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Claire Asteroid
February 3rd, 2017, 11:45 PM
thanks

Ben7
February 4th, 2017, 01:31 AM
Explain to her honestly what your thoughts are. Tell her why she shouldn't do it or why she should wait. Also be aware that despite the fact that you are sisters, she may still go ahead and do whatever she wants anyways and you'd kind of have to respect that for better of that. So in that case, when you talk to her or if you do, after explaining to her all your reasons why you don't think she should, you should also add either a warning or make sure she is aware and prepared to use protection if it comes to that. Do you talk to your sister often? Are you two close and share private stuff with each other? I only ask because the more comfortable you feel with each other and talking to each other, the better a conversation like this one will go. If you are not sure what specifically to say, perhaps begin by asking yourself why you don't think it's a good idea for her to do that. Maybe it's too soon, maybe it's not the right guy? What reasons does she have for waiting? Maybe theres more to look forward to in a relationship than that? These are all things to think about. Good luck!

Uniquemind
February 4th, 2017, 02:43 AM
Explain to her honestly what your thoughts are. Tell her why she shouldn't do it or why she should wait. Also be aware that despite the fact that you are sisters, she may still go ahead and do whatever she wants anyways and you'd kind of have to respect that for better of that. So in that case, when you talk to her or if you do, after explaining to her all your reasons why you don't think she should, you should also add either a warning or make sure she is aware and prepared to use protection if it comes to that. Do you talk to your sister often? Are you two close and share private stuff with each other? I only ask because the more comfortable you feel with each other and talking to each other, the better a conversation like this one will go. If you are not sure what specifically to say, perhaps begin by asking yourself why you don't think it's a good idea for her to do that. Maybe it's too soon, maybe it's not the right guy? What reasons does she have for waiting? Maybe theres more to look forward to in a relationship than that? These are all things to think about. Good luck!

This is true, but be aware you probably want to avoid being the 2nd parent.


This is one of those situations where you need to read between the lines and if she brings up the subject it's best to lay a bridge for her and let her speak her mind and vent.

Get a peek into her rationalizations and inject bits and pieces of perspective to get her to widen her view and all the variables on the table.

From emotional consequences (heartbreak/depression) or physical ones like diseases.

Is she planning to keep the physical romance from mom and dad? If so how, if going to random places is a strategy for them is there a protocol if things get out of control (policeman/constable catches them in a public place).

What if the boy is a perv and starts abusing her?


Just make sure he's a good guy and have a plan to communicate honestly with her.

As weird as it is to say, in the department of love and sex and relationships physical age doesn't necessarily dictate who experiences what first. It's not a contest, it's just the journey of life.


But there is some red flags, he's brought up the fact he wants sex with her, so it's possible he's a fuckboi.

It's been what since before Christmas? (That's 90-120ish days)

That's not that long.

Claire Asteroid
February 4th, 2017, 08:34 AM
thanks for the replies

Elysium
February 4th, 2017, 09:58 AM
OP removed the question. :locked: