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Vegas2933
June 14th, 2017, 10:17 AM
Ok. So one of my female friends has had her hair purple for two years and the teachers never complained. But now, because of some bullshit threat by a parent, our school is forcing the girls to dye their hair to a more natural color. Fair enough right? Well my friend was going to dye her hair at the weekend but her mum had to go in to hospital and she didn't get a chance. So she came in on Monday and our head of year withdrew her from class; meaning she can't go out at break or lunch, talk or socialise, all because her mum fell ill. This is having a tremendous effect on our friendship group and my question is: Is withdrawl wrong? And does it seem like a punishment too extreme for such a petty matter?

ShineintheDark
June 14th, 2017, 11:30 AM
School punishments are usually pretty unfair and extreme, just gotta deal with it I guess. Nothing too major

Vegas2933
June 14th, 2017, 11:54 AM
School punishments are usually pretty unfair and extreme, just gotta deal with it I guess. Nothing too major


True. It's really been hard on all of us.

bonbon
June 14th, 2017, 03:14 PM
No, it isn't wrong. There was a rule, she broke it, she got punished. That's how every law or rule works.

If it was impossible for her due to home circumstances, then one of her parents could just have phoned school to explain the situation, or give them a written explanation and apologize. Did they? If not, why?

Now I guess she could just dye her hair as requested, and ask to have a private talk with the school responsible to explain and apologize about what happened.

ClaraWho
June 14th, 2017, 03:30 PM
I'm not really sure why this would have a 'tremendous effect' on your friendship group? O.o

Regardless, there's nothing you can really do about the school's policy. If she is a really close friend you could always break the rules and go sit with her.

On the other hand it is only what, an hour for lunch? Hardly the end of the world for a few days.

Would your friendship group dramatically implode if she went on holiday or felt unwell? No. She'll dye her hair and back soon enough, bit melodramatic.

~ Clara

Vegas2933
June 14th, 2017, 04:36 PM
I'm not really sure why this would have a 'tremendous effect' on your friendship group? O.o

Regardless, there's nothing you can really do about the school's policy. If she is a really close friend you could always break the rules and go sit with her.

On the other hand it is only what, an hour for lunch? Hardly the end of the world for a few days.

Would your friendship group dramatically implode if she went on holiday or felt unwell? No. She'll dye her hair and back soon enough, bit melodramatic.

~ Clara

Thanks Clara! She'll be out on Friday, I guess I am being a bit dramatic.

ska8er
June 14th, 2017, 06:13 PM
What does that have to do with ur
friendship group? A lot of the school
policies r unfair but if it is policy then
u have to endure it.

Just JT
June 18th, 2017, 12:54 PM
I don't get how a school rule makes you not have the hair color of your choice

Endeavour
June 18th, 2017, 12:56 PM
I agree it does seem like a strong punishment for what seems like a small matter, but surely you can still see them after school?

Vegas2933
June 18th, 2017, 04:19 PM
Thanks for the advice everyone. She dyed her hair on Thursday evening and was let out. Eveything's back to normal. :)

jamie_n5
June 23rd, 2017, 04:55 PM
I am glad things worked out. Sometimes following rules seems harsh but it does prepare you for future life. There are always rules and laws to follow in life.

lliam
June 23rd, 2017, 07:26 PM
After all, I wonder even if she wasn't allowed to participate the classes in school, why had this such a dramatic effect on a friendship?

If she doesn't got grounded at home same time, she always could've met her friends after school.