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austeen2
February 5th, 2017, 07:52 PM
Hey guys.


I've been curious for a while and been wanting to experiment with a friend/s that I think might be keen. (Haven't asked lol) but the thing is I notice a lot of people experiment at a younger age and get past that "bi curious stage at 15 or 16). If I'm 18 and mates are same or 19, is it okay to ask to experiment? (Of course no one else is going to know, but just thinking what their reactions would be if I pop the question. The guys in questions haven't don't anything with neither guys or girls as far as I know)

Babs
February 5th, 2017, 07:58 PM
Who says there's an age limit? Some people don't know they're gay until they're 40. Do whatever you want.

austeen2
February 5th, 2017, 08:03 PM
Who says there's an age limit? Some people don't know they're gay until they're 40. Do whatever you want.

I guess I was also thinking that if I had asked, and it went sour I couldn't use the "puberty and hormones got me thinking weirdly" but that wouldn't really work now haha

auser_name
February 5th, 2017, 08:07 PM
Theres no age limit to experimenting with your sex life. I did it when I was 14/15. but I also had a friend who knew I was bisexual if he could experiment and he's 18. My only advice. be careful with who you ask. This is a deeply personal mater you two will be doing. I suggest extremely close friends who you can trust entirely.

pconnor
February 5th, 2017, 08:11 PM
I guess it is up to you.

austeen2
February 5th, 2017, 08:18 PM
Thanks. Yea it's sorta weird. We always joke about suxking each other and having anal but yet I think they 100% joking. But like you say it's rather difficult to ask without things going sour if it turns out he isn't keen.

Asking for advice on how to get someone to do something sexual with you isn't permitted. ~Endeavour

Anniebanannie
February 5th, 2017, 09:12 PM
Isn't this sort of like making the first move in any kind of relationship. There's always the risk of rejection. How much risk are you willing to take?

austeen2
February 5th, 2017, 10:50 PM
Isn't this sort of like making the first move in any kind of relationship. There's always the risk of rejection. How much risk are you willing to take?

Fair. But say I ask a girl out and get rejected yea tough it's okay. But say I ask a guy etc then he says no, and tells the whole world I'm gay and what not then I'll be ashamed forevr

Anniebanannie
February 6th, 2017, 07:07 PM
Fair. But say I ask a girl out and get rejected yea tough it's okay. But say I ask a guy etc then he says no, and tells the whole world I'm gay and what not then I'll be ashamed forevr

I understand what you mean. You could have a reputation that you don't want. I don't think you'll be ashamed forever though. :)

owl__city
February 7th, 2017, 10:33 AM
Make sure that the one you want to experiment with is trustworthy and won't shame you in any way if things don't work out. There's no age limit or anything like that just trust yourself and the person you want to experiment with...and think if just asking may "ruin" your friendship or not

Just JT
February 7th, 2017, 11:41 AM
I don't think there's any age limit, maybe age like old enough to? But even then I'd say it's ok to experiment.

I think younger may be more common cause everything is so knew and exciting and trying knew stuff out. And at 18/19 your still in puberty still.

As far as awkward and stuff? I don't think it's something you just come outa the gate and ask tbh. For me I think it's just a feeling you get. And if they get the same feeling, and the topic comes up, and things just kinda happen.

Like you say you joke about it. Ever ask if he ever really has done stuff with a guy? Or if he ever thought about trying it?

2 good questions I'm pretty sure would bring the same answer for most guys our age in some way.

But I wouldn't be asking that in a group. Maybe 1:1 with a bro you trust. So it's not more awkward than it needs to be

Hermes
February 8th, 2017, 11:53 AM
It is not so much that there is an age limit more a case that the older you are the more likely it is that being interested in doing something with another guy is a permenant part of your sexuality rather than a passing phase.

At 14, you may be able to say "I felt the need to do something with someone, girls my age weren't up for it, guys were so I took what I could get". That line isn't going to be so convincing at 18.

The thing for everyone to realise is that having some degree of interest in other guys is not the same thing as being gay. There is the whole spectrum (see Kinsey scale) and there is increasing recognition that being at the 100% straight end of the spectrum is not any more common that ackowledging a certain amount of attraction to the same sex. As I posted the other day, this YouGov survey in the UK (https://yougov.co.uk/news/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual/) concluded that in the 18-24 age group about half of people identified as "not completely straight".

Zachary G
February 8th, 2017, 02:25 PM
theres no age limit on experimenting, its usually something that just happens. If you have an opportunity and a willing partner, then go for it and have a good time.

ilc.69
February 9th, 2017, 11:28 AM
There are no limits or rules. Just when you feel it's right and as long as you dont regret it or something bad happens, like getting an STD. If you feel like it, go for it

pjones
February 9th, 2017, 01:42 PM
i believe the term experimenting is used for many reason, such as curiosity. It may also be used as a defense to have a same sex encounter yet deny a same sex attraction, either to the person themselves or to others. when i was 12, 13 i loved experimenting as it allowed me to have some "innocent" sexual fun with my friends. when i was 14 and 15 it wasn't experimenting since we had been doing it for so long, but a sexual relationship of a sort we refused to acknowledge as such. now i "experiment" with my boyfriend everyday and couldn't be happier.

guess what i'm trying to say is don't be afraid to explore your sexuality and desires, safely of course, and feel free to justify it to yourself in any way that's comfortable to you. experiment, curiousity, learning experience, whatever you want to call it is natural.

austeen2
February 11th, 2017, 08:39 AM
it's believe the term experimenting is used for many reason, such as curiosity. It may also be used as a defense to have a same sex encounter yet deny a same sex attraction, either to the person themselves or to others. when i was 12, 13 i loved experimenting as it allowed me to have some "innocent" sexual fun with my friends. when i was 14 and 15 it wasn't experimenting since we had been doing it for so long, but a sexual relationship of a sort we refused to acknowledge as such. now i "experiment" with my boyfriend everyday and couldn't be happier.

guess what i'm trying to say is don't be afraid to explore your sexuality and desires, safely of course, and feel free to justify it to yourself in any way that's comfortable to you. experiment, curiousity, learning experience, whatever you want to call it is natural.

That did give me some insight so thanks for that.
I'm rather sure i'm Bi, except no one knows about that (not out) so i'd rather use "curiousity" as an excuse.

nwtnguy
February 11th, 2017, 02:48 PM
No age limit unless minors are doing it with adults

Harrier
February 11th, 2017, 07:12 PM
Like everything else in life there are few rules and age requirements. I have actually never experimented and want it that way (I am 17 btw). The closest I ever got was comparing sizes with my best friend camping with him in his backyard in a tent on a sleepover when we were both 11 or 12. That filfilled any curiousity about guys and I have just had girls in my head ever since lol.

austeen2
February 14th, 2017, 11:56 AM
Like everything else in life there are few rules and age requirements. I have actually never experimented and want it that way (I am 17 btw). The closest I ever got was comparing sizes with my best friend camping with him in his backyard in a tent on a sleepover when we were both 11 or 12. That filfilled any curiousity about guys and I have just had girls in my head ever since lol.


Just wondering tho, assuming the guy I want to ask is 100% straight, would you, being a straight guy, allow a "curious" straight guy to give you head if he asked?

Harrier
February 14th, 2017, 06:28 PM
Just wondering tho, assuming the guy I want to ask is 100% straight, would you, being a straight guy, allow a "curious" straight guy to give you head if he asked?

I personally would not. A lot of guys on here would lol. I think that's weird. Irl I think you need to know your school and friends. Know if they would beat you up or laugh at you for even asking. Again if it's me I would just say no and leave it at that. Othere would take the blow. And others would be pissed.

KBar33
February 15th, 2017, 02:18 AM
I don't think there's an age limit at all! And If there is one there is one then it shouldn't be there! If it takes you until your 26 years old or 58 years old, I say it doesn't matter one bit how old you are. What matters is that you do your best to do right by you and figure out who it is you are and not give a shit about other people's judgement. Easier said than done of course, but the moment you stop living your life in accordance to other people is the moment that you become a lot happier in life. If the people you ask aren't interested in doing that stuff with you; Try, try again. The worst thing someone can say is no. Move on and find someone who's willing to help you explore this part do you that begs answers to your questions and fulfillment for your desires. Just keep your head up, it took me years to finally figure this whole thing out, you don't have to rush it. These kind of things take a while, just every once in a while just stop and smell the roses. We are still young, enjoy it.

theyear3000
February 15th, 2017, 04:21 AM
Personally I think when you're ready you're ready. Don't rush it and make sure you trust the friend completely. Also if I was you ease into the convo....

austeen2
February 15th, 2017, 12:53 PM
Anyone have tips for conversation starters, and then easing into things? without sounding like it was all planned?

Curious_Guy
February 15th, 2017, 08:23 PM
If your good friends and comfortable talking about stuff, then try bringing it up in conversation and see where it goes from there.

Curious_Guy
February 15th, 2017, 08:24 PM
Anyone have tips for conversation starters, and then easing into things? without sounding like it was all planned?

Try with watching porn together.

scott2002
February 16th, 2017, 02:56 PM
I'm in 9th grade now and I've definitely noticed there are a LOT more boys interested in sexual activity with girls than there was in 7th and 8th grade. Back in middle school I'd find loads of horny boys who enjoyed experimentation with with other boys (mutual masturbation, touching each other's dick, etc.). So, I'm thinking I'm approaching the end of the "experimentation" stage with other boys. Moving forward, only boys who acknowledge that they're gay or bi will likely be interested. (But then it's no longer "experimentation".)

EvaNL
February 23rd, 2017, 09:17 AM
I agree with most of the replies here. There is no age limit. If you want to experiment with a person of the same sex when you're 70, go for it.
As long as you're not harming anyone and both want to do it: have fun :)

Dragonmaster69
February 23rd, 2017, 12:30 PM
It is a difficult situation to be in for sure. I am 15 and bi,i also experimented with my friends at a young age. Most outgrew it as is natural and now have girl friends. @ friends I still do mess with. I did not approach them however, I was honest since they are my 2 bestfriends with the fact that I was bi. They eventually after a couple months of knowing approached me. There is a difference between being curious and being comfortable around someone. That is sometimes hard to tell the difference. I think the best course in this is to be honest. IF you and this friend are close just tell him you are infact bi curious. See how he takes it, don't say you want to try anything with him though not yet. Once you see how he reacts to the fact a close mate of his is bi he will see the open door. If it is something he wants to try as well he will open that door on his own. Do NOT Rush these things!!!! It can make the friendship akward. I had a friend it took 2 years after he knew I was bi to admit he wanted to try something. Ther eis no clock on this just be patient and aboce all else the friendship comes first. It is not worth losing a great friend over expermintation.

Falcons_11
February 23rd, 2017, 05:17 PM
Personally I don't think there is any age limit. It all depends on the individual and his/her situation. Some reach that time earlier than others. You have to just go with your feelings.

Brightwolf
March 3rd, 2017, 09:56 PM
Hey guys.


I've been curious for a while and been wanting to experiment with a friend/s that I think might be keen. (Haven't asked lol) but the thing is I notice a lot of people experiment at a younger age and get past that "bi curious stage at 15 or 16). If I'm 18 and mates are same or 19, is it okay to ask to experiment? (Of course no one else is going to know, but just thinking what their reactions would be if I pop the question. The guys in questions haven't don't anything with neither guys or girls as far as I know)

I feel the same way, I really wanna experiment but I feel like I can because I'm 18. I think it's ok to ask, I don't see anything wrong with it, just don't feel too bad if they say no. Good luck! (Man I wish I knew someone like that lol)

scott2002
March 12th, 2017, 10:58 PM
... If I'm 18 and mates are same or 19, is it okay to ask to experiment? (Of course no one else is going to know, but just thinking what their reactions would be if I pop the question. The guys in questions haven't done anything with neither guys or girls as far as I know)

Wow... How do you ask a guy at 18 or 19, "Could I play with your dick? And you could play with mine if you'd like, too." I'm only 15 and I've posted on this question last month, too. But I keep thinking, how would I approach a guy if I was that age?

Here's what I might say: "Maybe I'm messed up or maybe my hormones are just way too active. I really get turned on by girls, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to mess around with a guy, too. I really don't think I'm gay, but it's just that sometimes I wonder what it would be like, like maybe touching another guy..."

The guy might say he sometimes feels that way, too, and then you're okay to suggest maybe doing something together. But if the guy says something like, "Dude, you're really f**ked up. You better see a doctor about that!" Then, you know pretty well this guy is NOT interested!

Just JT
March 13th, 2017, 12:40 AM
Wow... How do you ask a guy at 18 or 19, "Could I play with your dick? And you could play with mine if you'd like, too." I'm only 15 and I've posted on this question last month, too. But I keep thinking, how would I approach a guy if I was that age?

Here's what I might say: "Maybe I'm messed up or maybe my hormones are just way too active. I really get turned on by girls, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to mess around with a guy, too. I really don't think I'm gay, but it's just that sometimes I wonder what it would be like, like maybe touching another guy..."

The guy might say he sometimes feels that way, too, and then you're okay to suggest maybe doing something together. But if the guy says something like, "Dude, you're really f**ked up. You better see a doctor about that!" Then, you know pretty well this guy is NOT interested!

Well gay binor not, I think curiousity is pretty normal and common. And I'd hope a good bro friend wouldn't say that to you. But I get the meaning. Just sounds pretty harsh imo

scott2002
March 13th, 2017, 05:04 AM
Well gay bi or not, I think curiosity is pretty normal and common. And I'd hope a good bro friend wouldn't say that to you. But I get the meaning. Just sounds pretty harsh imo

JT, here's where I was coming from: I used to mess around with a lot of guys when I was in middle school. We have a backyard pool and one of my favorite ways to try to start messing around with a boy was to invite him over to swim. In the pool, "horsing around", I'd swim under the water and grab the boy's nuts. Most of the time the boy would laugh and try to grab mine back, and then we'd go from there. But there were TWO TIMES where the boy got really angry. One yelled at me, "What are you, a f**kin' faggot?? Stop it!!! I don't like that!!!"

So, at age 14, I was on the receiving end of a boy's rage that he had no desire to "experiment".

Sean2
March 13th, 2017, 05:26 PM
JT, here's where I was coming from: I used to mess around with a lot of guys when I was in middle school. We have a backyard pool and one of my favorite ways to try to start messing around with a boy was to invite him over to swim. In the pool, "horsing around", I'd swim under the water and grab the boy's nuts. Most of the time the boy would laugh and try to grab mine back, and then we'd go from there. But there were TWO TIMES where the boy got really angry. One yelled at me, "What are you, a f**kin' faggot?? Stop it!!! I don't like that!!!"

So, at age 14, I was on the receiving end of a boy's rage that he had no desire to "experiment".

Sorry bout that...I mean the angry responses.

I'm in 9th grade now and I've definitely noticed there are a LOT more boys interested in sexual activity with girls than there was in 7th and 8th grade. Back in middle school I'd find loads of horny boys who enjoyed experimentation with with other boys (mutual masturbation, touching each other's dick, etc.). So, I'm thinking I'm approaching the end of the "experimentation" stage with other boys. Moving forward, only boys who acknowledge that they're gay or bi will likely be interested. (But then it's no longer "experimentation".)

Exactly... I know wht u mean....

Double posts merged, please use the edit button next time, ~Endeavour

Just JT
March 14th, 2017, 09:31 AM
JT, here's where I was coming from: I used to mess around with a lot of guys when I was in middle school. We have a backyard pool and one of my favorite ways to try to start messing around with a boy was to invite him over to swim. In the pool, "horsing around", I'd swim under the water and grab the boy's nuts. Most of the time the boy would laugh and try to grab mine back, and then we'd go from there. But there were TWO TIMES where the boy got really angry. One yelled at me, "What are you, a f**kin' faggot?? Stop it!!! I don't like that!!!"

So, at age 14, I was on the receiving end of a boy's rage that he had no desire to "experiment".

I get it. I think we're on the same page. It's just to bad people have that type of response instead of being mature about it, not being abusive, and just say hey I'm not
Interested in messing around.

Sorry that happened, hope it didn't ruin your friendship

tyrickd
March 14th, 2017, 10:26 AM
theres no age limit what i will say is dont be in a relationship with someone and be experimenting because thats not fair but it doesnt sound like that so have fun.

Jamesk0050
March 16th, 2017, 07:05 PM
I'd day after 16 unless you are gay or bi

DonaldTrumpIsBae
March 20th, 2017, 02:49 AM
I don't experiment with guys, and the chance of getting a disease from doing it isn't worth it in my books. If I were to do it though, I wouldn't do someone who is 12 if I was say 16. Instead I would do my age give or take 1 years. I would also be completely anal about safety, I would make sure the other dude wraps his willy before we get silly.

sktrboychgo
April 4th, 2017, 09:54 AM
there is no age limit. there are people who go their whole lives and never acted on their impulses. never too late to try.

Michael M.
April 4th, 2017, 11:55 PM
I would think 15 or 14