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Cheaspeake297
December 4th, 2015, 05:15 PM
I have a mom and a dad. My dad works in Africa all by himself my mom is taking care of me and my sister. My mom expects me that I work hard just like all other smart people at my school. The problem is I'm a procrastinator and my mom have a bad temper. Let me skip to the point. the point is that if I'm a lazy person I have to live with my father so my mom would be at peace. And right now this is the same issue over and over again. I do not want to live in Africa because the living conditions is unsanitary. Sadly right now I'm going to Africa. My mom phoned my dad and he said to me that my life is over. And the last moment before I hung up he told me to "fuck off" And you know how I feel? I die a little inside. I was going to go to social services so I can live over there and get rid of my family. But I don't know how. Please could anyone give me advice how to resolve this issue? I love my parents but I'm afraid that I will go there if there is no resolution to this problem.

P.s. My parents are Asian. Yes Asian parents are stereotypical.

Judean Zealot
December 4th, 2015, 05:54 PM
Is it possible for you to pick up on your school work and get another chance?

Porpoise101
December 4th, 2015, 05:56 PM
I'm not good at these things but I think going to Africa is kind of cool. Of course, being forced is bad, but it's an opportunity none the less. Try to make peace with your family too. Just try to look at the brighter side of things.

Cheaspeake297
December 4th, 2015, 06:32 PM
Is it possible for you to pick up on your school work and get another chance?
I don't think that is possible. Like I said this occurred many times so I don't think I have any chances left.
I'm not good at these things but I think going to Africa is kind of cool. Of course, being forced is bad, but it's an opportunity none the less. Try to make peace with your family too. Just try to look at the brighter side of things.

How can I make peace with my family. Forgive me on this but I think like a computer. Also I don't see the brighter future. I visited there once and I swore that I'm not gonna go back ever again.

Cheaspeake297
December 4th, 2015, 06:36 PM
So right now I'm currently living in my garage since I got kicked out. Cold and dark not complaining.

Bebdina
December 5th, 2015, 05:51 PM
I was going to go to social services so I can live over there and get rid of my family. But I don't know how. Please could anyone give me advice how to resolve this issue? I love my parents but I'm afraid that I will go there if there is no resolution to this problem.

P.s. My parents are Asian. Yes Asian parents are stereotypical.

Hey, I am sorry about your predicament.
Tell me something, where are you? At what age are you considered an adult? Are you sure you want to get rid of your parents? Are there any other family members that can help you?

Sheilae
December 9th, 2015, 07:15 PM
I'm not good at these things but I think going to Africa is kind of cool. Of course, being forced is bad, but it's an opportunity none the less. Try to make peace with your family too. Just try to look at the brighter side of things.

I disagree with you. I am Dutch, and if you where raised in Europe or America etc. being forced to go to Africa is a living hell. I was forced to stay there with my mother for eight freaking months, and I literally counted the days until I finally got home. It made me even more depressed to be there, and for TS: Africa won't solve your problems. It didn't solve mine, it won't solve yours either.

The only way to show your parents that you can stay at home, is to do what they ask from you. Need to clean something? Do it! You should make homework? Fucking do it! Being lazy is not an option in this world, and while I know it's easy said, I also know that it's the truth. Maybe you won't like doing the stuff you have to do, but I promise, within a month you'll get used to it. Your brain will literally get used to doing tasks, it's like forming a new habit. Don't try, DO. Because going on vacation to Africa may seem amazing, but staying there will make you drown even more.

The solution is YOU at this moment. I don't say that your peers may have too high expectations of you, but right now you can't use that because they will decide something really important. Soon enough when you're old enough you can live on your own and be free. Work hard for now, keep your head high :) X

Cheaspeake297
December 10th, 2015, 09:26 PM
Hey, I am sorry about your predicament.
Tell me something, where are you? At what age are you considered an adult? Are you sure you want to get rid of your parents? Are there any other family members that can help you?

Well my cousins live another state from here. Like I said I really love my parents but if I don't find a comprimise then I have no chose to get rid of them.

Cheaspeake297
December 10th, 2015, 09:28 PM
I disagree with you. I am Dutch, and if you where raised in Europe or America etc. being forced to go to Africa is a living hell. I was forced to stay there with my mother for eight freaking months, and I literally counted the days until I finally got home. It made me even more depressed to be there, and for TS: Africa won't solve your problems. It didn't solve mine, it won't solve yours either.

The only way to show your parents that you can stay at home, is to do what they ask from you. Need to clean something? Do it! You should make homework? Fucking do it! Being lazy is not an option in this world, and while I know it's easy said, I also know that it's the truth. Maybe you won't like doing the stuff you have to do, but I promise, within a month you'll get used to it. Your brain will literally get used to doing tasks, it's like forming a new habit. Don't try, DO. Because going on vacation to Africa may seem amazing, but staying there will make you drown even more.

The solution is YOU at this moment. I don't say that your peers may have too high expectations of you, but right now you can't use that because they will decide something really important. Soon enough when you're old enough you can live on your own and be free. Work hard for now, keep your head high :) X
That has got to be some great advice. Thank you I'll do what I have to do.

lacey02
December 10th, 2015, 11:07 PM
I hope this passes and that you can repair things with your parents. I feel for you. We have all had issues with our parents and they can say things that they later regret and feel really bad about. I know that I bother my parents quite a bit, but have not got to the point to where I want to never see them. Maybe there is a counselor at your school or church.

Vanilla Cupcake
December 12th, 2015, 08:39 PM
All you have to do is start helping your mom, do stuff around the house that she would normally do and do it without being asked. That's what my mom says, she just wants help and wishes she didn't have to ask.
My mom says the more I do, the longer I get to stay, the less I do, then out I go when I graduate.
She is stressed with working, lack of money, and 3 kids, and when we don't help, it puts her in the worst of moods.
She's so happy when we do help, I think her favourite is an empty dishwasher and a clean kitchen.
So that's my advice. Stop procrastinating and just do what makes her happy :)

ethan-s
January 18th, 2016, 09:49 PM
To answer your question, just call th cops.