Losing Virginity?

[Axellance]

Please check all that you think apply and post your thoughts.
thank you!

I personally beleve that only anal and vaginal cause you to loose your verginity.

[Shattered]

I said anal and vag because it is the main sexual intercourse of either gay or straight people

[Dolphus Raymond]

Anal or vaginal, I guess.

But, seriously, why's it matter what is and isn't virginity?

Virginity is "purity." I know some really impure people who haven't gone all the way. I've known some who haven't gone anywhere.

I guess having anal/vaginal sex requires more trust, so that means something. But identifying yourself as a "virgin" if you've blown a bunch of guys, or been blown a lot, seems pointless to me.

Just my opinion though :P

[Axellance]

thats a goood point yeah i think that if u do oral often and call tourself a virgin u are practically a liar. :)

[TheFirthofFifth]

Shouldn't this be in General Puberty?

[Maverick]

No, its a debate topic.

[Shattered]

Welcome to Ramblings of the Wise!

This is a forum to debate and discuss some controversial topics! Politics, ethics, and science can be tested here.

Yes, this is a debate. Debating is a structured fight. You are fighing with facts, not insults. There is a fine line between and all-out fight and a debate. If this line is crossed, warnings or infractions will be issued.
Looks like a debate, but also puberty... Maybe we should make a new forums- Rambling of the Puberty Wise :)

[Axellance]

it belongs here i sent a pm to a global mod and he said to put it here :)

[Zephyr]

Depends.
There's some room for arguing with my logic, but this is what I think:

Anal if you're a gay or bi male.

Vaginal if you're a female or a straight male.

[chay_c92]

Probably most likely to be vaginal.

[Gumleaf]

my personal opinion is that both anal and vaginal sex is losing your virginity. otherwise, nope!

[0=]

Virginity is such a strange concept. Your purity relies more on mental state, although if you have STDs that's not very pure.

[thePianoMan]

I chose anal and vaginal, because I don't see oral as losing it. And definitly not mutual masturbation.

[Underground_Network]

Anal and vaginal. You lose your innocence through the other two, but you don't lose your virginity. In all truthfulness it should just be vaginal, but anal exists, and it just seems that it is commonly seen as a way to lose one's virginity.

[MoveAlong]

I'm not really sure what to put

I don't count masturbation in any form so that's out, but here's how I look at it:
Oral sex, vaginal sex, and anal sex are all sex. You can get STDs/STIs from every one of them. So yeah, I think they're all sex.

But how do you really define virginity? When you look at it, it's not really all "one" like virginity. You can do anal and you haven't done vaginal yet...or tried oral but never anal...or other combinations like that...
Really I don't see it as one big thing (virginity). It's more like "yes, I've had oral sex before, but I haven't done anal yet", you know? You've tried some of them but not the others. I don't really see how "virginity" defines anything.

If I look at it a different way, I can say that vaginal and anal are all sex and they all make you loose a lot of your innocence, not like masturbation...
So really if you define sex as loosing your sexual innocense, I would personally say vaginal or anal.
But I wouldn't use the phrase "I'm not a virgin", I would say "I've tried vaginal but not anal", or something like that, so it's a lot more specific.


If you want to dig even deeper, some couples never try vaginal or anal (gay and straight alike) and they perfer masturbation and/or oral sex. Could you say that they're not virgins even though they share in a loving act that allows them to explore each other's bodies and embrace and kiss??...

I'm not voting :P

[japanman]

Only if you let a person enter you or if you enter the person then you both lost your virginity. Both anal and vaginal.

[Axellance]

wouldnt oral be "entering" a mouth or leting a person "enter" it? Do you concider this loosing your verginity?

[japanman]

nope i think oral or forplay doesnt affect virgenity.

[[crazy]girl]

Shouldn't this be in General Puberty?

haha i do agree with that, but the moderators say otherwise, so i'll drop that one


anyways..any type..its all sex...and no i havent done it with anybody thanks xD:D i'mma good girl(meaning: i haven't had a date yet lol)

[Axellance]

if i was asking weather or not i lost my verginity it probably would go there. However, i am simpy trying to spark a debait.

ps: in the future dont bring things like this up when they have been dropped and answered by a mod

[[crazy]girl]

whatever...just a rnadom comment xD don't get all touchy..oh wait, when i'm in a debate, it's always touchy lol

anyways, my logic is, if you can get an std from it, it's sex :P

[Skyer]

Yoda... Is that wale doin somthing to the ocean???

I say Anal and Vig..

[alicia]

I say vaginal...
If someone were to tell me they lost their virginity the first thing that would come to my mind is v. sex.

[Uranus]

I think that Oral, Vaginal, and Anal causes the loss of virginity.

[Lithium]

Honestly, I think there's a difference between being a virgin and having had sex for the first time.

It's a big stretch to call yourself a virgin (virgin meaning pure) if you've used your mouth and your fingers multiple times, or let someone else use their mouth or their fingers on you multiple times.

Besides the point, lesbians mainly rely on fingers and mouths.
See my point?

As far as bisexuals and gays go, I think that once you've had anal sex, your virginity is gone.
As far as heterosexuals are concerned, it's still a stretch to call yourself a virgin if you've done everything but have vaginal sex multiple times, but that the main idea for losing your virginity is having vaginal sex.

Simply put: I don't agree with the mainstream idea of being a virgin.

[Camazotz]

I also put vaginal and anal. I dont see oral or mutual masturbation as losing your virginity.

[tempest_oso06]

thats a goood point yeah i think that if u do oral often and call tourself a virgin u are practically a liar. :)

wouldn't that make you a half virgin lol

[GRB123]

I lost my virginity to another man as well as took a different man. both anal