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KidWithTheHeadband
October 24th, 2015, 01:59 PM
It's kind of awkward to admit this, but I'm 17 and still dont have my license to drive. I took the class my sophomore year, did the behind the wheel part where I actually drive a car for six months. But I still just cannot shake this huge anxiety I have whenever I get behind the wheel.

I get made fun of by my family because of it and I just cannot get over it. I sweat, shake, my heart is pounding, so on and so forth. But I just cannot get over it. My dad shoves me into situations where I'm completely uncomfortable with what im doing. Forcing me to park inbetween a whole bunch of cars when I clearly have issues with it. (It took 10 minutes for me.) Then we never follow up because I'm completely drained from it.

Even if I keep going at it I just can't get over it at all. It's preventing me from getting a job (Which I need because I live in a house where everyone cannot work.) But I just get so stressed over it I literally cannot function. Even talking about this right now I feel sick to my stomach.

Are there any tips that anyone can give me to get around this? I'm stressing out over the fact I can't get over it. And I'm getting a boatload of stress dropped on me because I can't get over it.

Vermilion
October 24th, 2015, 02:08 PM
What keeps you calm ? Any music ?

KidWithTheHeadband
October 24th, 2015, 02:18 PM
I'm not much of a fan of listening to music in the car as It diverts my attention away from the road too much in my opinion, I could just try talk radio or something mundane like that.

I'm considering doing a spin around the neighborhood this evening if my dad doesn't have a hissy fit over his phone like he's been having this afternoon.

Just JT
October 24th, 2015, 02:44 PM
Hi, I don't have a lot of driving experience cause I'm not old enough yet, but wondering, what do you get so worked up for?
I mean, is it some thought that you think will happen or something?

Just trying to think what can help ya no?

Vermilion
October 24th, 2015, 02:50 PM
I'm not much of a fan of listening to music in the car as It diverts my attention away from the road too much in my opinion, I could just try talk radio or something mundane like that.

I'm considering doing a spin around the neighborhood this evening if my dad doesn't have a hissy fit over his phone like he's been having this afternoon.

I think you need something something just to distract you a bit and need some calm helpful people not your family

KidWithTheHeadband
October 24th, 2015, 07:09 PM
Hi, I don't have a lot of driving experience cause I'm not old enough yet, but wondering, what do you get so worked up for?
I mean, is it some thought that you think will happen or something?

Just trying to think what can help ya no?

In all honesty, I don't even know. It's stupid to be honest. But I just get behind the wheel and just feel like im panicing despite me not looking it. It could be any number of things from accidents to just screwing up in general because any mistake I end up doing will cost me money I don't exactly have.

It's probably the most stupid thing I've ever experienced in my life.

Even my friends don't have this issue at all. It's ridiculous.

I'm sort of chopping this up to just a plain bad experience with driving in general. My BTW teacher was ridiculously sarcastic and dry about everything. Nothing was explained at all while we were on the road. Just, "turn here, do X maneuver" barely any instruction at all. It did not help me get any more relaxed at all, even with time.

I just wish I had somebody else to practice driving with. But there's just my Dad. Which really kind of sucks.

Just JT
October 24th, 2015, 07:14 PM
Well maybe like you said, a little driving time by yourself around the block where nobody breathing down your neck and you can decide where you turn and what maneuvers you do

Can you do that?

KidWithTheHeadband
October 24th, 2015, 07:19 PM
Nope, driving laws are pretty strict about that since I dont have my license. I need to have an adult passenger in the vehicle otherwise I'll get into hella trouble.

Jaffe
October 24th, 2015, 07:32 PM
It's kind of awkward to admit this, but I'm 17 and still dont have my license to drive. I took the class my sophomore year, did the behind the wheel part where I actually drive a car for six months. But I still just cannot shake this huge anxiety I have whenever I get behind the wheel.

I get made fun of by my family because of it and I just cannot get over it. I sweat, shake, my heart is pounding, so on and so forth. But I just cannot get over it. My dad shoves me into situations where I'm completely uncomfortable with what im doing. Forcing me to park inbetween a whole bunch of cars when I clearly have issues with it. (It took 10 minutes for me.) Then we never follow up because I'm completely drained from it.

Even if I keep going at it I just can't get over it at all. It's preventing me from getting a job (Which I need because I live in a house where everyone cannot work.) But I just get so stressed over it I literally cannot function. Even talking about this right now I feel sick to my stomach.

Are there any tips that anyone can give me to get around this? I'm stressing out over the fact I can't get over it. And I'm getting a boatload of stress dropped on me because I can't get over it.

Do you generally get anxiety, over other issues too? Or is the first time you have ever experienced this?

If you have had it other times, list them out, perhaps here in a response. Then you might see things that are common, and work on just that part of it.

Just JT
October 24th, 2015, 07:33 PM
Well then giess you got some searching to do
You could also ask dad to take you to an empty lot and let you drive there on your own, or with him allowing you to do your own thing

KidWithTheHeadband
October 25th, 2015, 10:10 PM
I'm not a generally anxious person. Tests, Speeches, etc., I've all gotten over fears like that where I can get through them fine. But certain things just seem to set me off.

Real life situations (ala driving) I get really jittery as if im amped up on loads of caffeine. But I'm not anxious about applying for work or interviews.

Speeches I might get some sweats and stumble on a few words but I get through them fine.

This is a bit of a weird one, but I get a really sick feeling whenever certain things happen to certain characters in a variety of things, ranging from books to video games. More often than not, it's not like horrifically bad things, just things that seem...off. It's bizzare and random.

I'm not that anxious socially. If somebody strikes up conversation I dont shove him or her away from me. More often than not, I instigate conversations.

It's just this stupid anxiety about driving that is preventing me from just going for it. I literally feel my fight or flight instincts just kicking into overdrive whenever I get behind the wheel. When I'm just a passenger I'm typically fine, I have these odd moments where I just feel really dizzy and have these bouts of motion sickness where my head feels like it's just pulsing.

I haven't been able to get out at all recently because my Dad is really stressed out lately. And I think that might just be the main issue. I literally have no alternatives for a driving teacher, and every time I do go out I have bad experiences in general which really impact my relaxation.

It just really sucks.

Noody
October 26th, 2015, 05:04 AM
I'm not much of a fan of listening to music in the car as It diverts my attention away from the road too much in my opinion, I could just try talk radio or something mundane like that.

I'm considering doing a spin around the neighborhood this evening if my dad doesn't have a hissy fit over his phone like he's been having this afternoon.

It might be worth trying to find a driving instructor to help you through it - I've got an instructor and it's so helpful, they can adapt your lessons to what they think you are capable of and only when you are confident will they push you a bit more. It's like "baby steps" but in a much less belittling way.

Good luck, bear in mind that some people don't drive until they are like 25 or 30 - Driving is not a necessity, take your time and enjoy it :)

bruhh15
January 7th, 2016, 11:52 PM
Listen to music, whatever keeps u calm. Don't worry to much, everything will be alright. I sure there is other people out there with the same issue