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Body odah Man
February 14th, 2016, 10:37 PM
So recently I've been trying to get over an addiction of mine, and in order to motivate myself I'd tell myself: 'ok, every time u relapse, no video games the next day or something.' Then I'd started promising God I'd punish myself, and I started adding more and more things to the list, things that I really like. Only this addiction is really hard to beat and the whole self punishment thing saddens me and makes me annoyed. Sometimes I just don't want to punish myself, but then I worry that if I don't God will be enraged, and so I do it anyway. What do you guys think?

Also, recently I've started trying to cause myself pain (having a window open while it's freezing cold and wearing summer clothes, not eating) because something inside me hates myself so much that I feel like I deserve to suffer.

Sheriff McGregor
February 14th, 2016, 10:48 PM
So recently I've been trying to get over an addiction of mine, and in order to motivate myself I'd tell myself: 'ok, every time u relapse, no video games the next day or something.' Then I'd started promising God I'd punish myself, and I started adding more and more things to the list, things that I really like. Only this addiction is really hard to beat and the whole self punishment thing saddens me and makes me annoyed. Sometimes I just don't want to punish myself, but then I worry that if I don't God will be enraged, and so I do it anyway. What do you guys think?

Also, recently I've started trying to cause myself pain (having a window open while it's freezing cold and wearing summer clothes, not eating) because something inside me hates myself so much that I feel like I deserve to suffer.

How about doing something productive?

Every time you give into your addiction, give back to the community. Donate money to a charity. Spend a day volunteering at a homeless shelter.

Everytime you do well in your journey, treat yourself to dinner, or a movie or something.

I believe God is merciful, all loving and forgiving. Ask for help and forgiveness, if you are sincere and by that I mean really working to change, he will be there. I dont know your religion so, that's all I can say regarding that.

Body odah Man
February 15th, 2016, 03:43 AM
How about doing something productive?

Every time you give into your addiction, give back to the community. Donate money to a charity. Spend a day volunteering at a homeless shelter.

Everytime you do well in your journey, treat yourself to dinner, or a movie or something.

I believe God is merciful, all loving and forgiving. Ask for help and forgiveness, if you are sincere and by that I mean really working to change, he will be there. I dont know your religion so, that's all I can say regarding that.

Inside, I feel like losing privileges and stuff is the only way God will forgive me, which is why I do it. I could try ur idea but then I'd worry I was 'cheating God'.

Sheriff McGregor
February 15th, 2016, 10:52 AM
Inside, I feel like losing privileges and stuff is the only way God will forgive me, which is why I do it. I could try ur idea but then I'd worry I was 'cheating God'.

May I ask what religion you follow?

Body odah Man
February 15th, 2016, 10:53 AM
May I ask what religion you follow?

Christianity but not sure if I'm Catholic or Protestant oriented.

Sheriff McGregor
February 15th, 2016, 11:05 AM
Christianity but not sure if I'm Catholic or Protestant oriented.

I don't think God would want you you to punish yourself. I don't know the last time you went to church but, I recommend going. Sometimes just hearing a priest or preacher talk is really inspirational and can get you on the path you need to be going.

Catholic Churches offer confessions. They are completely confidential and I think very helpful as far as telling someone your sins, your desire to change and your seek for help.

Zbmrnb16
April 21st, 2016, 10:28 PM
While I don't believe in a god, I know that if there is one, he (it?) wouldn't want you to do that to yourself. If it's too bad, then seek help in the form of a psychologist.

Body odah Man
April 23rd, 2016, 11:19 AM
While I don't believe in a god, I know that if there is one, he (it?) wouldn't want you to do that to yourself. If it's too bad, then seek help in the form of a psychologist.

Still trying to find one, but thanks for the tip

Zbmrnb16
April 23rd, 2016, 03:14 PM
Still trying to find one, but thanks for the tip

What's important is that you're trying. You might have to go through a few before you find the right one, but as long as you're making an effort to change things, that's what's important.

holly6
April 30th, 2016, 07:34 PM
You don't need to punish yourself for things you've done wrong. Just accepting that you've done them and maybe feeling guilty is important. Or you can tell someone you trust. Don't feel like you need to punish yourself though, because it's unnecessary; we all make mistakes.

Body odah Man
May 1st, 2016, 10:24 AM
You don't need to punish yourself for things you've done wrong. Just accepting that you've done them and maybe feeling guilty is important. Or you can tell someone you trust. Don't feel like you need to punish yourself though, because it's unnecessary; we all make mistakes.

Makes sense; thank you for posting.
Even the best of us have a weakness/addiction, although that's not an excuse to continue with it. However, self-punishment isn't the remedy either.

True, true. I dunno, it just felt like I had to do it, you know. That's (mostly) over now though

JenniferMaust
October 13th, 2016, 12:29 AM
Do what you feel like doing, good bad whatever. Trust the almighty everything will be fine.

Abhorrence
October 13th, 2016, 06:50 AM
Do what you feel like doing, good bad whatever. Trust the almighty everything will be fine.

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