How Modest, is too Modest?

[schrei jess]

Am I too modest? I dont like talking about anything sexual, with like...anyone. When my mom tells me stuff about like her bras or whatever (she's always telling me they hurt because she wears DD!) and Im like, "Mom, please stop" and she says "You act like we arent the same gender!". Is it bad that I cant stand to talk about any of that with anyone? I hated having the sex talk with my mom, I always felt like I was too young, I had it in 5th grade and they had a class on it at school.

I dont like my mom talking about underwear and junk in front of my dad or anyone else, and I hate having to tell my dad Im on my period but he knows when I am and asks me if I am. I just hate having to deal with all that.

If I ever had like a sexual problem, Im not sure I could tell anyone, Id be too modest or scared. I dont think I could even tell a doctor, and Im absolutely scared to death of the day I have to see a gynocologist. I cant even imagine what they have to do, Ill be really uncomfortable. What do I do about all of this?!

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

well, im a guy and i can reasonibly see how u'd be afraid to see a gynacologist, id be fucking nervous too. im alot like this, but im comfortable talking about sexrelated stuff in situations like health class, or with my friends, with them ill say anytyhing. but i do hate it when my mom is like "i dont want you learning about sex through porn, sex is a beutiful thing" i hate it when she goes on about that stuff. its normal to be scared to talk about sexrelated things and ur body together, but i think you need to "bight the lip" a little more because if something is oging on that you think is wrong, then you need to be able to pull through at get help from a doctor. its hard, i know from experience, but it's necesary for your health and you need to put it before your nervousness

[schrei jess]

Uhm, what? That's kind of an odd question.

[Vegas]

Jessika it's just a spammer... ignore it.

[mRojas2000]

Another spammer...

I'm just like you jess... but with my family specially... I don't mind talking with my friends about sex, (even if we don't much) but we always get a laugh outta it, and stuff... to me, when my dad was talking with me about pornography, masturbation, condoms, how to put them and stuff (as a sex ed class, not like a normal day topic) I would start laughing for some reason, and when he asked I would say "its the cold, don't worry"... I just felt uncoftarble talking with him about it, for some reason...

Don't worry, you'll be fine!!

Miguel :)

[schrei jess]

Thanks miguel, but I cant really talk about it with anyone. Im so embarrased and modest that I cant even say the proper names for things!!

And spammer, go away please, Im looking for real help -_-

[mRojas2000]

Even if its with family, or friends I think it should be almost the same... if you dont like talking about it, just don't and eather go away of the convo, if they are inviting you to talk, or ask your oppinion, or just shut up, and say you don't wanna talk, and listen if you want...

Thing is, just don't do it if you don't want to...

[0=]

It might help for you to sit down and familiarize yourself with your body and become more comfortable with it before you're comfortable talking to others about it. Just take some time to take a look at yourself in a mirror, say the names of all your body parts out loud, then when you feel comfortable doing this maybe you could try talking to your mom about any problems or w/e, ask her what it was like when she went through puberty. Eventually you'll be more comfortable with your body and sexuality and learn to like it. I wasn't very comfortable with my body, but now I go nude much of the time, and I talk to people about sexuality on vt, and learning to accept their bodies and who they are.

[schrei jess]

I could never do that, never ever. I dont like to look at myself at all. See my problem?

[Elscire]

why? you look very attactive so why not?

[iluvlamp1414]

yea... you look like a pretty girl to me. :)

[schrei jess]

Well, thanks, but he said like look at myself naked (if I read that correctly), that I couldnt do.

[0=]

What don't you like about your body?

[schrei jess]

Everything, i cant think of one thing I like...

[0=]

I think that's sad, start by looking at your hands and feet, work your way to your face, try to see how pretty you are.

[rok.my.sox]

Everything, i cant think of one thing I like...
You should consider yourself lucky, some girls are fat and ugly, your the total opposite of both!! :D your not fat and your very pretty.

[DouggyO.o]

You should consider yourself lucky, some girls are fat and ugly, your the total opposite of both!! :D your not fat and your very pretty.


word to that lol, but seriously dont be ashamed of who you are

[~Ðarç~]

some girls would love to look like you :D (a bit late, but i saw your pic in your old sig)
you should be happy about what you look like

[kurlyopapa]

Am I too modest? I dont like talking about anything sexual, with like...anyone. When my mom tells me stuff about like her bras or whatever (she's always telling me they hurt because she wears DD!) and Im like, "Mom, please stop" and she says "You act like we arent the same gender!". Is it bad that I cant stand to talk about any of that with anyone? I hated having the sex talk with my mom, I always felt like I was too young, I had it in 5th grade and they had a class on it at school.

I dont like my mom talking about underwear and junk in front of my dad or anyone else, and I hate having to tell my dad Im on my period but he knows when I am and asks me if I am. I just hate having to deal with all that.

If I ever had like a sexual problem, Im not sure I could tell anyone, Id be too modest or scared. I dont think I could even tell a doctor, and Im absolutely scared to death of the day I have to see a gynocologist. I cant even imagine what they have to do, Ill be really uncomfortable. What do I do about all of this?!

i have the same feelings wen my mom talks 2 me about the same stuff. She told me about a gynecologists she says its nothin but i don't know . i hate it when i have to get a physical b/c the doctor always looks down there and i just don't like him touching me.

[Barelythere]

i have the same feelings wen my mom talks 2 me about the same stuff. She told me about a gynecologists she says its nothin but i don't know . i hate it when i have to get a physical b/c the doctor always looks down there and i just don't like him touching me.


the gynecologists arent that bad, just think of it this way, they see loads of girls down there everyday, they will not remeber yours, and if your unconfortable with a guy just ask for a female doctor or nurse, they wnt b affended they uderstand, its better to go threw feeling unconfortable for 10/15 mins that to get something worng with you and end up ill or infeertile!!!
hope that helps a lil cya hun xoxo

[smart0ne05]

you seem to be able to give everyone else advice maybe you should take some of your own im not meaning that mean either you seem to have the answer your just not sure yet if your right lol i hope LL WORKS OUT WELL