View Full Version : Boyfriend Knows About My Cousin...

March 16th, 2015, 08:52 PM
I told my boyfriend today how my cousin played with me when I was young (four-five years old) and then how just a few months ago he got drunk and raped me. He keeps saying he'll do something about it, but my cousin can't find out that I told anyone. My cousin has threatened me and we both agreed to leave it in the past behind us. I just don't know what to do about my boyfriend now... I'm scared of what's going to happen. My boyfriend has said he isn't going to leave me and that he wants to help, but he keeps saying he'll get my cousin for this. What do I do?

March 17th, 2015, 03:13 AM
Do you really want to live under the fear of your cousin for the rest of your life? Rape is bad enough but then he's threatening you? You need to tell someone about this.

March 17th, 2015, 08:27 AM
Have you talked to anybody else? Your parents or the police? That would be the best IMO.
Your cousin is a f***ing rapist. He deserves to go to jail at least.

March 17th, 2015, 04:40 PM
Do you really want to live under the fear of your cousin for the rest of your life? Rape is bad enough but then he's threatening you? You need to tell someone about this.

You NEED to let someone know. What if he does this to someone else, and they feel the same way? You cannot let him get away with this.

March 17th, 2015, 04:48 PM
Rape is a terrible, terrible thing. It's natural to not want to talk about it and keep it to yourself because of how horrible of a thing it is, but the truth is that it's best to tell people so you can get help.

March 17th, 2015, 06:22 PM
If it's worrying you and you've asked us for advice on what to do, the answer has already been uncovered. You need to tell someone because it's not something you can just throw away and ignore because you are living in fear of it. Tell someone, because if action is put through, your cousin won't be allowed to do stuff like that, keeping it off your shoulders. Just don't put it off anymore, act now.

March 17th, 2015, 07:08 PM
You should definitely tell someone immediately. Police, parents, someone. You can't live under him like this anymore. Tell someone, that way you can move on without having to be afraid of him again. Rape isn't something to be ignored.

March 17th, 2015, 07:15 PM
You definitely need to inform someone about this as soon as you can. Talking to your boyfriend about it was one step closer to getting where things need to be. Do not let your cousin get away with this. When dealing with law enforcement, I think you should make it clear that he's threatening you.

March 17th, 2015, 09:29 PM
your cousin needs to be reported asap. if I was your boyfriend I would want to do something about it too so I don't blame him

March 17th, 2015, 11:09 PM
Report him and seek protection/shelter until his prosecution. Rape is one of the worst things that could be done to someone. You need to do something. No one deserves to live under the fear and control of their rapist. PLEASE TELL THE POLICE PLEASE.

Im sorry this happened to you. Just realize you never have to go through anything alone.

message me if you need to talk

Respectfully and sincerely,

That's the Spirit
March 18th, 2015, 03:27 PM
Ofc tell someone but can it even be proved X years later?

Stronk Serb
March 21st, 2015, 04:36 AM
Me being a rash guy sometimes, I would probably go and beat the life out of your cousin. It's good he won't do that because that could cause more problems. Your boyfriend is trying to help you. Contact the authorities and get that fucker behind bars. Jails were made for his kind.

March 31st, 2015, 04:18 AM
You should tell someone in case your cousin tries to rape you again. Tell someone you trust and know will solve the problem immediately.

March 31st, 2015, 04:40 AM
Once a rapist, always a rapist. It may be a tough experience for you going to the police as they will want to bring up all those horrible memories, but by doing that could prevent him from attacking somebody else. He's a danger to society