A little unsure about a girl.

[falkflyer]

So I'm posting here for what (I believe) is the first time. There's this girl on robotics that goes to the other high school in my district (same team). Anyways, I (think) I really like her, and she seems to like me. But my friend has a (rather obvious) crush on her as well, and I can't tell who she seems more interested in. He usually follows her around, trying to talk to her a lot, while she tends to track me down more often than him (from my perspective, at least; I could be, as they say, "blinded by love" ). Now, I know for a fact that she knows he likes her, but I don't know if she's noticed how I feel.

Oh, one thing that leads me (if only slightly) to believe that she may not have feelings for him is that she always took his hat, but then she got her own and when my friend expected her to still take his just to annoy him (aka flirt), she never did again, and said that she just wanted to wear a hat.

I dunno. I'm not even sure yet if I really like this girl enough to ask her out, not to mention that we're not the only two guys going after her. If anybody has anything to say, be it advise or otherwise, I just thought I'd share my view of it and see what other people think. I tend to do that a lot on this forum, don't I...

[myskias]

well if ur friend is alright with it, why not just ask her out. theres not much harm that could happen if your friend is ok with it

[thePianoMan]

Yeah just ask her out. The worst thing that could happen is that she says no.

[falkflyer]

Yeah, yeah, that's the generic response. I'm definitely nervous about asking her out, and I'd have to do it over the phone I guess...Well if anybody has any insight as to whether or not they think she likes me, or questions about certain things, etc., just lemme know, I'm still trying to figure this whole thing out.

[thePianoMan]

I know. Another pretty generic response: if she does like you, she'll like you even more if you get the courage up to ask her out. Everyone is nervous about asking someone out, but you've got to overcome that.

Is there any indication that she does like you? I mean like a clear indication? I think she probably does like you, and it kind of sounds like she thinks your friend is a little umm...annoying? idk

I still think you should just go for it and ask her out.

[falkflyer]

I guess that's the response I was looking for. I've got some time to think about it, as shes college visiting this week, and I'm doing the same, so...

Thanks peeps.

[Echelon]

Hey,
Well first off, I would say that if you do ask her out, make sure that its not going to put tension on your relationship with your friend (this is the exact same problem I'm having at the moment). If you feel that he'll be okay with it, then try asking her out. I must say that I don't think that asking her out over the phone is a good idea. I can say from experience that asking a girl out over the phone/msn/text etc. is a bad idea. And I'm telling you that from the perspective of the person being asked and the one asking. Being nervous is really just a mindset. Its a state of mind which you can overcome. You want to find her at a convenient time, when she's alone if at all possible. Dont think about what your going to say or what your doing or you will hesitate. Just say it.

[myskias]

just be outgoing and dont worry about what others think about you. all you need to do it just say it. dont feel nervous be in the mood where you kinda dont care what people think and you just want to do it. its no big deal, but once again make sure ur friend is okay with it. dont worry about being nervous just dont think about it just do it.

[Close102]

just do what feels right. if you are on college visitdd then u must be like a junior so next year will be hectic to everyone and she probably wont want a serious relationship for less than a year. so u got a few months to decide what to do.

[Xxa415bxX]

Just ask her out theres nothing to lose.