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Funkychicken219
September 3rd, 2015, 03:07 PM
I would like some advice on a problem I've been having for quite a while now. Ever since I've started school, I have been nervous about talking to new people, making friends and just socialising in general. I find it hard and intimidating to talk to people 1 on 1 unless there is an established friendship there. I always feel self conscious, panicky and emmbarrassed when in social situations and I never have enough confidence to talk to girls. I had put all this down to just underconfidence but lately I've started to feel like it's something more.

I've heard the term social anxiety tossed around and would love some advice from people who know more about the subject or just know a way to help

Thanks

eric2001
September 3rd, 2015, 03:27 PM
Try joining some things like school clubs. I'm little shy sometimes too and its a good way to meet peope and make friends.

Abhorrence
September 4th, 2015, 03:06 AM
Everybody gets nervous around new people and new situations. It's a natural part of life. Anxiety is something a lot worse. You don't just feel nervous, you feel sick to your stomach. It can honestly even make you want to go to the toilet, if you know what I'm saying. It's a mental disorder but it really does have physical effects. I honestly think that you just sound like you're a little shy and uncomfortable and you just need to go for it when talking to people. Most people feel the same way. I think the word anxiety is tossed around too much these days that every person who uses the Internet has it when it's far from the truth. If you genuinely think you may have a form of anxiety then go to a doctor and get professionally diagnosed. We cannot diagnose you on here.
Overall, my suggestion to you is just go for talking to people. Be yourself. If you get rejected then pick yourself back up. Once you realise that the worst that can happen is someone doesn't talk to you, you'll realise that it's not that bad. But once again, if you genuinely believe you have a problem, consult a doctor.

Funkychicken219
September 4th, 2015, 09:51 AM
Thanks for the advice,
If that is what anxiety entails then I do not have anxiety. But I still am lost for words when it comes to socialising and find it hard to talk to people in general to the point where even my siblings intimidate me without meaning to. I feel constantly down and lonely because of it. Do you have any general advice for this and how to be confident around girls? Or is that for a different forum?

Abhorrence
September 4th, 2015, 10:21 AM
Thanks for the advice,
If that is what anxiety entails then I do not have anxiety. But I still am lost for words when it comes to socialising and find it hard to talk to people in general to the point where even my siblings intimidate me without meaning to. I feel constantly down and lonely because of it. Do you have any general advice for this and how to be confident around girls? Or is that for a different forum?

If your feelings and thoughts around people and in general are becoming a hindrance to your daily life then you should seek a doctor out because there's no quick fix to it all. The confidence around girls thing is generally common in teenagers, that's more a self-esteem issue.

Funkychicken219
September 4th, 2015, 12:32 PM
Cool thanks for the advice

jennyem
September 5th, 2015, 08:38 AM
It's definitely social anxiety...remember in the back of your mind that you have nothing to fear and everyone has anxiety problems from time to time. You need to stop fearing that you'll embarrass yourself....think about it, even if you do...who cares? whats the worst that could happen. You'll feel better for trying to get out of your bubble than you would if you did nothing and stayed in your shell

Funkychicken219
September 7th, 2015, 11:48 AM
It's definitely social anxiety...remember in the back of your mind that you have nothing to fear and everyone has anxiety problems from time to time. You need to stop fearing that you'll embarrass yourself....think about it, even if you do...who cares? whats the worst that could happen. You'll feel better for trying to get out of your bubble than you would if you did nothing and stayed in your shell thanks. ill try :)