View Full Version : I Think There's Something Wrong With Me.

September 29th, 2016, 01:09 PM
So, a little insight. My name is Adrian, I'm 16, living in the UK. Openly gay (at least romantically).
I wasn't sure exactly where a topic like this belongs, so if I'm posting to the wrong area, please do redirect.
There's a guy I met yesterday. Yeah I know, I'm 16, and I did meet him on Grindr, don't judge. I've always felt really behind everyone at school - discussing how much sex they have and how good it feels. Don't get me wrong, I have had plenty of opportunities to have sex with various guys at this point, but I never take them, I always seemed to be afraid of the idea.
But yesterday, I decided to suck it up and somehow it worked, we actually met. Let's call him Jojo for now. So, Jojo was absolutely amazing, up to this point I have never:
Kissed anyone.
Sucked a dick.
Had my dick sucked.
Smoked weed.

But all that had changed by the end of the night, Jojo was the best first time guy I could have ever asked for. So, you might be thinking, then what's the problem? - And the title of this topic probably seems quite melodramatic at this point.
But there was a problem.
At the beginning of the whole ordeal I was able to get an semi-erection, and Jojo tried so hard to make me cum, the things he did with his mouth, damn. But I found that as he sucked, my boner was just dying down and we tried for aaaaages for me to get hard again and to cum.

Now this is where it gets tricky, I found that thinking about a guy from school (lets call him Daniel) that I find attractive and used to have deep feelings for and still fantasise about now and again, doing what Jojo was doing to me, slightly made a difference. I could tell it was getting me aroused and I felt so bad that I was thinking about him while another guy was sucking my cock. It wasn't that Jojo wasn't attractive or good at what he's doing, but imagining that Daniel doing it was the only thing that slightly helped my situation, and even then, I couldn't get fully hard, nor cum.

I just really feel like something is wrong, when I do it myself at home I can get massive boners anytime I like and i expected it to be even better when I finally tried the real thing. But nothing turned me on, not even Jojo's gorgeous cock.
I've read all these first-time stories and how it happens to a lot of people but I just think it's deeper than that...
And Jojo wants to meet again and I don't want the same thing to happen the second time.

Could it just simply be because of the weed? I heard it decreases sex drive. Could it be that I was just nervous (which i was) because it was my first time?

I just really need some professional opinions.

September 29th, 2016, 03:10 PM
Weed doesn't decrease sex drive, if anything it increases it, and i feel like you were just really nervious for your first time thats why you couldnt finish. I feel lile you should deffinitly meet up again if you liked it.

September 29th, 2016, 04:14 PM
I think that you were really nervous I know I was the first time and things weren't exactly great. I know you may not want to hear this but here goes. To truly have a terrific sexual experience you should really care about the guy you are with. I especially don't believe that you should have intercourse with someone you don't truly love. Now as far as a blowjob or handjob I see them on a whole different level. Next time try being straight and sober. I really think it was nerves my friend. Try to get into the guy and what is going on. I think you will be just fine.

September 30th, 2016, 06:03 AM
U were apprehensive going into it since it
was ur first time and u didn't perform well.
As for thinking about another guy while u
were having sex-I don't find it not normal.
It may be betrayal if u were into a relation-
ship but a lot of us look at porn to increase
our hornyness to get off and we picture our-
selves in that porn-don't worry about it-also
be careful of who u pick up-find someone
in real life that u get to know better.

September 30th, 2016, 03:13 PM
While weed does decrease sex driv, thats more of a long term side affect than short term, i think its more nervousness really but its a tricky situation.

September 30th, 2016, 03:34 PM
As I said in your other post. You need to try things sober and I think you were very nervous and unsure as to what to do. That is perfectly alright. You have to really get into it. Do a lot of kissing and grinding and really get aroused. Try to play with him too while you are getting sucked. Also like I said it really helps to love or deeply care about someone too. Especially when it comes to intercourse (anal) so don't rush into that. It is the true way two people can be the closest in a relationship. You will be fine just get really in to it.

Living For Love
September 30th, 2016, 04:01 PM
Mod note: I merged the thread you created on Teen Seexuality and Gender with this one.