Bullies

[Callwaiting]

I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in thinking this but..

Does anyone else feel that ignoring bullies doesn't work? All these strategies that the school/parents give you are IMHO completely bullshit.
It still really hurts when someone says something mean to me, and no matter how many times I ignore it, it just continues, and all anyone has to offer is "just ignore it. If you don't react they'll just stop". In my experience it just makes the bullies go to greater lengths to hurt you.

Nothing would make me happier than taking a brick to one of these idiots' heads, as violence and nastiness seem to be the only language they understand. It's really gotten to a point where I can't stand it anymore, I don't see how they can get fun out of hurting someone and making them feel upset and alone.

It's really depressing that for me a good day is one in which I don't get laughed at, teased or have stuff thrown at me.

[BlackenedSilver]

I agree.. The whole ignoring bullies never works at all, I used to do it alot and it just made them get worse.
But after a while my mum started saying just whack 'em one and they will back off. But only do it in self defense. So maybe that will work, I nevertried it because I cant hit, bit I think you should, but only in self defense. So you can do the whole innocent "He hit me first" Thing XD.
Hope this helps.

[NightHawksr71]

I had problems with a bully for several years, and yes its true ignoring them doesn't work, I tried pretty much all the methods they said, ignore them, make their comments a parody of what they said while not being to harsh. Violence was what stopped the bully for me. So yea everything the teachers said would help doesn't.

I should probably mention that he hit me first. And I just defended myself

[Hyper]

Yes the ignore it is bull crap and they indeed do only understand violence as a language..

If you hit them hard enough they stop, I know that from personal experience... But bullies are different some problably like to be hit

[Avalikia]

If you don't want to fight, my sister had great success fending off a bully by gathering a posse - she has enough friends and friends-of-friends that there were at least two people who were going about the same direction between classes anyway, and she arranged with them to walk with her. And she sat with them during lunch, and she started carpooling with a couple of them so she wasn't alone before and after school either. It got to the point where the bully simply couldn't find a time when she was an easy target.

Then again, I wouldn't fight either and I don't have a lot of friends so I used a combination of the "avoid like the plague" and the "complain to the school counselor until they recruit all your teachers to help" method. That made me obscenely unpopular (having your teachers defend you is not cool), but I was already so uncool that I didn't notice the difference.