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Broken.Girl
October 6th, 2014, 06:20 PM
Hey guys,

I don't normally do things like this but I found this site a week ago and wanted to share my story with you, I only now have the courage to share it.

Between the ages of 13 and 14 I was emotionally and sexually abused by a guy who was 21. At the time I was emotionally vulnerable as my parents had just split up and I was looking for someone to give me affection. I felt nobody cared about me and nobody listened to me. The only person who listened to me was Joseph, I had met Joseph at my grandparents wedding anniversary of all places and we got talking, he was 20 and I was 13, I was upfront about my age but I liked him. He seemed to care about me, he listened to me. At the end of the day we swapped numbers and we texted a lot. Soon he turned the conversation sexual with me. I guess at the time I just wanted to make him happy so I agreed to send him explicit messages and eventually explicit photos. From there he started suggesting we actually do sexual things. I was uncomfortable but again, he cared about me so I had a duty to do as I was told. At the time I thought nobody else would care about me so I agreed to meet up at his place and have sex. At first he was caring and he asked if it was OK and all that. It didn't stop there though, after the first time he wanted to meet up again and again. When I tried to make excuses he would pressure me to set a date. Whenever we would meet up he would only be interested in sex, we never did proper date things (even though I considered him my boyfriend and he called himself that to me). I realise now he took advantage of me at my most vulnerable. It only stopped when my mum got suspicious and started asking questions. He told me if I told what happened he would hurt me and I never heard from him again.

There I told my story, that feels better now :)

CosmicNoodle
October 6th, 2014, 07:00 PM
Sorry you had to go through that, definately better thats he's out of your life, he definately took advantage of you.
Thanks for sharing your story, takes brsvey to do that.

James Dean
October 7th, 2014, 04:49 AM
It is brave for you to share this with us. I'm sorry about that you were taken advantage of, and you didn't know the whole situation. We should use these experiences as learning tools to overcome issues. You were tricked by someone who you thought you could trust, then it turned into someone who was using you. Now that you have the courage to move forward from this, there shouldn't be anything stopping you.

Use this to advocate other young girls or take up writing or art to express yourself. New and positive experiences should come to you to erase all the bad ones. Be careful and I wish you nothing but the best for your future. :)

Buddy 912
October 7th, 2014, 05:26 AM
Broken Girl, one of my sisters went through a similar experience. After telling her story, she said she felt better. She is a few years younger than me and has told me her story several times in great detail. She has moved on with her life and is doing great. Hope the same for you.

Broken.Girl
October 7th, 2014, 12:30 PM
Thanks for all the kind words guys means a lot :) x

Horatio Nelson
October 7th, 2014, 12:40 PM
I'm sorry you were treated that way, people like that don't really care about you. Make sure you tell somebody, last thing you want is him coming back and actually hurting you. Be careful.

RazorTourniquet
October 7th, 2014, 12:43 PM
Don't worry you precious creature. You are brave and strong. Don't worry, he won't hurt you. Guys like that are cowards. Anyways, if you are afraid you're in danger, you need to tell someone. Your parent(s) should probably know. But if you are not ready and you feel relatevly safe... keep sharing with us ^^

Uranus
October 11th, 2014, 09:52 AM
I suggest you speak to your mother about this. You won't be in any trouble. He might've said he'd hurt you but as long as you're with your parents he cant hurt you. Even if he stopped it doesn't mean he's not doing that to other girls. You need to stop him and tell your parents. Or even your grandparents. Good luck. I hope everything goes well for you

Seafood
October 11th, 2014, 06:47 PM
Just telling your story shows that you are an extremely strong and caring person.

I'd offer you to PM me but you don't have 100 posts yet. :(

Anyway, keep being strong and seriously don't give up. x

Karkat
October 12th, 2014, 03:01 AM
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. :(

I have to agree that telling your mom might be the best course of action. Stop contacting this man, and avoid places he knows you go, especially alone.

I wish you the best of luck. Remember you're always welcome to talk to us if you need help. :hug:

Laraa.01
October 13th, 2014, 04:18 PM
So sorry you had this situation happen. I would probably have fallen for the same trap myself so I'll know to be careful about older boys suddenly taking an interest in me.

ThePhantasm
November 5th, 2014, 06:37 PM
That's so terrible...some people in this world are so horrid

CrazyPerson101
November 6th, 2014, 08:05 PM
Hey guys,

I don't normally do things like this but I found this site a week ago and wanted to share my story with you, I only now have the courage to share it.

Between the ages of 13 and 14 I was emotionally and sexually abused by a guy who was 21. At the time I was emotionally vulnerable as my parents had just split up and I was looking for someone to give me affection. I felt nobody cared about me and nobody listened to me. The only person who listened to me was Joseph, I had met Joseph at my grandparents wedding anniversary of all places and we got talking, he was 20 and I was 13, I was upfront about my age but I liked him. He seemed to care about me, he listened to me. At the end of the day we swapped numbers and we texted a lot. Soon he turned the conversation sexual with me. I guess at the time I just wanted to make him happy so I agreed to send him explicit messages and eventually explicit photos. From there he started suggesting we actually do sexual things. I was uncomfortable but again, he cared about me so I had a duty to do as I was told. At the time I thought nobody else would care about me so I agreed to meet up at his place and have sex. At first he was caring and he asked if it was OK and all that. It didn't stop there though, after the first time he wanted to meet up again and again. When I tried to make excuses he would pressure me to set a date. Whenever we would meet up he would only be interested in sex, we never did proper date things (even though I considered him my boyfriend and he called himself that to me). I realise now he took advantage of me at my most vulnerable. It only stopped when my mum got suspicious and started asking questions. He told me if I told what happened he would hurt me and I never heard from him again.

There I told my story, that feels better now :)

I'm sorry that happened to you, It really sucks he took your vulnerability for granted like that :( I was sexually abused by my best friends older bro so I know how you feel. It's good you've finally let it out, It feels nice to let out things :) I'm glad that you're not going through that anymore. I hope you're okay though, being sexually abused does emotionally scar someone for life...

allisonmyers
December 28th, 2014, 06:08 PM
hope your ok now

VictoriaShadows
January 2nd, 2015, 09:36 PM
I admire you for sharing your story and I hope that you and your family are safe and happy

jssixna
January 5th, 2015, 09:44 PM
He was taking advantage of you. He was only interested in sex as you described. The nasty part was that you were just a teen and he was a fully developed adult! Anyways it's good you told this story. Hope everything is good with you

Meh Guy
January 6th, 2015, 05:55 PM
Yeah that's disgusting. Weird people out there for sure. Glad you shared that and thank goodness you're okay now :)

gads
January 6th, 2015, 06:13 PM
I strongly encourage you to tell your mother ASAP.

amybah
February 4th, 2015, 09:51 AM
I'm sorry to hear your story . I think terrible what Joseph did to you. You were very young and vulnerable and he clearly took up you. You should talk about it with a trusted adult . I hope everything goes well with you and if you need , get in touch with me