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Turbo69
October 24th, 2016, 12:01 PM
Okay so I'm a 17 year old male and I have a girlfriend that I was so so happy about emotionaly and sexually but one night something just triggered in my mind and ever since then I think I am gay, ive lost all emotional connection to my girlfriend and I dont get turned on as easily as I used to by her. Before this I never had any sexual attraction to men but now its like I'm forcing myself to be attracted to them, I used to be disgusted by the thought of intercourse with a male but now I'm not and as I dig deeper into my memories I find things that make me think im gay like how I used to secretly like to play with girls stuff sometimes. I am constantly checking my sexuality by watching straight porn which doesnt even turn me on as it used to and gay porn doesmt turn me on either. When I domt get turned on by girls instantly then I jump to the conclusion that im gay. I don't want to be gay and i feel guilty everytime I think of my girlfriend cause I feel like I shouldn't be with her. My mind basically forces me to look at guys sexually now and i dont like it. Im severally depressed and I don't know what to do. I have thoughts of suicide and hate myself. I cry everynight over this and nothing is helping me. When i feel like I have proven to myself that im straight then im so hapoy but twn minutes later my mind tells me I'm gay again. I need help am I gay in denial? I domt care about coming out to people that I'm gay when I think of it i just care about being gay because I dont want that but it feels like I should be gay.

ska8er
October 24th, 2016, 04:26 PM
U r very confused right now and I don't think any
one here can give u the advice that u r looking for.
What u need is to get in contact with an LGBT Crisis
Center in ur area to meet or even talk with someone
who is a professional to deal with the questions that
u posted above. Thinking of killing urself is not an
option and is a red flag that u need to talk things
out quickly with a councilor.

jamie_n5
October 27th, 2016, 05:41 PM
I think you are very confused about everything the way you talk. I think you are both confused about your sexuality and are even questioning your gender. I really think you need to seek professional help asap man. You are so emotionally stressed out and you really need help to get your head strait again. Please call a crisis line or go to a clinic or hospital and get some help.

Just JT
October 31st, 2016, 08:00 PM
Think your feelings are pretty valid tbh. Lots of guys question their sexuality to different degrees at some point in time. And you may not even be gay. Maybe your bi. And it's not so bad being something other than straight to. Straight sounds so....idk, boring. Stay between the lines. Anyways, I'd just give it some time and relax about it. Thinking about offing yourself over it isn't a good option or topic either. So I'd talk to someone about that first. Your sexuality you can figure out as time goes on. Suicide you can't. So one thing at a time ok?

jdhud024
November 3rd, 2016, 12:48 AM
Everyone questions their sexuality at some point. I sure as hell did before I became comfortable with being gay. I'm ok with it now. Being gay isn't a bad thing. No, I wouldn't have chosen to be gay if given the choice but that's just because of the drama and coming out thing (which I did by posting a picture of me and my boyfriend online and let people figure out that way. Gays shouldn't have to come out as gay), but you're questioning, which is ok. It seems like you may be worrying too much about it right now. My advice? Just calm down and focus on the important things. School, work, etc. The last thing you want to be is to be behind on things like that.

IMO you sound bisexual. But, that's all I'm going to say on that.

When I was still questioning, some days I felt straight, some days gay, somedays both. It took quite a few months before I became comfortable with who I am and accepted it. Life sucks, no one ever tells you what sexuality you are when born. You have to find out on your own.