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City Kid
June 5th, 2017, 07:47 AM
What do you think of casual sex?

I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, but for me personally, it has always worked out well.
The only exception was this one guy who acted like he was interested in a serious relationship with me but when we hooked up for the first time, he suddenly broke it off and confessed that he had only wanted sex. That's what made me realise the importance of letting everyone involved know what they're getting into. Apart from that, I'm still a fan of casual sex.

NoahNoah
June 5th, 2017, 07:56 AM
I like it. Like you said, it's not for everyone, though. I've had it a total of 4 times, and 3 of those times it worked out well for me, however one of those time the girl I had sex with thought there was something more from it. I made it clear before hand that it wasn't a love thing, it was only a sex thing. I thought she understood, but after it happened she went around telling people that we were a couple when we weren't. I talked to her and it turns out she was emotionally attached to me and that it was a mistake to do it. You really do need to be careful.

SethfromMI
June 5th, 2017, 08:35 AM
Assuming both parties are single (I do not believe in cheating for any reason) and both parties agree it is just indeed sex for sex then yea go for it haha. I have had a lot of fun that way. I think like Noah said, sometimes, people want more after the casual sex (a relationship or something else) and it may not be something you want to reciprocate. but in general, if everyone is on the same page, it can be a lot of fun haha

Alex_Swim
June 5th, 2017, 10:32 AM
Last year at a party, did a sort of hookup, Played around a little but did not feel right, (Did not have a GF then), and stopped short.

This past weekend flew back to where I just moved from last summer, for a friends Summer End of School Year Party, He set me up with a date, She was new to his (my old) school this year, so did not know her, we had fun, Slept on the beach with her but nothing happened, Not sure if it would have or not, But did not want to go there, (Have GF now).

mattsmith48
June 5th, 2017, 12:03 PM
Its a lot of fun, I use to do it often before I meet my GF. A lot of people don't want to commit to a relationship for whatever reason and still want to have sex and sometimes lying on what they want out of it is necessary for them to have sex, its not the right thing to do, but I understand why they do it.

Jinglebottom
June 5th, 2017, 12:43 PM
Call me a prude, but I believe sex should be an expression of love, not just pleasure. Casual sex, for me, takes away from the meaning that I think sex should have, which is both physical AND emotional. I can't even imagine myself engaging in such acts with anyone who isn't special to me. I find it quite shallow, in my opinion, but I'm not here to judge. It's not my job.

scott2002
June 6th, 2017, 05:52 AM
Call me a prude, but I believe sex should be an expression of love, not just pleasure. Casual sex, for me, takes away from the meaning that I think sex should have, which is both physical AND emotional.
I agree. I can give my dick excellent pleasure with my hand, the girl's hand, her mouth, or any of a number of sex devices I see on internet porn. A girl's vagina should be more than just another "thing" that gives a boy's dick the pleasure its seeking. Sex should first be a loving emotional experience between the boy and the girl, and the pleasure their sex parts are getting is just an added bonus.

Amethyst Rose
June 6th, 2017, 07:14 AM
Honestly, I don't think the term "casual sex" should even exist because sex is in no way casual. How some people can make themselves vulnerable with someone who isn't special to them is beyond me. I'd never be so quick to trust someone.

rioo
June 6th, 2017, 08:04 AM
Call me a prude, but I believe sex should be an expression of love, not just pleasure. Casual sex, for me, takes away from the meaning that I think sex should have, which is both physical AND emotional. I can't even imagine myself engaging in such acts with anyone who isn't special to me. I find it quite shallow, in my opinion, but I'm not here to judge. It's not my job.

yeah , and also for health issue behind casual sex activity. std or hiv, also pregnancy. better for safe.
I've done it in past but not now.

ShineintheDark
June 6th, 2017, 09:07 AM
t comes down to the people involved. Some people love it, others could never have sex with someone they're not devoted to. I wouldn't mind it I guess

Chaosphere
June 6th, 2017, 11:12 PM
I wouldn't mind it, but I'd like to have sex for the first time with someone I knew well and have a fully fleshed out relationship with. If both people know what the reasons behind their actions are, and are both enjoying it, not at anyone else's expense, I'm for casual sex.

Just JT
June 7th, 2017, 03:44 AM
Everyone will view this a little differently. Some old school traditionally and felt it's bad or wrong or something. Others will think it's ok.

I think sex should be something special and intimate between 2 people who deeply care for themselves. And in the right situations, between 2 consenting individuals, having a good and proper understanding, talking all precautions, casual sex is also pretty cool.

Both have their benefits and not so good stuff. It all depends on the individual person. Some people do it Whalen they are t ready and regret it cause of many reasons.

For me, I'm not in a relationship. So casual sex really works good for me. But I miss the close intimacy I would have with someone I was going with.

City Kid
June 7th, 2017, 04:57 AM
Call me a prude, but I believe sex should be an expression of love, not just pleasure. Casual sex, for me, takes away from the meaning that I think sex should have, which is both physical AND emotional. I can't even imagine myself engaging in such acts with anyone who isn't special to me. I find it quite shallow, in my opinion, but I'm not here to judge. It's not my job.

I agree. I can give my dick excellent pleasure with my hand, the girl's hand, her mouth, or any of a number of sex devices I see on internet porn. A girl's vagina should be more than just another "thing" that gives a boy's dick the pleasure its seeking. Sex should first be a loving emotional experience between the boy and the girl, and the pleasure their sex parts are getting is just an added bonus.

Honestly, I don't think the term "casual sex" should even exist because sex is in no way casual. How some people can make themselves vulnerable with someone who isn't special to them is beyond me. I'd never be so quick to trust someone.

To be honest I have never been able to draw the connection between love and sex.
When I'm in a relationship with someone, there's a physical aspect (being attracted to them) and an emotional aspect (being in love with them) to it. I do things like cuddle with them, spend all of my free time with them, try to make them happy etc because I'm in love with them, but I sleep with them because I'm attracted to them. A lot of the former things I mentioned I also do with close friends because I love them. In that case, there's just no physical aspect to it. And when I'm with someone who I'm not in love with but find attractive, it's the same thing, just the other way around.
I'm not saying that that's how everyone should view sex. I know that for a lot of people, love and sex are closely connected, I've just never been able to draw that connection. I've always felt this way just like you guys have probably always seen sex as something super special.

scott2002
June 7th, 2017, 06:12 AM
To be honest I have never been able to draw the connection between love and sex.
Sophie, this is interesting! I've never even had sex yet, but I have a gf and I'm getting to want to do it really bad. But it's with a girl I really like, so there is BOTH love and sex (hopefully!)
But I know a LOT of guys that troll for girls that will just let them 'stick it in and blow a load'. My question back to you, are there girls like this, too, that just really enjoy the feeling of having a guy inside them and pounding away on top of them?? They can just enjoy the PHYSICAL pleasure of what a penis can give them??

kimmykim
June 7th, 2017, 07:47 AM
as long as everyone involved is open and honest about the situation, otherwise feelings can get hurt

demathadude
June 15th, 2017, 01:55 AM
Im a fan of casual sex, but just not too often or id get tired of it

tvsigeys
June 18th, 2017, 09:19 PM
Love it

Just JT
June 19th, 2017, 12:15 AM
To be honest I have never been able to draw the connection between love and sex.
When I'm in a relationship with someone, there's a physical aspect (being attracted to them) and an emotional aspect (being in love with them) to it. I do things like cuddle with them, spend all of my free time with them, try to make them happy etc because I'm in love with them, but I sleep with them because I'm attracted to them. A lot of the former things I mentioned I also do with close friends because I love them. In that case, there's just no physical aspect to it. And when I'm with someone who I'm not in love with but find attractive, it's the same thing, just the other way around.
I'm not saying that that's how everyone should view sex. I know that for a lot of people, love and sex are closely connected, I've just never been able to draw that connection. I've always felt this way just like you guys have probably always seen sex as something super special.

This is where it can get confusing. Cause there's the physical aspect of sex, the mechanics of it all. We get off. And that's it. And to chill out cuddle and stuff after can be a part of that. And is really cool to do. But some people don't want that. I personally really want that quiet snuggle time after sex and just talk. Even if just casual sex. And some people can't handle that. It's to emotional for them I guess

Beach_Blonde
June 19th, 2017, 11:08 AM
i'm sitting here wondering what casual sex actually really is....

like i think ive had it...it was ok.....but its not really ever been defined for me