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Dalcourt
May 28th, 2016, 10:33 PM
I have been diagnosed with bipolar at quite young age. It also runs in my family and stuff.
I have learnt to deal with my disorder and try not to let it take too much effect on my daily life.

Here's my question. How open are you about your disorder/illness...do you openly talk about it or do you try to hide it from your friends, people at school etc.

For me a few really close friends and some teachers at school know about it otherwise I don't really want people to know about it. I don't want them to think I'm crazy or whatever. I mean most people don't really know about those disorders and things and I don't want them to think I'm a freak or something.

I have had quite a few negative reactions when I told people so maybe that's why I try to hide it now.

But I'd be intersted how others feel about this and how open they are about it.

Body odah Man
May 29th, 2016, 12:11 PM
I want to be open, but being open either results in fear, hatred or scorn (thanks mom).
I just keep it inside and ignore the anger or hurt people emotionally

Just JT
May 29th, 2016, 12:28 PM
We know each other pretty good I believe, so think it's no surprise that I'm pretty open about myself with most people to talk about stuff. So long as it has realistic, positive meaning to someone. And I'm open to talk here to if you like

What I'll say about hiding stuff though, just my thoughts.....think most people are pretty smart about this kinda stuff. And if they don't know, but have a real interest/concern for someone, they'll learn about it some how. But also, people thinking your crazy and stuff, that's only because they don't understand what is up with you, and have a hard time identifying with someone who has a mental illness or disorder. But if they understand about it, they will be able to understand you better.

So if you open up, just a little, not the whole world or anything, to a few people who you might like and or trust, do for it, you might be surprised.

Tim987
May 29th, 2016, 09:48 PM
I only have like 3 people that know my only friend my sister and an aquaitence that knos about my health because i find it so hard talk to people about it and most don't understand what it id

Dalcourt
June 1st, 2016, 08:34 PM
I want to be open, but being open either results in fear, hatred or scorn (thanks mom).
I just keep it inside and ignore the anger or hurt people emotionally

I only have like 3 people that know my only friend my sister and an aquaitence that knos about my health because i find it so hard talk to people about it and most don't understand what it id

I feel exactly the same.
My therapist told me to be open and explain my illness to the people around me they will supporting and this would be helpful for me blah blah...

However truth is people either don't care( which is still the best reaction ) think that I'm a drama queen cuz everyone feels like that sometimes so why with me it's an illness...or they think I'm a total freak.

So I try to act "normal" as much as i can which puts a lot of pressure on me.

Just JT
June 1st, 2016, 08:43 PM
I feel exactly the same.
My therapist told me to be open and explain my illness to the people around me they will supporting and this would be helpful for me blah blah...

However truth is people either don't care( which is still the best reaction ) think that I'm a drama queen cuz everyone feels like that sometimes so why with me it's an illness...or they think I'm a total freak.

So I try to act "normal" as much as i can which puts a lot of pressure on me.

I no, I no, it does suck
But also, at some point, we just needa say, fuck making them happy with us trying to act "normal" and just be who we are. And let the chips fall where they may. I know that ain't easy, believe me.

I just don't know any other way tbh

Body odah Man
June 1st, 2016, 11:51 PM
I feel exactly the same.
My therapist told me to be open and explain my illness to the people around me they will supporting and this would be helpful for me blah blah...

However truth is people either don't care( which is still the best reaction ) think that I'm a drama queen cuz everyone feels like that sometimes so why with me it's an illness...or they think I'm a total freak.

So I try to act "normal" as much as i can which puts a lot of pressure on me.

Doesn't it suck, when you try to explain things and they give u that look that says: "you're full of shit?" I hate that look. And yeah, you're right about people displaying a great lack of understanding. It's pretty sad. I won't judge u about it though, your illness.

Just JT
June 2nd, 2016, 04:52 AM
And we shouldn't jussi should we?
I mean, yeah, we're all different, no 2 people are the same, I think it makes Life, the world, a lot more interesting.
Not sure if your a believer in God or not, bur were taught were all made in the image of God.
Also, every characteristic, Gene, symptom, disease, illness, disorder, whatbever thing in life you wana talk about, we all have it to some degree. The question that remains is how much. The people with "the extreme" outliers or anything outside the "norm" has some sort of a label, name or diagnose associated with it.

So what is normal?
Makes having some disorder or illness seem a little less abnormal, and may be a bit easier to talk about and accept possibly?

Abyssal Echo
June 2nd, 2016, 10:40 AM
I'm pretty open, if fact some tell me I'm too open. I'd rather be up front with people that way I know where I stand with them.

Just JT
June 2nd, 2016, 11:37 AM
I'm pretty open, if fact some tell me I'm too open. I'd rather be up front with people that way I know where I stand with them.

Yeah, from what I've learned from you you are. Do you find it easier to make friends etc that way. I mean yeah you know where they stand, but do they turn their backs, or at least give you a chance so to speak?

Melodic
June 2nd, 2016, 01:45 PM
I've gotten more open about my mental health over the last couple of years. Before, only my closest friends and family knew about it.

Abyssal Echo
June 3rd, 2016, 05:08 PM
Yeah, from what I've learned from you you are. Do you find it easier to make friends etc that way. I mean yeah you know where they stand, but do they turn their backs, or at least give you a chance so to speak?
I make friends pretty easily :) keeping them is a problem. Most people tell me they don't have a problem with me being Bi Polar. There's a difference between not having a problem with something and actually being around and dealing with the person that has it. Most of the time I'm pretty laid back and easy to get along with sometimes I'm a moody bitch. <---- this is why I tell people up front that I have Bi Polar. I let them make the decision if want to get to know me or not. I look at it this way either they can deal with it (which is great) or they can't... which is fine too.

Dalcourt
June 5th, 2016, 08:23 PM
I make friends pretty easily :) keeping them is a problem. Most people tell me they don't have a problem with me being Bi Polar. There's a difference between not having a problem with something and actually being around and dealing with the person that has it. Most of the time I'm pretty laid back and easy to get along with sometimes I'm a moody bitch. <---- this is why I tell people up front that I have Bi Polar. I let them make the decision if want to get to know me or not. I look at it this way either they can deal with it (which is great) or they can't... which is fine too.

That is exactly a huge problem for me, too.
Making friends was always easy and if I told them about having bipolar and all they said it's okay but being then really able to deal with my mood swings and the way I sometimes act was then always a different thing.
Cuz even if you know about these things it is hard to deal with them.

So usually I have the same effect if I don't talk about my being Bi Polar and the friendship just going to hell one day cuz they feel I'm a moody asshole.
That at least spares me them telling everyone afterwards I'm a crazy freak.

TheWaltsu
June 11th, 2016, 12:04 PM
I openly talk about my asperger's syndrome... in Internet. IRL you need to earn my trust first, then i start talking about personal things like this.

Novocaine9
June 18th, 2016, 11:20 AM
I'm pretty open about it when I know there's someone struggling with the same things. Other than that, I try to hide it from family and friends.

Typhlosion
June 18th, 2016, 11:34 AM
No. The moment I open up, people think totally differently of me. Not just as something about me, but changes their while view. I don't risk it. VT, my family, my girlfriend, and maybe 2-3 people know. That's it and, honestly, I'm fine with that. Heck, it took me a long while to be more open to emotions in my life, let alone my issues.

Cephalon_Ordis
January 1st, 2017, 02:22 AM
I only tell close friends about my Aspergers and hope they understand.

Danieldv77
January 4th, 2017, 04:35 PM
I usually don't tell anyone in real life, as people immediately start to assume that they need to treat me differently because of it. So far, only one of my close friends even knows I have aspergers.

AdamDS
January 4th, 2017, 08:34 PM
I try and keep my Depression and Anxiety a secret from most people in real life. I hide it from my family especially. I've only told one person that I physically know and that is my friend, the rest have been people I've met online.

auser_name
January 5th, 2017, 11:05 AM
Would depression and paranoia count as a mental illness?

brandon9
January 5th, 2017, 10:18 PM
I keep everything a secret, even from my parents and sister - I've only let something slip a handful of times when I'm really fucked up. There are only 3 people in my life I've ever told I have depression, anxiety, severe self-esteem and trust issues, and problems opening up and displaying emotions. Only one of them has been totally understanding and supportive, and it's because he's 30 and was exactly like me as a kid. He's like a big brother to me. He also happens to be my manager at work, we just became very very close over the last year and a half I've been under him. He gets everything I feel.

I feel secretive for many reasons about it. I don't like opening up in general because it only leads to me getting fucked over, but I'm also kind of ashamed of it all, like I feel like I should be more than I am, like I should be better. And people don't give a shit about me anyhow, I've been mistreated by "peers" my whole life, so I don't want to give anyone leverage against me. I've become a master of hiding my true emotions and putting up a front of being okay. It's the only way for me to get by.

Dalcourt
February 3rd, 2017, 01:40 AM
Would depression and paranoia count as a mental illness?

yeah sure

auser_name
February 3rd, 2017, 12:48 PM
Well then I'm not open at all. I bury it all. I let my ex know but thats because he was my boyfriend at the time.

City Kid
February 3rd, 2017, 05:46 PM
I don't tell everyone I meet, but once I like someone and am starting to become friends with them I always tell them. It's just easier not to have to constantly find excuses when I'm going to therapy, for example.

Matryoshkasystem
February 4th, 2017, 11:29 PM
Mixed, if I feel safe about it, i will, though not waving a flag about it either. Also our multiplicity ISN'T DISOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER. We keep that hidden for a completley seprate reason-society still is a horrible place to be open as a system-.

parhelion
February 6th, 2017, 08:25 AM
My schizoaffective and BPD aren't something I go telling people about, but it's not like I'm hiding it either. I just never felt like it was something important about me.

However, I do tell people that I spend a lot of time around (not many people), so that way if I go into a dissociative state or something, they'll know what to do.

JacoboBlandonPineda
June 23rd, 2017, 03:24 AM
I try to keep my mental state to myself, and only disclose when it seems to be absolutely necessary.

There's been only a person in my life to whom I've told my conditions to, and have vented with. Luckily enough, that person was really supportive and never stopped treating me well, and she also has her fair share of conditions as well.

She, and another friend from school, are literally the only ones outside of my family circle that know I'm autistic, but they never changed their behavior after telling them.

Yugen
June 27th, 2017, 01:21 PM
I'm very open about it, but I'm not the type that posts about it all of the time on social media or anything. I don't mind answering questions, I'd rather fight stigma that way.