am i bi ,gay or straight idk what i am anymore

[Something Corporate]

so i have been on alot of dates in my life (my mom doesent no about this btw) and alot have been with guys but then alot have been with girls
i have kissed girls before and guys what am i or am i just curious
help:confused:

[Yasmine]

if you enjoyed kissing both boys and girls, you are probably bisexual. because you went on a "date" with a girl before, and kissed one doesn't make you gay.

[Patchy]

Puberty for girls --> Teen Sexuality

[Something Corporate]

i can't possably tell anyone (even my mom) if im bi

[IAMSAM]

It's really no diff for girls than for boys: Puberty is overwhelming. At 14, you're just, well, 14. Don;t make any assumptions, wait and see, things will be clearer as you get older.

And, I'm not so sure about dating without your mom's permission, this sounds pretty risky, yes? Maybe if you didn't give yourself so much permission to do all these things you wouldn't be facing these questions in the first place? Maybe it would be better to play by the rules, and maybe just wait a while?

[Something Corporate]

it is not that im not allowed to date it is just when i go out with girls when i don't tell my mom

im just realy confused
what do i do

[IAMSAM]

Desi, I think you need to wait it out, sexuality is a complicated thing it takes a while to sort it out.

If it's confusing for you, at the very least, you might try to avoid physical/sexual things. When people do them, the accompanying rush often prevents us from sorting out, figuring out, our feelings and making decisions.

Enjoy your friends of both genders without doing anything sexual.

[Something Corporate]

a little late for that

[IAMSAM]

No, it's not. Just recognize that what you're doing is causing problems and stop doing it! Whatever happened that caused the confusion will remain, but with time, will become clearer. At least there will not be any add'l stimulation which overwhelms and further confuses you.

[Something Corporate]

u don't get it i have done sexual things with them

[IAMSAM]

I do get it, Desi. I don;t think you're either understanding me, or willing to accept what I've said here.

You might need to stop the sexual behaviors for a while in order to let things settle down enough for you to figure these things out.

[Something Corporate]

well then what about my bf

[Hales]

you dont have to get sexual with ur bf in order to show you like him /:l

[Fezzie]

Also, you need to get to know yourself better. I would say you are confused. Stay away from sexual relationships for awhile. Just become friends with people.

[Zan0ra]

Well. Your 14. You have been on a date with both boys and girls. You have kissed both boys and girls. You may have gotten a bit sexual with a few. But all of this is self explanatory. Your in puberty. If you truly like both genders then dont let that stop you from coming out, just be yourself and you will know what you are.

[jae13]

i really need help. its a situation that had me on edge lately. see i like girls, i go out with them n im sexually active with them. but i also want to hav sex with guys, i always fantasize about it n ive already had oral sex with them, i only find them attractive sexually n i will never go out with them. im not looking 4 relationships with men, im jus lookin 4 pleasure. does this mean anything? n im not experimenting anymore, ive been done wit dat. i just dnt kno wut kind of person ive become.

[Dizco P1nK Lemonade]

Jae I said it before man make a thread! our just curious!

[Something Corporate]

i would like to say thanks guys for all the help and everything i still have not figured out what i am yet but i got an idea i just wanted to say thanx

[scott327]

don't worry about putting a label on yourself, just relax, play safe and have fun

[iceyfresh]

i agree with scott327 there just labels you are what your heart tells you :)