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PinkFloyd
October 16th, 2016, 02:07 AM
I recently started working at Spencer's Gifts about two months ago. I've met tons of cool people there so far; both employees and regular customers. Well, one of my favorite coworkers there is named- well, I'll just call him F for privacy's sake. Anyways, I don't really know him all that well, but I've grown a friendship with him. Well, today, I was working an 11:30 AM to 3:30 shift. F was supposed to come in at 3:30 and take over for me. Well, around 1, his girlfriend called the store completely hysterical and crying. My manager (who I will call G) picked up. F's girlfriend said that F had attempted to end his life and was on suicide watch at the hospital.

G is a good manager and a good person overall, but she just doesn't understand when there's a problem that needs fixing without her getting all crazy. You wanna know what she said? She said to the girlfriend "Well, when will he be back?" There was not a SHRED of empathy in her voice. G didn't even hint at being sorry about the tragedy that had occurred. All she was worried about was who was going to cover F's shift. To be clear, F has zero history of showing signs of depression. He did a very good job of keeping it to himself. (as most depression sufferers do) When this shocker hit me, I was in awe. All my manager was fixated on was her store. it makes me sick and I hope to hell that F's girlfriend didn't tell him what G said over the phone.

...I really just hope he's going to be okay. It's good he's in the hospital, but I'm not sure. Thanks for reading my unorganized rant.

Amethyst Rose
October 16th, 2016, 10:14 AM
That's awful. From my own experience (I know everyone isn't like this, this is speaking from what I've witnessed), people have reactions like those when they haven't dealt with depression themselves. That isn't an excuse whatsoever for their lack of at least willingness to understand, but they can't empathize as they don't know personally how seriously it can affect a person. I hope he gets better soon.

Uniquemind
October 16th, 2016, 12:50 PM
Well she's a manager of a store for a reason, not a therapist. I'm not excusing her response, but she is doing what is standard business, and standard business as a rule tends to be void of empathy.

everlong
October 16th, 2016, 01:06 PM
That's scary, especially since it came out of nowhere. I agree with Uniquemind for the most part, but I think a little empathy would've been nice. Business or not, you should try and show some respect for him as a human being.

Just JT
October 16th, 2016, 05:51 PM
Kind of like what everyone else I saying here. Yeah it sucks the manager said it like that, and defiantly shows what kind of "human" he/she is. Says a lot right there about how much respect the manager has for the employees.

But also, it is a business, and a business can't survive with employees who feel worthless.

Why don't you print this thread, and pin it up in the break room for everyone to see, and enjoy the read.

Uniquemind
October 17th, 2016, 01:16 AM
Kind of like what everyone else I saying here. Yeah it sucks the manager said it like that, and defiantly shows what kind of "human" he/she is. Says a lot right there about how much respect the manager has for the employees.

But also, it is a business, and a business can't survive with employees who feel worthless.

Why don't you print this thread, and pin it up in the break room for everyone to see, and enjoy the read.

Not necessarily.

Some people don't share emotions nor do they want them affecting performance on the job.

She might feel bad, but she as a manager might grieve in her own way once she is back on her own time.

It's hard to tell and to read humans and discern their character VS a facade they just need to do to function.

Also she's a manager, so I assume she's older than most those under her?

Even as a teen now, I already know of 3 suicide attempts within my friends (1 was successful). You get numb to them after a while, but it's no less sad.

PinkFloyd
October 17th, 2016, 08:04 PM
That's scary, especially since it came out of nowhere. I agree with Uniquemind for the most part, but I think a little empathy would've been nice. Business or not, you should try and show some respect for him as a human being.

I agree. I certainly wasn't expecting the store to close down because of the incident, but the least she could have done was shown a little empathy. I have some background with people committing suicide, so it hit a nerve for me.

ImCoolBeans
October 18th, 2016, 12:09 PM
I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, Rob. I hope he's ok and that things start to go easier for him. You can't always tell when someone is feeling that way, that's why it's important to treat people well and with respect. Everyone has a private life that others aren't privy to and there's no way to tell what someone is going through unless they've let you in.

PinkFloyd
October 18th, 2016, 12:18 PM
I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, Rob. I hope he's ok and that things start to go easier for him. You can't always tell when someone is feeling that way, that's why it's important to treat people well and with respect. Everyone has a private life that others aren't privy to and there's no way to tell what someone is going through unless they've let you in.

Yeah, It's a common misconception than depressed people appear sad all the time. All my coworkers were saying how it just didn't add up, but that's the thing, it rarely ever adds up. Take Robin Williams for example. He was a great actor and comedian, a person who's job it was to make others smile and laugh. He was broken on the inside so he wanted to make others smile on the inside and out while he could only smile on the outside. This entire situation hits a soft spot for me because I have lost classmates to suicide and once stopped my best friend from ending her life. As of now, there's no news on how F is doing, but it's good that he wasn't able to go through with it and is now in the hospital getting treatment. Thanks for the reply, Mike. It really means a lot.