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reithedragonboy
October 2nd, 2009, 11:50 PM
Hello everybody. I have been feeling confused about who I am regarding my sexuality lately. I can' t tell whether I am straight or gay. I'm hoping that I can get some help on this problem. I have considered one way of figuring out, but that's...a bit extreme. It involves doing an experiment with someone. I think I'm falling along the gay category and want to experiment with a guy (not a guy stranger). Does anybody know of any other way to figure out who I am? if not, then can you give me some advice on how to approach a male friend and ask him such an awkward question? thanks!

hiker1992
October 3rd, 2009, 12:05 AM
Well if you're on this forum, it means that you're young. That's who you are. You're a hormonal teenager who's just up for experimenting. At this point, it doesn't make you gay, it just makes you a horny kid, haha. I don't know if I would force myself into experimenting, but if the time comes when you're with a like minded friend that you know you can trust, I can't see any harm in having a little fun, just to see what it's like. But DON'T do it if you feel in the slightest that it'll have a negative effect on your relationship with that person.

So to answer how you'd approach someone? Asking directly, probably not the best idea, but if somewhere down the road, circumstances work themselves out in that department in your favour, then take advantage of the situation.

reithedragonboy
October 3rd, 2009, 12:08 AM
thanks for that. by the way, I'm 17 and have been feeling like this since I was 15.

hiker1992
October 3rd, 2009, 12:11 AM
Yea, I definitely know what you mean. I had the same kind of ideas in my head, thinking that I needed to find this kind of thing out, and one night had that sort of experience with a friend and I really shouldn't have. Our relationship is really awkward now, and I kind of feel guilty for putting that sort of pressure on him. The way I see it, eventually, I'll have time to figure those sorts of things out later, and to dwell on them too much just frustrates me. I'm not even finished puberty yet, so I won't know exactly how I feel about guys until I've (for lack of a better phrase) grown up. So, no pressure!

alexpop
October 3rd, 2009, 12:12 AM
i feel the same way

kenshin8106
October 3rd, 2009, 01:35 PM
your horny, thats it lol at your age, your gunna have these thoughts, and wanna do shit, and wanna do this or that to anuda guy, its 100% normal, u cant really decide what you are till later, even if u cant get off on straight porn lol, it doesnt matter right now, ur dicks just attracted to the first thing it sees basically

greg95
October 4th, 2009, 07:36 AM
Hello everybody. I have been feeling confused about who I am regarding my sexuality lately. I can' t tell whether I am straight or gay. I'm hoping that I can get some help on this problem. I have considered one way of figuring out, but that's...a bit extreme. It involves doing an experiment with someone. I think I'm falling along the gay category and want to experiment with a guy (not a guy stranger). Does anybody know of any other way to figure out who I am? if not, then can you give me some advice on how to approach a male friend and ask him such an awkward question? thanks!
being gay or staight is only words. just see who u are attracted to, who would u like to go out with, spent time together like at the cinema, at the fun fair, at the beach or whatever

Aves
October 4th, 2009, 10:31 AM
This should be in Teen Sexuality, not P101

Triceratops
October 4th, 2009, 10:34 AM
:arrow: Moving to Teen Sexuality.

This should be in Teen Sexuality, not P101

Don't backseat mod.

Aves
October 4th, 2009, 10:36 AM
:arrow: Moving to Teen Sexuality.



Don't backseat mod.

Sorry :(

Also, you might be bi, not gay. I'm not an expert on this stuff, but your a teen, you have time to experiment, so do it.

Shenron
October 4th, 2009, 11:40 AM
Also, you might be bi, not gay. I'm not an expert on this stuff, but your a teen, you have time to experiment, so do it.

I couldn't agree more. I consider myself Bisexual, but I am more attracted to guys, than girls. I have been feeling like this for 3 years now, just accept it. Because you are young, it is possible that you are "just a horny kid" but, sexuality is not a choice, it's just who you are. Don't fret over it, it really isn't a big deal.

Hope I helped :) If you have any questions, feel free to pm me :)

appel123
October 4th, 2009, 11:59 AM
kiss the boy i u r turned on your gay or bi if not strait

Shenron
October 4th, 2009, 12:21 PM
kiss the boy i u r turned on your gay or bi if not strait

I'm sorry, buy I don't agree with this, just because you are turned on by kissing him doesn't mean you are gay/bi. Just like just because you are turned on by gay porn doesn't mean you are gay/bi. There are plenty of exclusively gay people that are turned on by straigh porn. This doesn't make them bi. If you actually have feelings for a guy, then you may be gay/bi. I know straight guys that have had sex, and still do occasionally, with other guys, because it feels good. A mouth is a mouth, and an ass is an ass. So trust your feelings, and take it from there, like I said before, don't fret over it, it's no big deal.