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Wheatley October 1st, 2011 06:43 PM

Just throwing it out there
 
Hey,
Firstly, please move this thread if you don't think it belongs here, its not exactly OCD but I couldn't find a better fit. Mental crisis seems a bit dramatic for this, but the only reason why it went in OCD is because its brain control.

Ok, here's a psycholgical queation.
Your feelings and emotions come naturally, for example, when something is funny, you laugh, when something is sad, you cry, when something is uncomfortabe in front of your friends, you show it in your facial expressions.

Normally, the mind doesn't have a say In these reactions, apart from the odd occasion. Day something on tv is really sad and you feel like crying, but htry to hold it back coz its embarassing.

Since I've had my years of bullying at school now, I don't feel much naturally. I just put on expressions as to how I want to feel
(this isn't sounding good, reading it back)
So like, if someone tells you something really bad that happened to them, and you know a friend might cry with them, but you dont really care so don't find it sad, you make yourself cry. So give a fake reaction to something.

Umm.. if you watch superatural on tv, when Sam lost his soul and couldn't feel emotions, he had to try and use his brain to think how someone could react to a certain emotional situation (he fails at it, but you get the point)

Or when you have some kind of brain injury and are unable to feel emotions, you have to remember what certain things should feel like.

Does anyone else do this? I do all the time, in social situation I'm a hard person and don't feel much so I always analyse a situation a force fake emotions. It works successfully though, I can still make people believe things. In social situation I feel like sam off of supernatural when he has no soul. It's an effect from being shuned for 2 years I think. At home I'm fine, quite emotional actually, the last episode of doctor who made me cry.

But the OCD bit is analysing situation and faking emotions to get certain messages accross, the only emotion that nautrqlly shines through in social situations is embarassment. But I can also fake embarassment. Love is also another emotion that shines through, I can feel it but I can still hide it, useful for when you spend most of your social life with the boy you love

Thanks for reading, its a bit long and confusing, I know. Just ask if you need me to explain further.

Edit: Actually i think my love emotion is overpowered whereas the rest are underpowered. Again with the OCD, when i decide I love someone, I will always be there for them and always make sure nothing bad happens

CleoP October 5th, 2011 10:08 PM

Re: Just throwing it out there
 
Hmm.... could it be lack of empathy? Sometimes lack of empathy is a symptom of some pervasive developmental disorders (specifically Asperger Syndrome). I kind of have the same thing, I have to pretend to care when someone tells me something sad/happy/interesting. (I know that sounds really bad.) Good luck! :)

Wheatley October 7th, 2011 05:45 PM

Re: Just throwing it out there
 
Haha I know how you feel (which is a,tually empathy),. But I have found recently that i might be goibg through an identity crisis? I just seem to adopt other's habits real quickly.

love is louder October 25th, 2011 04:16 AM

Re: Just throwing it out there
 
I know exactly how you feel! I feel the same but I am bipolar so my emotions are all over the place anyway but all the way through school I found it hard till I took a step back and looked at how other people reacted to certain things before I did. This helped a lot to stop myself from being noticed by other people. Sometimes its a blessing not to feel anything. But sometimes its a curse I am now on drugs that practically numb me so I can't feel anything anyway. As to what to do about this. I have no idea. But hope it makes you feel better that there's others like you out there. I know it does for me

Amaryllis November 2nd, 2011 01:25 AM

Re: Just throwing it out there
 
I completely understand where you're coming from. I've trained myself to react the way people want and expect me to. I say what I know I should, not necessarily what I really think or believe.

It can be a good thing, at times, but if you do it much too often, like we do, you lose yourself. Nothing you say or do seems to be real anymore and when it perhaps, is, you don't know if it is. I'm sure you understand what I mean. It's difficult, being genuine.

I think, if I dropped my act, my face would be simply blank and emotionless. I just really don't feel much. Perhaps all I feel is a deep, heavy sadness. But it's been so neglected, I really don't feel much.

This is something you need professional help with. It takes time, patience and effort to learn to react naturally again, but it -is- possible. Good, luck sweetheart! :)


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