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plebble
April 14th, 2014, 03:20 AM
I've got my exams soon, the most important exams of my life.
When I've finished all my exams I've got 3 months off until university. I don't really have any friends so these 3 months are going to be awful, I'm so lonely and anxious.
To top it all off, I've recently been contacting my ex gf again and I've accidentally fallen for her pretty hard.
My anxiety has stopped me eating, I've lost so much weight and I'm panicking.

DiamondsGirl
April 14th, 2014, 04:45 AM
First off I'm sorry you have to go through this.. But do know that you're never alone :) So let's try to be optimist here. If you don't really have anyone to hang out with, then why not utilize your holiday to make new friends? Join clubs, travel out of town or go someplace far away by yourself to meet new people. There are approx six billion people in this world. Surely at least ONE of them could get along well with you, right? :)

As for your ex, I do think it's wise to delete her number and take her off your friend list on every social media you're on. I wouldn't suggest this if it doesn't trigger anxiety on you, but alas it does. Moving on is definitely hard... but hey you've been through it once. What makes it impossible to go through it twice? :)

Good luck on your exams and stay strong x

laurakitty
April 14th, 2014, 04:56 AM
Hiya peble well i think the cause of ur loneliness which probably makes everything else worse like ur anxiety is u still love ur ex which I still do to like there always on my mind n memoroes of when we were together but u need to remeber to get over them if they don't care about u why should u care about them
And then theres a quote dat helps me : stop jumping oceans for people that wouldn't even jump puddles for you. As for the food thing I have am emotion dissoder but even that cant stop me munching u cpuld try making some food that u love. Also when I have anxiety by back hurts theres a meditating app called take a break sounds cringey but I swear it helps like you wpnt feel at all anxious after seven mins on that. Ily peble stay happy xxxx

plebble
April 14th, 2014, 05:23 AM
First off I'm sorry you have to go through this.. But do know that you're never alone :) So let's try to be optimist here. If you don't really have anyone to hang out with, then why not utilize your holiday to make new friends? Join clubs, travel out of town or go someplace far away by yourself to meet new people. There are approx six billion people in this world. Surely at least ONE of them could get along well with you, right? :)

As for your ex, I do think it's wise to delete her number and take her off your friend list on every social media you're on. I wouldn't suggest this if it doesn't trigger anxiety on you, but alas it does. Moving on is definitely hard... but hey you've been through it once. What makes it impossible to go through it twice? :)

Good luck on your exams and stay strong x

Firstly, it's over seven billion now :P
And secondly I would love to socialise, but from past experiences with people and banter and bullies and stuff my self confidence has been destroyed and I am very socially awkward. When I talk to someone, I try to 'keep it cool' because I am always worried that people are 'sick of me' or something even though that's probably not true at all. I don't know, it's just what happens to me naturally.
Also, I've never actually had a single sip of an alcoholic drink in my life (I know I'm so weird) and I never go out to begin with. I do have friends, I think, I just never talk to them outside of school nor do I really hang out with them.
About my ex... yeah I'm taking time to think about what I'm going to do, I think I'll be ok

Thanks for your help :)

DiamondsGirl
April 14th, 2014, 05:29 AM
Oh gosh we're THAT many?? D: I start to picture deers walking around with shotguns culling our population LOL

I have (mini) social anxiety as well :) I mean, I don't get to the point where I suffer from panic attacks... but I feel so uncomfortable and scared I wish there's a giant hole underneath that swallows me down. It's alright to keep it cool... at least the conversation happens. You take it from there :) plus, it is a huge plus point you know what you're fearing is not true. Some don't even know that their fear is not real. There's always a first time right? Like I said surely there'd be this one person amongst the entire human population that you get along with. But you won't find them if you never searched so... yeah :)

btw when I say "clubs" I mean "communities" LOL I did say "join clubs" :P

plebble
April 14th, 2014, 05:41 AM
Oh gosh we're THAT many?? D: I start to picture deers walking around with shotguns culling our population LOL

I have (mini) social anxiety as well :) I mean, I don't get to the point where I suffer from panic attacks... but I feel so uncomfortable and scared I wish there's a giant hole underneath that swallows me down. It's alright to keep it cool... at least the conversation happens. You take it from there :) plus, it is a huge plus point you know what you're fearing is not true. Some don't even know that their fear is not real. There's always a first time right? Like I said surely there'd be this one person amongst the entire human population that you get along with. But you won't find them if you never searched so... yeah :)

btw when I say "clubs" I mean "communities" LOL I did say "join clubs" :P

I don't get panic attacks exactly, I just panic a bit in my mind. Also, I do get on with absolutely everyone, but I fear what they think of me just in case they're pretending to be nice or pretending to like me or whatever. I never get asked to hang out or anything. I've searched the internet and made great friends, but not real life because there's fewer people and a lower chance in me finding friends.

DiamondsGirl
April 14th, 2014, 05:44 AM
:( too bad you don't live where I live. You sound like a cool guy.

plebble
April 14th, 2014, 06:21 AM
:( too bad you don't live where I live. You sound like a cool guy.

Yeah, you too :) :(

Body odah Man
April 14th, 2014, 02:30 PM
I've got my exams soon, the most important exams of my life.
When I've finished all my exams I've got 3 months off until university. I don't really have any friends so these 3 months are going to be awful, I'm so lonely and anxious.
To top it all off, I've recently been contacting my ex gf again and I've accidentally fallen for her pretty hard.
My anxiety has stopped me eating, I've lost so much weight and I'm panicking.

aww, that sux dude :(
Gl

DeadEyes
June 8th, 2014, 05:39 PM
I say, don't be lonely, be a loner.

Microcosm
June 8th, 2014, 09:58 PM
I like the optimism idea. Let's take that approach to this.

First of all, there are lots of other people that aren't social butterflies and have tons of friends. Just know that that is one reason this forum is here. If you want to talk to someone, go to the chat room and hang out. If you are feeling depressed or lonely, we have a place for that.

But I digress.

I know it must be really hard with your ex girlfriend. That will be extremely hard to get over. You might just have to give that time. I know that's cliche and you don't want to hear that answer, but that's just my two cents on that. I've had the same problem in the past and, as much as it hurt, I just gave it time and it got better on its own.

Also, as far as those exams are concerned, you really do need to focus on that. They sound really important and you should probably study and try to do your very best on those. That can also act as a way to get your mind off of things.

I hope I helped and I wish you the best! :)