Gumleaf
June 17th, 2008, 10:59 PM
How to Fix a Broken Friendship
Friendships are built on trust. Many a confidence is shared between two 'good' friends, and once that confidence has been violated, then expect the friendship to be broken. It is difficult, and at times impossible to restore a friendship, and most of the time, it will never be the same.
Steps to try and solve your problems: Say you are sorry but you should mean it, the person will be able to tell if you're being sincere or not. It's the best word to use, to explain your feelings. Explain how much you value and miss their friendship, and that you would like to speak to them in person. Mention simply what had occurred, and how you wish you could turn back that moment in time. Speak quietly, sincerely, and allow them to feel the pain that you feel, and the loneliness you have endured since the break up of the friendship. Even under the worst of circumstances an honest face to face conversation may be all that is needed to reestablish a bond. Show him/her that you are sorry. You made a mistake (probably a big one). Show that you did not want to hurt him/her, because he/she was (or most preferably is) your friend, and friends do not want to hurt friends.
Some more Tips: When you meet, hug, and say 'I am sorry'. Be honest, and apologize for your thoughtlessness. Tell them how much your friendship meant, and that you hope you can get it back. Be a good listener, once they have finished what they have said completely, respond and give your thoughts. It's okay to cry and show emotion, it shows you care.
Some Warnings: Make sure you're not still angry at this person. Make sure that you will not explode when they say something that might get you mad. Do not leave repeated messages on their machines/phones. Leave two or three, but not a hundred. That will make them think that you are too clingy and they won't want to be around you.
Friendships are built on trust. Many a confidence is shared between two 'good' friends, and once that confidence has been violated, then expect the friendship to be broken. It is difficult, and at times impossible to restore a friendship, and most of the time, it will never be the same.
Steps to try and solve your problems: Say you are sorry but you should mean it, the person will be able to tell if you're being sincere or not. It's the best word to use, to explain your feelings. Explain how much you value and miss their friendship, and that you would like to speak to them in person. Mention simply what had occurred, and how you wish you could turn back that moment in time. Speak quietly, sincerely, and allow them to feel the pain that you feel, and the loneliness you have endured since the break up of the friendship. Even under the worst of circumstances an honest face to face conversation may be all that is needed to reestablish a bond. Show him/her that you are sorry. You made a mistake (probably a big one). Show that you did not want to hurt him/her, because he/she was (or most preferably is) your friend, and friends do not want to hurt friends.
Some more Tips: When you meet, hug, and say 'I am sorry'. Be honest, and apologize for your thoughtlessness. Tell them how much your friendship meant, and that you hope you can get it back. Be a good listener, once they have finished what they have said completely, respond and give your thoughts. It's okay to cry and show emotion, it shows you care.
Some Warnings: Make sure you're not still angry at this person. Make sure that you will not explode when they say something that might get you mad. Do not leave repeated messages on their machines/phones. Leave two or three, but not a hundred. That will make them think that you are too clingy and they won't want to be around you.