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Cool Mojo
September 3rd, 2016, 08:51 PM
I am 15 and I feel extremely angry almost all the time (unless I'm asleep). I do consider myself to be a calm and collected person but my brother and mother are driving me far beyond my limits. As a result I have tried to fuel fights with others for no good reason (probably because I want to hit something).

I want to go to a family therapist to help the relationship between my brother and mother but I also feel like I need to see an anger management doctor but I don't know how to tell my mom since she's part of the problem. My angwr is definitely getting out of control.

Dalcourt
September 3rd, 2016, 10:30 PM
Can't you go there alone without your mother? Maybe to a doctor you know and trust first (or I dunno if you have a staff member at your school for such things) and ask them for adresses they usually know good places where you could get help.

Don't try to pick fights with others, this could extremely backfire and could get you in a lot of trouble.
So maybe just try sports as a way to get rid off your anger and energy.

Cool Mojo
September 4th, 2016, 12:16 AM
Can't you go there alone without your mother? Maybe to a doctor you know and trust first (or I dunno if you have a staff member at your school for such things) and ask them for adresses they usually know good places where you could get help.

Don't try to pick fights with others, this could extremely backfire and could get you in a lot of trouble.
So maybe just try sports as a way to get rid off your anger and energy. That doctor would probably tell my mom about it. And yeah I know that I shouldn't fuel fights because in all honesty it makes me feel like a bully but Im so mad nowadays. I do play sports such as basketball and football but the friends I play with are physically weaker and slower and I would hate to injure one of them so I never go full out.

Dalcourt
September 4th, 2016, 12:54 AM
That doctor would probably tell my mom about it. And yeah I know that I shouldn't fuel fights because in all honesty it makes me feel like a bully but Im so mad nowadays. I do play sports such as basketball and football but the friends I play with are physically weaker and slower and I would hate to injure one of them so I never go full out.

Yeah of course the doctor will tell ya mother eventually but you have the chance to explain yourself to someone beforehand. And also in a confidential way if you feel the need to.
And in the long run the rest of your family has to be involved anyway since your problems concern the whole family, right?

Well I thought more of taking up a new sports like boxing/ kick boxing or so...you can channel your aggressions there without hurting someone weaker than yourself.
Maybe your town has some place where you could try if it works for you?

Flapjack
September 4th, 2016, 06:16 AM
You deffo need anger management if it is making you violent buddy, I think family therapy would be good too!

As for how to tell your mom, please just be honest and open up to her :)

Brieftime
September 4th, 2016, 07:39 AM
Do you have guidance counsellors at your school?

Cool Mojo
September 4th, 2016, 11:26 AM
You deffo need anger management if it is making you violent buddy, I think family therapy would be good too!

As for how to tell your mom, please just be honest and open up to her :)

Talking to her is equivalent to trying to reason with a bee... impossible.

Do you have guidance counsellors at your school?

Yes but I don't really know how or if I can approach them with this.

Dalcourt
September 4th, 2016, 12:29 PM
Yes but I don't really know how or if I can approach them with this.
Of course you can approach them with this problem.
You should be able make an appointment go there at the opening hours. It's their job to be there and give you some guidance here.

jamie_n5
September 7th, 2016, 02:55 AM
Well I think that you need to tell your parents how you feel and that you feel you need professional help to get you to deal with your problems.

jake97aus
September 15th, 2016, 10:54 PM
If seeing a professional is something you believe will help, then do it! If you need to discuss it with your mother perhaps leave out that she is part of the problem and leave that to the professional. I'm sure there's a better way of explaining to her than "I need professional help, you're driving me crazy!" lol