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Semi_IronMan
November 11th, 2016, 02:47 PM
Hey guys so I'm in a dilemma and feel like a bad friend for something I did to the most loyal girl I've ever known. I kinda don't know what to do and I need your help on whether to tell her or not.

So this is what happened...

So my friend lent me her iPhone right and I went into "recently deleted pics" and found pics of her and her boyfriend naked and the person next to me saw. Later that week some people also discovered those pics and wanted to leak them since they feel she's apparently a b**** to them, I said no cause they wanted me to unlock the phone (She has my fingerprint registered byw) and let them send the pics. The next day we got into the same conversation again and I refused yet again but I finally succumbed to the peer pressure. They sent hers and her boyfriends pics to one of their phones and recently the pics surfaced on instagram. Now she and her boyfriend know that people have seen the pics but don't know that I'm responsible for them being leaked. I asked the people who have the pics about the instagram posts and they denied it. now I feel very guilty cause I've been spending a lot of time with her and now I feel like I betrayed her


So what should I do? Do I tell her or not? I know the people who have the pics won't let slip that I played a major role in someone acquiring the pics. Thanks for reading and I appreciate your advice and comments. Thank u guys

ClaraWho
November 11th, 2016, 06:45 PM
Well I hope you feel extremely ashamed of yourself. No doubt your actions hurt her, but as they say 'no good deed goes unpunished'. What you did was horrible and a complete betrayal of someone who was being kind to you.

Now you can either walk away and never say anything, live with that guilt and shame, or you can be a man and take responsibility for your action - which includes accepting any consequences without pride.

Really it depends on whom you want to be as a person, and nobody can answer that for you. Just consider whether you will regret it later in life when the opportunity to confess has passed. For some decent people that would be troubling.

~ Clara

Flapjack
November 11th, 2016, 06:49 PM
Dude what you did was terrible!! I hope your friendship is over because I don't want that poor girl being friends with someone like you.

You need to go tell her ASAP as possible everything that happened so she can do damage control.

zack.zack
November 11th, 2016, 06:52 PM
Well I hope you feel extremely ashamed of yourself. No doubt your actions hurt her, but as they say 'no good deed goes unpunished'. What you did was horrible and a complete betrayal of someone who was being kind to you.

Now you can either walk away and never say anything, live with that guilt and shame, or you can be a man and take responsibility for your action - which includes accepting any consequences without pride.

Really it depends on whom you want to be as a person, and nobody can answer that for you. Just consider whether you will regret it later in life when the opportunity to confess has passed. For some decent people that would be troubling.

~ Clara

Clara has made some really good points here, its up to you to decide the kind of person you want to be -- a stand-up kind of person who takes responsibility for their actions, or sleuth, someone who does a dirty deed and acts like nothing ever happened.

halseymm
November 11th, 2016, 06:53 PM
I won't give you any negativity, because she will most likely give you a lot. You should probably tell her, guilt is too much to handle. Give her some space for a while and if she refuses to continue the friendship, respect her decision because you wronged her.

Hyper
November 11th, 2016, 10:09 PM
Here's the magical thing....

Your conscience is based on your conscience.

If you feel bad, it's for a reason... If you tell the truth you might likely lose your friendship but if you want an older, arbitary opinion, telling the truth is the right thing for you and your friend.

StoppingTom
November 11th, 2016, 10:18 PM
https://i.imgur.com/10lkUdy.gif

you made your mess and now you have to deal with the repercussions

that and leaking naked pics of a 16 year old is quite illegal so

Endeavour
November 12th, 2016, 03:35 PM
Yeah, what you did was wrong and with every wrong comes repercussions. You shouldn't have done it at all. You really need to tell her so she knows, owning up yourself is a lot better than finding it out from someone else. And as Tom said, posting pictures of minors like that is illegal in many parts of the world, so... yeah.

jamie_n5
November 12th, 2016, 08:32 PM
Man how could you do that. You should have had enough balls to not let others influence you to do something against a close friend. You can only imagine how embarrassed and hurt those two feel. About all you can do is confess to them and beg for their forgiveness. I would guess your friendship is over. If you don't tell them yourself someone will surely narc on you anyway. I hope they will forgive you.

PlasmaHam
November 12th, 2016, 08:43 PM
I'm not one to place shame on people here, but man, shame on you.

You very clearly violated her privacy, publicly shamed her, abused her trust in you, and potentially ruined her life if those pictures fall into the wrong hands. I don't have any sympathy for you right now. I suggest that if you want to regain a tiny fraction of that sympathy and remove that awful guilt from your heart, you tell your friend IMMEDIATELY. She will probably initially hate you, and will probably never trust you to that level again. You must beg for her forgiveness, admit that you committed a horrible act, and promise to help fix it. At that point, then your guilt will subside some and you will begin to regain some sympathy with both myself and her. But don't expect your problems to be over after you tell the truth, as the Bible says, "Be sure your sins will find you out."

Just JT
November 12th, 2016, 08:59 PM
Not going to tell you how bad all this is. You already know that.
But here's how I see it. You feel guilty about betraying a trusted friend. She lets you into her locked iPhone. You know how much personal shits on people's phones. You either live with the guilt, or do what you can to make it right. Not even sure how you can make it right. And tbh there's nobody here who can tell you what to do about this but you. You are dealing with your own set of morals and conflicted yourself with your actions. Only way for you to come to terms with yourself is for you to figure out the resolve.

That being said, you probably just lost not just one very good trusted friend, but many, if not all. Even the ones you gave the pictures to. You think they'll have a positive outlook on you? Push come to shove based on what you said about them you think they'll protect you when the accusations come their/your way for this?

You need to figure this one out for yourself bro. I truly hope you learn a lot about friendship and trust with this one. Those are 2 of the most important things in life. Hard to build and harder to rebuild. But in either case it needs to start somewhere. So take the first step into maturity, whatever that means for you.

Uniquemind
November 14th, 2016, 01:07 AM
What's sad about this situation regardless, is she and her boyfriend, died a bit that day.

After and experience like this, they'll never be quite the same. They'll survive but philosophically they are of a "new mind" now.

TheFutureDoctor
November 14th, 2016, 06:48 AM
Terrible. Simply terrible. You had NO RIGHT to do that. She trusted you man... Ive been betrayed by people and know how it feels, but never to this extent.....
I would like to ask you, SERIOUSLY??? You gave away her photos under PEER PRESSURE? Are you fuckin kidding me???? What was she thinking trusting you so much?? You should be ashamed of yourself!!
Tell her. Try to fix it. Do whatever is possible to get those pics back. And if she is mad at you, she HAS EVERY RIGHT to be so. All you can hope is fix this mess and move on...

Falcons_11
November 15th, 2016, 08:22 PM
I'm not going to chastise you cause most of the others here have done that far better than I can. But, in my humble opinion, what you did was totally shameful especially that you betrayed a best friend confidence. When she finds out it was you who post her private pics on Instagram whatever punishment she gives to you is well deserved.

Cadanance00
November 16th, 2016, 10:40 AM
Dude, you did fuck up! Gonna take years to put that back together.

Uniquemind
November 16th, 2016, 01:26 PM
Dude, you did fuck up! Gonna take years to put that back together.

Or not at all

And this is technically a crime that got out in the open, and legally it's child pornography.

Everyone passing it around or in possession of it is in DEEP trouble.

There's a huge chance all involved will have some criminal record after this once this escalates and parents and school officials get wind of this.

Dames
November 21st, 2016, 12:41 PM
that is a terrible thing to do, I hope no-one gives you their passcode anymore

AutumnWinds
November 26th, 2016, 01:05 PM
yeah that was a big mess up.

i think you should come clean to her, because she deserves that. plead your case, write her a letter and tel l her how sorry you are, whatever you think is best. i don't know if she could forgive you. i would not. but the more important issue here is what kind of person you want to be. you did something awful, but you don't have to be awful. you can be honorable and tell her, and accept the consequences, at least, and vow to yourself not to do something like that again.

Hey guys so I'm in a dilemma and feel like a bad friend for something I did to the most loyal girl I've ever known. I kinda don't know what to do and I need your help on whether to tell her or not.

So this is what happened...

So my friend lent me her iPhone right and I went into "recently deleted pics" and found pics of her and her boyfriend naked and the person next to me saw. Later that week some people also discovered those pics and wanted to leak them since they feel she's apparently a b**** to them, I said no cause they wanted me to unlock the phone (She has my fingerprint registered byw) and let them send the pics. The next day we got into the same conversation again and I refused yet again but I finally succumbed to the peer pressure. They sent hers and her boyfriends pics to one of their phones and recently the pics surfaced on instagram. Now she and her boyfriend know that people have seen the pics but don't know that I'm responsible for them being leaked. I asked the people who have the pics about the instagram posts and they denied it. now I feel very guilty cause I've been spending a lot of time with her and now I feel like I betrayed her


So what should I do? Do I tell her or not? I know the people who have the pics won't let slip that I played a major role in someone acquiring the pics. Thanks for reading and I appreciate your advice and comments. Thank u guys

Semi_IronMan
November 30th, 2016, 02:54 AM
yeah that was a big mess up.

i think you should come clean to her, because she deserves that. plead your case, write her a letter and tel l her how sorry you are, whatever you think is best. i don't know if she could forgive you. i would not. but the more important issue here is what kind of person you want to be. you did something awful, but you don't have to be awful. you can be honorable and tell her, and accept the consequences, at least, and vow to yourself not to do something like that again.

I know hey. I told her and we didn't speak for like a week until she texted me and wanted to meet with me. I don't know what she wants to talk about though... hopefully she'll accept my apology

Just JT
December 2nd, 2016, 01:47 AM
How did it go?
We do care ya no?

Uniquemind
December 3rd, 2016, 03:04 AM
How did it go?
We do care ya no?

My guess is it's headed to legal court procedure now. This is that serious of an issue.

Just JT
December 3rd, 2016, 06:34 PM
My guess is it's headed to legal court procedure now. This is that serious of an issue.

I agree. But my intent was about caring about the situation.
Not where it's heading legally tbh

Uniquemind
December 5th, 2016, 02:56 AM
I agree. But my intent was about caring about the situation.
Not where it's heading legally tbh

At this point if it's headed down that road, I doubt any lawyers would allow for their clients to talk of the matter for fear of admission of guilt and more evidence to incriminate the other side.

Or perhaps the parents have taken away internet privileges of the OP, and this likely would happen to anybody with a criminal record such as for the above crimes.

Semi_IronMan
December 6th, 2016, 02:51 PM
At this point if it's headed down that road, I doubt any lawyers would allow for their clients to talk of the matter for fear of admission of guilt and more evidence to incriminate the other side.

Or perhaps the parents have taken away internet privileges of the OP, and this likely would happen to anybody with a criminal record such as for the above crimes.

Actually the pictures were contained before their parents found out about them.

Our meeting wasn't so hot, I got slapped, called names and blocked from her phone, all of which I expected though. Her boyfriend and I are cool and we hang out and stuff but she's cut me out of her life indefinitely so I'm gonna stay out of her life until she wants me back, I think I owe her that much.

Thank u guys for the tough love. It really helped me realize how important it is to take responsibility for your actions, I'm very grateful. Plus it feels so good to not be living with that guilt anymore

Actually the pictures were contained before their parents found out about them.

Our meeting wasn't so hot, I got slapped, called names and blocked from her phone, all of which I expected though. Her boyfriend and I are cool and we hang out and stuff but she's cut me out of her life indefinitely so I'm gonna stay out of her life until she wants me back, I think I owe her that much.

Thank u guys for the tough love. It really helped me realize how important it is to take responsibility for your actions, I'm very grateful. Plus it feels so good to not be living with that guilt anymore

How did it go?
We do care ya no?

The pictures were contained before their parents found out about them.

Our meeting wasn't so hot, I got slapped, called names and blocked from her phone, all of which I expected though. Her boyfriend and I are cool and we hang out and stuff but she's cut me out of her life indefinitely so I'm gonna stay out of her life until she wants me back, I think I owe her that much.

Thank u guys for the tough love. It really helped me realize how important it is to take responsibility for your actions, I'm very grateful. Plus it feels so good to not be living with that guilt anymore

Consecutive posts merged. Please use the edit/multi quote functions next time. ~Lost Horizon

Just JT
December 6th, 2016, 03:14 PM
Well I'm glad you stepped up and took care of business. That's the right thing to do. Forgiveness is very hard and may never come. Just know you did the right thing in the end, and did all you can do (after the fact).

I hope she does forgive and let you back in some day.
Good luck

Semi_IronMan
December 7th, 2016, 12:38 AM
Well I'm glad you stepped up and took care of business. That's the right thing to do. Forgiveness is very hard and may never come. Just know you did the right thing in the end, and did all you can do (after the fact).

I hope she does forgive and let you back in some day.
Good luck

Thanks

Uniquemind
December 7th, 2016, 03:51 AM
Well let's home this is the end of it.

I have known people with picture, video, going somewhere on the internet and it's there forever somewhere on some server.

Best of luck and kudos to you stepping up to the plate of honesty even though it seems you lost a friend in the end.

Trevor.
December 30th, 2016, 03:22 AM
Hey guys so I'm in a dilemma and feel like a bad friend for something I did to the most loyal girl I've ever known. I kinda don't know what to do and I need your help on whether to tell her or not.

So this is what happened...

So my friend lent me her iPhone right and I went into "recently deleted pics" and found pics of her and her boyfriend naked and the person next to me saw. Later that week some people also discovered those pics and wanted to leak them since they feel she's apparently a b**** to them, I said no cause they wanted me to unlock the phone (She has my fingerprint registered byw) and let them send the pics. The next day we got into the same conversation again and I refused yet again but I finally succumbed to the peer pressure. They sent hers and her boyfriends pics to one of their phones and recently the pics surfaced on instagram. Now she and her boyfriend know that people have seen the pics but don't know that I'm responsible for them being leaked. I asked the people who have the pics about the instagram posts and they denied it. now I feel very guilty cause I've been spending a lot of time with her and now I feel like I betrayed her


So what should I do? Do I tell her or not? I know the people who have the pics won't let slip that I played a major role in someone acquiring the pics. Thanks for reading and I appreciate your advice and comments. Thank u guys

You could either live in shame for the rest of your life.
Or kik what I would do is tell her. This guilt will slowly kill you inside and hurt ya relationship with her. Tell her and earn her trust back. Trust takes time to earn. Think about this before you do something like this again :)
I wrote right after I read the beginning post.