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iadorepie
December 29th, 2014, 05:25 PM
Like, if a person was emotionall and/or physically abused as a child, could it lead to them learning to like it, maybe as a coping mechanism of some sort? I've had some abuse happen since I was around 8 (I'm 14 now). Now I seem to like anger. Under certain circumstances I still don't, like if it's directed at me by something unintentional. But sometimes I still do even then, and I'll try to get friends angry at me and stuff like that. I enjoy watching people in movies/shows get angry, I sometimes try to get friends/siblings mad at me, stuff like that.

lilg
December 29th, 2014, 08:14 PM
Short answer yes it can

CosmicNoodle
December 29th, 2014, 08:18 PM
Yes, it can. I was heavily bullied in high school and had a horrible home life, I'm not going to go on about it because I don't like talking about it, BUT, these days I'm both a Sadist and a Masochist, I love inflicting and feeling pain, as far asI can tell, it's from the bad years I went though,

So short answer, yes, you can learn to love it, I did, and now I'm addicted to the pain.

Jaseblader
December 30th, 2014, 12:30 AM
Yes it can or at least in my opinion

fairmaiden
December 30th, 2014, 11:16 AM
I was subject to a substantial amount of verbal abuse by teachers and children while I grew up, and I think that I am now more unaffected by abuse thrown at me. However, I do not and hopefully never will like inflicting pain towards others, nor myself. I don't like getting angry at people either, and I don't like people getting angry at me. But I do think that it's possible for others to like anger though.

SethfromMI
December 30th, 2014, 02:36 PM
it can. I think there is a psychological term for it, but I am not exactly sure what it is. but for sure. sometimes, people begin to think the abuse is what normal is and therefore they have learned to accept it as a part of their life

Dalcourt
December 30th, 2014, 11:00 PM
Well, I guess it is possible. I can't say that I feel like that myself but I'm sure that there are a lot of people who do.

Convoluted one
December 31st, 2014, 07:45 AM
yes it is possible and it just add confusion to the whole situation

JoeDangit
December 31st, 2014, 01:15 PM
eh...

Yes it probably could.

Stockholm syndrome.

Yeah, that's probably it. ^

healthcare247
January 2nd, 2015, 05:32 AM
Yes, abuse lead to attraction to anger due to unexpected things happen at around you. you must concentrate on your study and some physical behavior.

twirlgurl
January 2nd, 2015, 10:39 AM
Okay so i thought baout this. I think its about the effects of anger more then anything. when were angry, people tend to listen more. Like if my mom and i are mad at each other, it always ends up with us both yelling at each other and we get louder and louder and more angry because we want to have our feelings heard. So that means lack of control makes us angry. so maybe its not that abuse makes us angry, but makes us more controlling. And when we arent in control, we get angry?? Just a thought.

And...sorry that you were abused and hope things are getting better. Abuse of kids makes ME angry! thats for sure.

Meh Guy
January 3rd, 2015, 10:02 PM
Like, if a person was emotionall and/or physically abused as a child, could it lead to them learning to like it, maybe as a coping mechanism of some sort? I've had some abuse happen since I was around 8 (I'm 14 now). Now I seem to like anger. Under certain circumstances I still don't, like if it's directed at me by something unintentional. But sometimes I still do even then, and I'll try to get friends angry at me and stuff like that. I enjoy watching people in movies/shows get angry, I sometimes try to get friends/siblings mad at me, stuff like that.

Yes, it very well can. There have been links to multiple disorders and mental syndromes linked to things such as this. There have been studies that some, not all people who like BDSM, may have been abused. Abuse can also lead to PTSD, which has a number of side effects. If you find this to be bothering you, you might be able to see a specialist who can help you.