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Devinsoccer
March 6th, 2017, 08:36 PM
(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

Whenever I watch porn(once or twice in a month if that) I imagine myself being in the girls position. Could this mean I a trans?

I also am jelly of all of the girls hair and how long it looks and how smooth and silky it looks. I am also jelly of everything about them. I tend to be more like girls, most of my friends are girls and I tend to do girly things with them.

I am also not into shoot em up games, (unless I can fly a plane or drive a car, but thats all I would be playing in the game)

My childhood was filled with girly stuff, from dolls to playsets. The only non-girly thing was probably my love for cars busses plains and trains, no military vehicles in sight.(unless you count a police interceptor)

Even when I was little I allways told people when I wanted to grow up I want to be a girl. Some people say I phased out of it, maybe I did forget about it, but it never phased out.

This all lead me to think, I could be trans. I mean I have the want to be a girl, I just don't have the courage to tell anyone. Most people know my family is a concervative family, but we are acepting to everyone. I have told them before, but they either forgot about it or I didn't want to go through tharopy. I honestly don't like the idea of going to the doctor for something non-health related.

I have been thinking about using the universial bathroom so I can be more comfortable. They are there for the trans people.

So what do you think?

Anniebanannie
March 6th, 2017, 08:50 PM
Hi Devin. It sounds like you're in the process of figuring yourself out. I suggest doing what's comfortable for you. Experiment. If you don't feel ready to tell people, give yourself time. It's really nobody's business but yours. :)

PlasmaHam
March 6th, 2017, 09:18 PM
"Feminine characteristics" does not equal "Secret girl"

If you are confused, pull down your pants, and see what is between your legs. Best check in the world for your gender. If you are still confused, go ask a doctor for a DNA check just to make sure.

Desynchronized
March 6th, 2017, 11:55 PM
Basically what this^ guy said. Do a dna test if you feel so uncomfortable

bentheplayer
March 7th, 2017, 12:32 AM
I think that it is best if you were to see a doctor/psychologist who has good experience with gender identity dysphoria. Contrary to popular right wing belief, there is no absolute DNA test to tell whether one is trans gender or not but there are some tests that might help suggest reasons for such actions such as SRY gene issues. There is a lot of willful and sometimes sheer or malicious ignorance on this subject.

Ultimately at ur age, I think you are still in the process of figuring out and research has suggested that with time you will understand yourself better. This probably not a good place to ask about trans issues imo as many here are not well versed on this subject.

There are some who try to distinguish between the terms sex and gender where sex refers to ones reproductive organs (male,female,intersex) and gender refers to the state of being male or female on the basis of social and cultural norms.

mattsmith48
March 7th, 2017, 07:15 PM
"Feminine characteristics" does not equal "Secret girl"

If you are confused, pull down your pants, and see what is between your legs. Best check in the world for your gender. If you are still confused, go ask a doctor for a DNA check just to make sure.

Basically what this^ guy said. Do a dna test if you feel so uncomfortable

Wow thats terrible advice.

Beauregard
March 11th, 2017, 12:11 AM
Maybe it's just a phase during puberty?
Honestly I don't understand the whole gender confusing thing. We talked about it in school the other day but I guess I'm too stupid to grasp it.

Periphery
March 14th, 2017, 03:35 PM
"Feminine characteristics" does not equal "Secret girl"

If you are confused, pull down your pants, and see what is between your legs. Best check in the world for your gender. If you are still confused, go ask a doctor for a DNA check just to make sure.

Okay we all get it by now you're a conservative guy and don't respect other people's gender identity bla bla bla we fucking get it. There's not need to rub it in and be an asshole you know, not everyone has to agree with your political views, and you don't have to shove them down everyone's throat.

Just JT
March 14th, 2017, 04:48 PM
Personally, I think it's a blend of everything said here. You are who you are. And your probably going through a phase trying to figure out who you are sexually/gender wise. And nothing's wrong with any of that. Talking to someone to help process all this, a professional, someone with experience with that, might help. Not saying something's wrong with you cause there's not bro. Your a person like me or anyone else who posted here. We're human with different likes tastes dislikes whatever. Sometimes it helps to talk about it.

So be yourself and do what you think is best for you bro, and take your time.

Do not let someone else's opinions or judgements impact how you live your life of you, and what makes You happy....

DonaldTrumpIsBae
March 20th, 2017, 02:40 AM
(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

Whenever I watch porn(once or twice in a month if that) I imagine myself being in the girls position. Could this mean I a trans?


No. It doesn't mean anything except for that you like to put yourself in other people's shoes.

(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

I also am jelly of all of the girls hair and how long it looks and how smooth and silky it looks. I am also jelly of everything about them. I tend to be more like girls, most of my friends are girls and I tend to do girly things with them.



What does smooth and silky hair have to do with being a female? They're not mutually exclusive. If you shampoo, condition and brush your hair, you will achieve similar hair -- even if you have a penis.

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I am also not into shoot em up games, (unless I can fly a plane or drive a car, but thats all I would be playing in the game)



... and how does that relate to you being a girl? I don't play first person shooters either, but I don't feel like I'm going to get a vagina or breasts as a result of it either.


(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

My childhood was filled with girly stuff, from dolls to playsets. The only non-girly thing was probably my love for cars busses plains and trains, no military vehicles in sight.(unless you count a police interceptor)



What's girlish about dolls? There are a lot of dolls you could be playing with as long with play-sets. At that point in your life, it's got nothing to do with your gender, but rather your age and what entertains you. There are dolls made for WWE and boxing ring playsets, if you play with that it doesn't mean you're a girl -- it means you're a normal child.

(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

Whenever I watch porn(once or twice in a month if that) I imagine myself being in the girls position. Could this mean I a trans?

I also am jelly of all of the girls hair and how long it looks and how smooth and silky it looks. I am also jelly of everything about them. I tend to be more like girls, most of my friends are girls and I tend to do girly things with them.

I am also not into shoot em up games, (unless I can fly a plane or drive a car, but thats all I would be playing in the game)

My childhood was filled with girly stuff, from dolls to playsets. The only non-girly thing was probably my love for cars busses plains and trains, no military vehicles in sight.(unless you count a police interceptor)

Even when I was little I allways told people when I wanted to grow up I want to be a girl. Some people say I phased out of it, maybe I did forget about it, but it never phased out.

This all lead me to think, I could be trans. I mean I have the want to be a girl, I just don't have the courage to tell anyone. Most people know my family is a concervative family, but we are acepting to everyone. I have told them before, but they either forgot about it or I didn't want to go through tharopy. I honestly don't like the idea of going to the doctor for something non-health related.

I have been thinking about using the universial bathroom so I can be more comfortable. They are there for the trans people.

So what do you think?

(I honestly have no clue where to put this)

Even when I was little I allways told people when I wanted to grow up I want to be a girl. Some people say I phased out of it, maybe I did forget about it, but it never phased out.



Kids say stupid stuff all the time. If you were 5 and you thought 1 + 1 = 3 that doesn't mean you still think that today. I've heard kids say that they want to marry their mothers, that doesn't mean anything. Stop taking everything literally.

(I honestly have no clue where to put this).

This all lead me to think, I could be trans. I mean I have the want to be a girl, I just don't have the courage to tell anyone. Most people know my family is a concervative family, but we are acepting to everyone. I have told them before, but they either forgot about it or I didn't want to go through tharopy. I honestly don't like the idea of going to the doctor for something non-health related.



You are not transgender. You're a child who says silly stuff, like everyone else when they were at a younger age. The only thing you're doing here is thinking too deep into this. My thoughts throughout the years have become distorted from what's probably truth, as everyone else's, you are not different in this regard.

(I honestly have no clue where to put this).

I have been thinking about using the universial bathroom so I can be more comfortable. They are there for the trans people.

So what do you think?

They're there for the disabled, but it's just a bathroom. Stop making a big deal out of which bathroom to use and just use them if you need to, whether you use a toilet with a dude or a female or a wheelchair or not doesn't matter, that doesn't make you transgender.

(I honestly have no clue where to put this).

So what do you think?

I think you're looking too deep into something that's minor.

RavenTheGoddess
April 14th, 2017, 04:24 PM
Quite possibly. I myself feel the same way about other women; I'm always jealous of their beauty and how well they look. I'm even in the process of growing my hair out for a new hairstyle.