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thatgothgirluknow
July 29th, 2014, 09:37 PM
so I know allot of people masterbate but its still weird asking this but if u where raped did you stop masterbating after it happened I used to before I was raped but the feeling of the rape and that just scares me and im afraid to feel that again

vbpointer49
July 29th, 2014, 11:06 PM
I can't speak from personal experience (as i have none), but that's a perfectly normal feeling to have. After having gone through something so traumatic, you're allowed to take as much time as you want getting over it; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I'm sorry this had to happen to you, but just be thankful that youre alive and didnt get hurt.

deadpie
July 30th, 2014, 02:21 AM
No. For me it's really fucked up. Like most teenage guys growing up I'd do it a lot, but I'd feel extremely depressed or even sometimes CRY after jerking off. And it's still like that. Something that feels good turns into flashbacks and bad memories. Probably why I've become less and less sexual growing up, where as most people would seem to be more and more especially males my age.

Dalcourt
July 30th, 2014, 09:04 AM
I was very young when I was raped. I didn't know what it was all about back then as I was too young to really develop any sexual feelings. Maybe that's why it didn't affect my masturbating. I get flashbacks while having intercourse, though, dunno.

gothy
July 30th, 2014, 03:24 PM
It makes sense that masturbation would be triggering.

I dont have any personal experiencs. Id kill the person that raped you. (Im not sure if i can even legally say that..)

Gottaloveaginger14
July 30th, 2014, 05:43 PM
I stoped for a while and I still get flash backs sometimes during masturbating and almost always have nightmares if I masturbate before I fall asleep

Pulp501
July 30th, 2014, 05:56 PM
I can understand why you wouldn't. After being violated in that area, it might be traumatic to touch it again, and it could feel similar to the rape but the rape has taught you to hate that feeling

outsidersview
August 2nd, 2014, 12:46 PM
i got abused as a young child, and although till recently ive normally had a high sex drive ive never felt i wanted to and if i did occasionaly it felt wrong and dirty... im sorry youve been through such horrible things.. my advice to you is to not let it rule u.. if u want to go forward with getting justice and report it brill go for it, might help give u closure... on the other point even if u hadnt been raped u could just genuinley not find it interesting... not everyone does xx

jessie3
August 3rd, 2014, 02:06 AM
I masturbate for my own pleasure but I have done other sexual things like prostitute, wanting to get into the gay porn industry and such things because I feel like that's the only thing I'm good for but as for the triggers part, when other people touch me in the wrong areas I get scared and I just stand there hopeless because the flashbacks of the event is rushing through my head.

CharlieHorse
August 3rd, 2014, 04:13 AM
Id kill the person that raped you. (Im not sure if i can even legally say that..)

Who cares about the law when you're morally right

gothy
August 3rd, 2014, 10:30 PM
Who cares about the law when you're morally right

true. i just get paranoid now im 18.

gothy
August 3rd, 2014, 10:31 PM
but I have done other sexual things like prostitute, wanting to get into the gay porn industry.

15 is very underage.

jessie3
August 3rd, 2014, 11:55 PM
15 is very underage.

15 is very young but by having sex weather it be for money or not is one way I personally learned to relieve pain and stress.

coolkid016
August 4th, 2014, 12:02 AM
well, it may not be my place to comment in this discussion but.. sorry that these things happened to you guys (or girls)... but most if not all of you are still pushing foward and that is friggin awesome!! and as an JROTC cadet, i salute all of you

Svan
August 4th, 2014, 01:38 AM
I started being sexually abused when I was really young and about two years after the abuse started to happen (and it was still going on), I began to dissociate during the acts and after as well. I never wanted to touch myself, let alone look at myself naked. In a dissociative state I tried to cut it off with a knife from the kitchen but only got about halfway through. That was my first stay at a mental hospital.

thatgothgirluknow
August 4th, 2014, 05:20 PM
I started being sexually abused when I was really young and about two years after the abuse started to happen (and it was still going on), I began to dissociate during the acts and after as well. I never wanted to touch myself, let alone look at myself naked. In a dissociative state I tried to cut it off with a knife from the kitchen but only got about halfway through. That was my first stay at a mental hospital.
i can relate to the dissociating since i was physicaly abused from a young age srry u had to go through that hope u feel better

Pacaveli
October 14th, 2014, 07:33 AM
I have no experience, but I know many people who are sexually abused have this issue, and it's totally okay.

Emerald Dream
October 14th, 2014, 09:12 AM
Please do not post in threads with more than two months of inactivity. :locked: