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DanF2000
August 12th, 2017, 02:13 AM
Hey everyone! I'm a 17 (and a half) years old boy who, as of now, has never held hands with a girl, kissed someone, hugged a girl (or been in any sort of contact, other than sitting next to some on the school bus if all other spaces are full) and generally never had a girlfriend. Then I had a look at the Puberty forum and everyone seems to be in a relationship/doing sexual related things between 12 and 17... Is it normal/alright to have never done these (as well as I've never sweared, drunk alcohol or taken drugs apart from medicinal drugs for my diabetes) I guess some reasons may be that before last year, I generally didn't have any friends and didn't know what friends were, so I essentially missed out on my whole childhood ( :( ) It may also be due to having kinda severe Aspergers and Diabetes (Insipidus and Mellitus if anyone here wants to know) and weighing around 16 st. for more than 5 years (still trying to lose it...) Has anyone else not done these at 17 years old or older? I'll be going to a college starting next year with more than 1000 people aged 16-19 so I'm thinking I might find someone there...

EDIT: I just thought I'd say I did try and go out with a girl I know and have had a crush on ever since 4+ (age 4) but we've been friends since then. We were kinda forced to do the Waltz back in Year 5, and at Secondary school, in the Discos, we would dance to the last dance (final song, slow, etc.) So when we tried going out for a couple weeks, we essentially just spent the same time together as people in new friendships would (go around house and watch a movie with her and her brother once a week) and it all ended up as a failure... And then back in 2014, when I was severely ill, 2 months in hospital, recovering from near death, she and a friend came over and she'd sometimes give me a friendly peck on the cheek as a get well soon. So I kinda feel like she'll always be a good friend, but never a girlfriend (possibly due to "friendzoning" her, not sure what that means though) but I would kinda feel guilty if I found another girl in the future...

Flapjack
August 12th, 2017, 02:17 AM
Okay buddy firstly don't read p101 if you wanna know what the average teenager does, just this week I have read threads about shagging brothers and a 13 year old with a cock ring and a dick the size of my forearm XD

I've never had a gf buddy and know loads of others that haven't, there is no rush!! Don't get into a relationship just to have a gf, wait for the girl that's right for you!! Might be next week or next year but she will be worth the wait!! There is someone out there for everyone :)

ska8er
August 12th, 2017, 01:13 PM
Okay buddy firstly don't read p101 if you wanna know what the average teenager does, just this week I have read threads about shagging brothers and a 13 year old with a cock ring and a dick the size of my forearm XD

I've never had a gf buddy and know loads of others that haven't, there is no rush!! Don't get into a relationship just to have a gf, wait for the girl that's right for you!! Might be next week or next year but she will be worth the wait!! There is someone out there for everyone :)

Bro ur funny and give the best advice here. :)

ShineintheDark
August 12th, 2017, 01:56 PM
The puberty forum is pretty terrible at finding realistic norms to live by. Hell, I barely go there now for anything. Do everything at your own speed and at your own comfort, there's no rush to get any of that done.

PlasmaHam
August 12th, 2017, 08:12 PM
Not trying to be offensive, but P101 consists almost entirely of abnormally sexual people. You should not be basing any life decisions upon what you read in the puberty forums, as you will regret it. And drugs and alcohol are not signs of maturity, but unwise decision making, so don't start doing them because you think it is normal. Anyhow, what you have described about yourself is perfectly normal. We are all different, and you don't have to be a sex hungry, drunken, dating machine to fit in.

Elysium
August 12th, 2017, 10:48 PM
I am older than you and have also never done any of those things (although I do use a fair amount of curse words :P). "Childhood" is not defined by any particular experiences or lack thereof. It's whatever it was; what matters is whether or not you enjoyed it. The reason you see so many people talking about it is because they're the only ones who are; the people who haven't had those kinds of experiences don't have as much to say about it, do they?

Go at your own pace. I say it here all the time, but I'll say it again: your path is not anyone else's and isn't comparable. It's like apples and oranges. You are not anything more or anything less than someone else because of what experiences you may or may not have had by now.

ava.anonymous
August 13th, 2017, 01:20 PM
Like the others have said the puberty 101 forum is absolute mayhem,my advice would be to just live your life and when the time is right you'll meet someone nice, don't let peer pressure make you rush things

jamie_n5
August 13th, 2017, 02:20 PM
You need not worry about being 17 and not have done things yet. Some of us including myself are truthful in our answers on these forums but there are plenty of fairy tales being told on here too. You need to lead your life as it unfolds for you. I am proud of you for not swearing and doing drugs and all that you said. I have been having sex since I was 14 but other than one girl I have only had sex with my boyfriend. You will find someone when your time is right and you will be happy and do just fine. Don't rush into anything and as I said you'll find Ms. right some day. Stick to your morals and beliefs and you will do great.

Just JT
August 13th, 2017, 02:45 PM
P101 is just like a really bad porn flick. It's just not real. Block that section before you catch a STD or something. Heard herpies is pampant in there.

A far as your childhood goes I agree with Elysium. We all have different experiences growing up. I didn't much care for mine either. But it's made me who I am, and in many ways a better person I think.

Normal is relative. So don't sweat it. When the right person comes along it'll feel right. Otherwise you might feel pressured by what everyone else is doing when in reality, and if I could, be saving all that energy to put into someone who really matters. When you meet that person.

NerdSquared
August 13th, 2017, 07:00 PM
Don't sweat it man, you've got a long road ahead of you to do all that. Personally I find reading p101 terrifying, don't take that seriously whatsoever.

NewLeafsFan
August 14th, 2017, 01:36 AM
Nothing wrong with being inexperienced or not being ready or not yet have had the opportunity for a relationship. our situation is not uncommon. Good luck.