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SammiB
February 20th, 2016, 10:49 AM
First, girls watch porn too, but guys watch way more lol, and most of it is for guys anyways. A few of my male friends have shown me their porn, and my opinions of them before and after changed, sometimes alot. I don't know if its fair to judge someone by the porn they watch, but do you think the porn someone watches reflects what they be will like sexually? Or even who they are as a person? If you liked a guy(or girl), but hated the porn he/she enjoyed, would you still see him/her?

Taryn98
February 20th, 2016, 11:13 AM
I don't think that the type of porn someone watches reflects who they are as a person or what they'd be like sexually. However, the type they watch can be a reflection of the types of sex (and/or fetishes/interests) they're interested in.

LITTLEANGEL16
February 20th, 2016, 01:08 PM
I don't think that the type of porn someone watches reflects who they are as a person or what they'd be like sexually. However, the type they watch can be a reflection of the types of sex (and/or fetishes/interests) they're interested in.

I would agree Taryn :yes:

ClaraWho
February 20th, 2016, 01:26 PM
I would entirely agree that if someone watches porn I'd judge them negatively. But especially if it were freaky, or sadistic. I mean someone who gets off on rape or infliction of pain isn't someone i want to be ANYWHERE near. It says a LOT about people.

There are 4 ways people reveal their true selves.
- When horny
- When exhausted
- When intoxicated or stoned

- True love

During day-to-day life we all have a mask we externally present in different situations, the above strips that away and there's no hiding.

~ Clara

Uniquemind
February 20th, 2016, 03:15 PM
It's a precursor to judgement is the compromise I've reached for myself but I've never been in a position where a guy is sharing his porn collection with me.

It can indicate what the guy might ask you to do down the road, but you can handle that situation in two ways.

Freak out and react now, which implies you have to be a bit presumptuous.

Or let that bridge of issues be crossed when and if he does take the relationship in that direction.

It all depends on recognizing that the person you're with has a good barrier between fantasy and reality. Once someone of any gender starts to push fully blur the line without the other's mutual consent THEN you have a problem to be concerned about.

LanaPole
February 21st, 2016, 07:24 AM
personally, i dont really care about what porn they watch. I dont think it determines what they like sexually. i would probably try out and see for myself.

ClaraWho
February 21st, 2016, 11:22 AM
It's a precursor to judgement is the compromise I've reached for myself but I've never been in a position where a guy is sharing his porn collection with me.

It can indicate what the guy might ask you to do down the road, but you can handle that situation in two ways.

Freak out and react now, which implies you have to be a bit presumptuous.

Or let that bridge of issues be crossed when and if he does take the relationship in that direction.

It all depends on recognizing that the person you're with has a good barrier between fantasy and reality. Once someone of any gender starts to push fully blur the line without the other's mutual consent THEN you have a problem to be concerned about.

I may have misread, but I don't think the OP was talking about anything regarding dating. More just a male friend telling what he liked and her reaction. At no point was it mentioned she had any plans of doing anything sexual with them.

The point, from what I interpret which may be wrong, is that some porn choices are inherently repulsive/horrific. Rape, violence, murder. If someone sexually gets off on that I'd run a 1000 miles in the opposite direction.

personally, i dont really care about what porn they watch. I dont think it determines what they like sexually. i would probably try out and see for myself.

You think what gets people sexually excited, isn't what gets people sexually excited? O.o how does that work?

~ Clara

SammyG17
February 21st, 2016, 01:11 PM
I don't think what a guy watches influences his bedroom preferences. I have been exposed to many types of porn, with varying partners. I've noticed that sometimes it gets us both going, and other times it is more of a, "haha, wow, look at that, its so fake."

I've noticed that a lot of it has to do with mood. Granted younger teens tend to like and get turned on by everything, older teens / people tend to be able to separate the line between fantasy and reality better. The mood can change. Sometimes it might be (X-act) and other times it might be (Y-act) that works more, or maybe even (Z-act). As days change, so does what turns people on. Sure there is always a baseline, but for the more extreme stuff, I've noticed it rotates.

I've not found that it makes a guy or girl more bold, or more willing to try something. Besides, doing it with a fantasy in mind vs. actually doing it are two entirely different things. Porn is good for extreme fantasy play usually alone (not always). Put the same person who was turned on by (X-act) in a real life situation, and nerves kick in, smell/taste kicks in, even touch kicks in. I've personally experienced a guy who wanted to do a particular act so badly, he practically begged. But when the time came to actually try it, he shut down and suddenly changed his mind.

@ Clara / Lana - "You think what gets people sexually excited, isn't what gets people sexually excited? O.o how does that work?" / " i dont really care about what porn they watch. I dont think it determines what they like sexually"

Well if ya'll can find a succubus, tentacle monster, or slime monster in real life, by all means please let me know. Those things get me every time, but I know I can't ever really experience one.

Do I think a guy with violent tendencies might watch violent porn? Sure. But there are many other signs he would show besides pornography preference. Can you make a snap judgement on someone by what they like at that particular age/ time of day/ phase of life? Probably not. Should the person be mature enough to know real life doesn't work like a porn? Yes.

SammiB
February 21st, 2016, 01:20 PM
Haven't made up my mind on this...but talking to friends, a lot of guys do want to copy what they see in porn. I guess some might get nervous in real life and may not do what they say, but if I see something that I really don't like, its not going to happen with that guy

angelina
February 26th, 2016, 07:36 PM
personally, i dont really care about what porn they watch. I dont think it determines what they like sexually. i would probably try out and see for myself.
I fully agree with Lanaple...we cann't say it is a type of perversion...this is out of curiosity in teenagers.

ClaraWho
February 27th, 2016, 04:57 AM
I fully agree with Lanaple...we cann't say it is a type of perversion...this is out of curiosity in teenagers.

Someone who is curious does something once. Someone who is interested enjoys the experience and will repeat.

~ Clara

federica
February 27th, 2016, 11:33 AM
First, girls watch porn too, but guys watch way more lol, and most of it is for guys anyways. A few of my male friends have shown me their porn, and my opinions of them before and after changed, sometimes alot. I don't know if its fair to judge someone by the porn they watch, but do you think the porn someone watches reflects what they be will like sexually? Or even who they are as a person? If you liked a guy(or girl), but hated the porn he/she enjoyed, would you still see him/her?

very interesting question...for me the answer is no because the porn someone watches is a very private thing and reflect only the private sexuality (the sexuality about the masturbation) and not the sexuality inside a couple...

Anita_111
February 27th, 2016, 11:59 AM
very interesting question...for me the answer is no because the porn someone watches is a very private thing and reflect only the private sexuality (the sexuality about the masturbation) and not the sexuality inside a couple...


I totaly agree with you. I like watching some kinky porns too but that doesnt mean i would do it with my partner.

SkyClad33605
February 27th, 2016, 12:21 PM
I think the kind of sex someone likes reflects more on them than their porn preferences. There's a big difference between what someone likes to watch and what someone likes to do. That said, I don't think it's a good idea to shame or judge anyone based on something they like, assuming the thing they like isn't hurting anyone and everyone involved is consenting.

LITTLEANGEL16
February 28th, 2016, 11:37 AM
I think the kind of sex someone likes reflects more on them than their porn preferences. There's a big difference between what someone likes to watch and what someone likes to do. That said, I don't think it's a good idea to shame or judge anyone based on something they like, assuming the thing they like isn't hurting anyone and everyone involved is consenting.

I could not agree more Willow, as long as it's legal

Mollypop
February 29th, 2016, 01:35 AM
Someone who is curious does something once. Someone who is interested enjoys the experience and will repeat.

Sure, but just because you like watching something in porn doesn't mean you'll like it in real life. Sometimes the idea of something is a lot sexier than the reality.

playfull-qt
February 29th, 2016, 02:43 AM
Sure, but just because you like watching something in porn doesn't mean you'll like it in real life. Sometimes the idea of something is a lot sexier than the reality.

well put!!

ClaraWho
February 29th, 2016, 05:32 AM
Sure, but just because you like watching something in porn doesn't mean you'll like it in real life. Sometimes the idea of something is a lot sexier than the reality.

I think you're missing the point here. We aren't talking about getting off on anime, we're talking getting off on abuse or worse.

~ Clara

tootiny
February 29th, 2016, 08:06 AM
I wouldn't judge, my brothers watch all kinds and they are super sweet guys. Some of it is intense but I love them no matter what.

Jordan99
February 29th, 2016, 08:29 PM
I don't think that the type of porn someone watches reflects who they are as a person or what they'd be like sexually. However, the type they watch can be a reflection of the types of sex (and/or fetishes/interests) they're interested in.

Totally agree here.

Mollypop
March 1st, 2016, 01:22 AM
I think you're missing the point here. We aren't talking about getting off on anime, we're talking getting off on abuse or worse.

~ Clara

OK yeah abuse may be a different thing. I'd at least want to know what it is about the abuse that would be a turnon. Something like that could turn into something a whole lot darker.

ClaraWho
March 1st, 2016, 10:48 AM
OK yeah abuse may be a different thing. I'd at least want to know what it is about the abuse that would be a turnon. Something like that could turn into something a whole lot darker.

Precisely, or rape, or bestiality, or snuff films. This isn't a question directly to you, but I don't think there ever could be a placating answer to why that would be a turn on? Especially if they are male and it's a male aggressor.

~ Clara

flowerchild
March 1st, 2016, 08:26 PM
My ex used to watch alot of porn and sometimes we did together. As long as he was turned on it didnt bother me what he watched

MissyOH
March 2nd, 2016, 10:26 AM
But I think it does influence all of us. Up until the explosion in internet porn access, very few women, if any, shaved their pubes for 1000's of years. Now we all do because we learned it is "expected" and "normal" In reality it was something used by the porn industry to help film penetration scenes more clearly. Fewer woman did anal as often or as young as we do because guys and to some extent, girls, see it in porn and think everyone does it or expects it. So even if we girls don't watch it, our guys are influenced by what they watch and in return what they expect us to do (anal, shave, etc.)

sweettayla
March 4th, 2016, 10:13 AM
But I think it does influence all of us. Up until the explosion in internet porn access, very few women, if any, shaved their pubes for 1000's of years. Now we all do because we learned it is "expected" and "normal" In reality it was something used by the porn industry to help film penetration scenes more clearly. Fewer woman did anal as often or as young as we do because guys and to some extent, girls, see it in porn and think everyone does it or expects it. So even if we girls don't watch it, our guys are influenced by what they watch and in return what they expect us to do (anal, shave, etc.)

l thought they shaved their pubes to make them look younger.

neledisapersonne
March 4th, 2016, 10:28 PM
I dont think its anybodys place to judge of course but I wouldnt be able to help but make up my mind about someone after seeing what type of porn they watch... I dont mind anything out of the ordinary as long as there is consent in both sides I think