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
This is a real big help. Thank you very much... I hope people like you live longer.

Castle of Glass September 8th, 2013 11:27 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Versae (Post 2493202)
This is a real big help. Thank you very much... I hope people like you live longer.

your welcome :)

DerBear September 10th, 2013 11:13 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self harm and cutting
 
Congrats your thread has been stuck :D

Saint of Sinners September 16th, 2013 01:58 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
Those seem like some really nice ideas:) going to recommend this thread to people.

I would like to mention that sometimes, the support of somebody you trust and care about (close friend, sibling parent) can really help if you're serious about stopping. Obviously many people that cut would be mortified if anybody found out, but external support can really help to encourage you to put down the blade, or assist in making sure you stop.

Mynick September 22nd, 2013 01:53 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
When i was browsing around the Internet i found somthing similiar to the Method 1. Its the ten minute game where you say you won’t cut for ten minutes and then when that times up you say it again and again after until you don’t need to do so anymore.
Don't know if it helps or not, just found it today.

Blood_Thorn September 27th, 2013 09:11 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
Those are some good ideas, personally I like the paperclip method...

asbel_garcia123 October 17th, 2013 04:27 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
I unfortunately have killed several butterflies, so the butterfly project doesn't work so well for me......the rubber band trick is good for like a minute, and then the urge comes back. I don't know what to do sometimes.....so I relapse

skittles_was_here October 26th, 2013 02:25 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
thank you for this list. sadly, i have tried most of these things including the butterfly project to no avail (i've killed many butterflies). i do like the idea of the paperclips though, i haven't tried that. thank you!

SawyerSauce October 26th, 2013 03:19 AM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
I'm going to try the paper chain.
I need a visual.

I don't know if I am ready to stop, though.
I don't think I am ready.

ByXaz October 26th, 2013 09:06 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
I have a method that hasn't been listed here yet:
When you're in a state of mind where you don't want to harm yourself, put your tools for self harm all in one spot and write a note near them. You could write something like "Remember how you felt before" or something and it will remind you that you may not want to. If you see it and know that YOU wrote it, fully conscious of what you were doing, it might help a little. I don't know how much sense that made but it works for me.

Castle of Glass October 26th, 2013 10:39 PM

Re: A list of ways to stop Self Harm and Cutting
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ByXaz (Post 2553289)
I have a method that hasn't been listed here yet:
When you're in a state of mind where you don't want to harm yourself, put your tools for self harm all in one spot and write a note near them. You could write something like "Remember how you felt before" or something and it will remind you that you may not want to. If you see it and know that YOU wrote it, fully conscious of what you were doing, it might help a little. I don't know how much sense that made but it works for me.

ok thanks. I put it as an alternative for method 8


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