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thatguy7419
September 10th, 2009, 03:36 PM
ok, im 14 years old and i have a problem. recently ive been having a gay problem, i think i am but im not sure, i watch gay porn and i feel as thought im physcally attracted to men. i dont want to be gay, the church says that if im gay im giong to hell. i would just lie the rest of my life but i cant, when i watch naked girls, i dont get an erection, nothing happens. but then i wantch naked dudes, my dick gets so hard ot geos threw the roof. is there anyone else (14yr olds ) giong thre the samething i am or is there any2 older than me who once went threw the same thing?????

nicetomeetyou
September 10th, 2009, 04:18 PM
From i was about 14 until just after i turned 16 i went through exactly the same thing. One day i just realised i wasant gay. The whole way through the phase i knew i didnt want to be and then one day i just knew i wasant.

now i have no feelings for men. Im still curious about other men (things like penis size) but i only fancy women. My feelings for men just disappeared and i know im not gay.

However whatever your meant to be, you should be it. Dont try to hide it. live your life honestly and be true to who you are. Wether your gay or straight or bi, it doesent matter, just be true to yourself.

Theres nothing wrong with being gay!!

Hope i helped!!
:D:D:D:D:D

thatguy7419
September 10th, 2009, 04:23 PM
i accidentally posted the same thing twice

thatguy7419
September 10th, 2009, 04:24 PM
thanks, you really helped a lot, what about checking out other guys, did you?
what about the other kids at school what did you tell them??

guacamole24
September 10th, 2009, 04:27 PM
From i was about 14 until just after i turned 16 i went through exactly the same thing. One day i just realised i wasant gay. The whole way through the phase i knew i didnt want to be and then one day i just knew i wasant.

now i have no feelings for men. Im still curious about other men (things like penis size) but i only fancy women. My feelings for men just disappeared and i know im not gay.

However whatever your meant to be, you should be it. Dont try to hide it. live your life honestly and be true to who you are. Wether your gay or straight or bi, it doesent matter, just be true to yourself.

Theres nothing wrong with being gay!!

Hope i helped!!
:D:D:D:D:D

I completely agree with this post except for the fact that I don't think it's as much of a phase than your horomones acting.

I am almost 14, and I am deathly afraid that I am gay. I know it's really nothing to be scared of at all, and I have NO problem with homosexuality, but none of my friends understand.

I pray that what I am going through is hormones, but also truly believe it could be, because I think hormone-addled teens do some crazy stuff.

In closing, yes, there is a very strong possibility it may be a "phase".

nick
September 10th, 2009, 04:28 PM
However whatever your meant to be, you should be it. Dont try to hide it. live your life honestly and be true to who you are. Wether your gay or straight or bi, it doesent matter, just be true to yourself.
I agree with that.

Try to stay calm about things and not to worry. You cant change you're sexual orientation, but neither do you need to rush to a conclusion while things seem uncertain. Time will tell. You have absolutely no need to tell any school friends anything, its none of their business.

My understanding of the Christian religion is that God is a God of love, unconditional love for all people. Don't confuse your God with all too human religious fanatics.

Giles
September 10th, 2009, 04:30 PM
quite possibly gay, or maybe just a phase. We can't really tell you how you feel.

thatguy7419
September 10th, 2009, 04:33 PM
I completely agree with this post except for the fact that I don't think it's as much of a phase than your horomones acting.

I am almost 14, and I am deathly afraid that I am gay. I know it's really nothing to be scared of at all, and I have NO problem with homosexuality, but none of my friends understand.

I pray that what I am going through is hormones, but also truly believe it could be, because I think hormone-addled teens do some crazy stuff.

In closing, yes, there is a very strong possibility it may be a "phase".

well i have no problem with gay people either, but i think the resoning for that is that i think i am gay so natrually i wouldnt have a problme with myself, and for me its not only my friends, its my family, i come from the most sterialtypical ittalian family in all of brooklyn. i worry if they will disown me is i tell them.

i know im talking alot about myself but im just trying to let you know that your not the only person outhere with this problem

i was once watching a video on youtube about a gay kid whos parents kikked him out after he came out, im afriad the same might happen to me, as im sure you feel the same way

batherson
September 10th, 2009, 08:54 PM
1st of all.screw the church. they cant tell you how to live your life. 2nd. if your gay oh well. i have 2 bi friends and a gay one..(straight myself though). you will figure it out...and once again. you will not go to "hell"..thats just bull crap.

MichaelAdams1993
September 10th, 2009, 09:51 PM
Just remember if you are gay you have an physical AND emotional attraction to men. So if you are both aroused by guys (yes) AND you can see yourself being with or staying with a guy in a serious relationship that isn't just sex. Then you might be gay. If not then you are just a normal teen with raging hormones who's curiosity is getting the better of your preference.

hammertime3675309
September 10th, 2009, 11:42 PM
Don't allow religion to brainwash you with the hole "hell" thing. If I were you, I wouldn't make any drastic conclusion unless you start to love men in a non-sexual way. As for me, the only "gay attribute" I have (If it is considered gay) would be jacking off to Sonic sexual fanart. If that makes me bi, then so be it.

Zazu
September 11th, 2009, 01:10 PM
Moving from P101 > Teen Sexuality

Jagador
September 11th, 2009, 07:35 PM
well i have no problem with gay people either, but i think the resoning for that is that i think i am gay so natrually i wouldnt have a problme with myself, and for me its not only my friends, its my family, i come from the most sterialtypical ittalian family in all of brooklyn. i worry if they will disown me is i tell them.

i know im talking alot about myself but im just trying to let you know that your not the only person outhere with this problem

i was once watching a video on youtube about a gay kid whos parents kikked him out after he came out, im afriad the same might happen to me, as im sure you feel the same way

Heh.. i have that same problem. Thats why i don't ell anyone, but many people are finding out i am gay slowly. Everyone in my family except my dad knows that i'm gay (excluding relatives) So, yea.. other than being afraid of that, just be yourself. In my opinion, all religions that say you will go to hell if your gay is a load of crap. It may be a phase that your going through but it may not be. I will tell you this though. The more your parents ENFORCE YOU to like the opposite sex, the more you will do the opposite (This happens to most kids, especially me). I see it this way, if you can imagine yourself sleeping and making out with another guy, your gay. But if you can't, you straight. Or, if you can see yourself with both, your bi...=P

nick
September 11th, 2009, 07:37 PM
Everyone in my family except my dad knows that i'm gay (excluding relatives)
What? Explain that one again

The Joker
September 11th, 2009, 07:41 PM
Yeah, your family are relatives...

Jagador
September 11th, 2009, 07:43 PM
What? Explain that one again

Meaning everyone except my dad and relatives know.. i was too lazy to add the extra AND so i put in () attatched to the end excluding them from known my sexuality. -.-

And how do you define family? the nuclear family? or your immediate family.. You use the same word no matter how big you want to mention your family is

nick
September 11th, 2009, 07:51 PM
Well surely if you exclude your dad and your relative from family there's no one left?

Jagador
September 11th, 2009, 07:55 PM
Well surely if you exclude your dad and your relative from family there's no one left?

and do read my post better...Of course there is. Its called, my mom

Gtg... goin out to eat

nick
September 11th, 2009, 08:00 PM
Goodness knows I'm not anti gay, but I read your post perfectly well. The sentence I quoted just doesnt make sense. Are you now saying that "everyone in my family..." actually means one person, your mum?

diamond jetstream
September 12th, 2009, 11:39 PM
if it turns out that your gay or bi then its fine there is nothing to be ashamed of.there are many of us, all for one and one for all.

owenza
September 15th, 2009, 12:47 PM
I completely agree with this post except for the fact that I don't think it's as much of a phase than your hormones acting.

I am almost 14, and I am deathly afraid that I am gay. I know it's really nothing to be scared of at all, and I have NO problem with homosexuality, but none of my friends understand.

I pray that what I am going through is hormones, but also truly believe it could be, because I think hormone-addled teens do some crazy stuff.

In closing, yes, there is a very strong possibility it may be a "phase".

I have this problem. I'm almost sure I'm gay, but I would hate to have to tell people that i am, especially as many of my friends are homophobic.

Johnny_John
April 5th, 2010, 02:50 PM
i turn 15 tomorrow, but i am going through the same thing

You're not alone.

Aspiringanonymous
April 5th, 2010, 03:06 PM
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