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Miserabilia
January 31st, 2014, 02:05 PM
Whenever I walk alone in public (shopping malls, shops, streets, etc.),
I get terrible social anxiety.
I can't go into a shop with people, it's just terrible for me...
I constantly feel like people stare at me and I get extremely nervous and scared.

What can I do to help to this problem???
How do I deal with this?
I just want to be able to do things like a normal person.

Tarannosaurus
January 31st, 2014, 02:12 PM
I am the exact same. I just try to think 'they have their own lives, they don't care what I do, they don't even know me'. It doesn't always work, but just try your best. Sorry I can't give you better advice but you're not alone :)

ImCoolBeans
February 2nd, 2014, 12:28 PM
I feel this way too. I've gotten better at dealing with it recently, though. One thing that I thought about that helped me out a lot was the possibility that everybody else in the room might be thinking the same thing. They too might be wondering if everybody is judging their every move, and they could even be more self conscious than me. With that in mind, it kind of eases the anxiety for me because it opens my eyes to the fact that they're not really harshly judging me, they're probably too concerned with themselves to be worrying over my every move.

Like Tara said, it doesn't always work for me but every little bit helps.

JollyToes
February 2nd, 2014, 12:36 PM
I get super anxious at places where there is a large group of people who potentially could know me. But at a theme park or sumthn I seem to be ok

dsi411
February 8th, 2014, 04:55 PM
I get super anxious at places where there is a large group of people who potentially could know me. But at a theme park or sumthn I seem to be ok

Yeah, I'm like this too! When I go to my local Walmart I'm anxious because there are always people from my school there, but if I go down to San Diego or something, I'm okay!

Syvelocin
February 11th, 2014, 10:21 AM
What makes social anxiety so problematic is that it really is in the same field as phobias. The problem with phobias is avoiding the thing you fear will only perpetuate that fear. The more you're exposed to it, the easier it will be to cope with the stimulus. I mean, phobias at the core, to me, are the unknown, or false predispositions and generalizations. I'm afraid of spiders, but to this day I've yet to be bitten by one. Everyone is judging me, but really most people on the street don't give two shits about you.

Also, while there's definitely a chance this won't be the case, I find age or just maturing in general helps social anxiety a great deal. It's not so much the fear going away, you just stop caring lol. That's what has been happening to me recently. Also, I'm just now really realizing that letting my anxiety have power over my decisions is silly. Depriving myself of things and experiences just because I have that anxiety isn't something my ideal persona does.

Miserabilia
February 11th, 2014, 03:27 PM
What makes social anxiety so problematic is that it really is in the same field as phobias. The problem with phobias is avoiding the thing you fear will only perpetuate that fear. The more you're exposed to it, the easier it will be to cope with the stimulus. I mean, phobias at the core, to me, are the unknown, or false predispositions and generalizations. I'm afraid of spiders, but to this day I've yet to be bitten by one. Everyone is judging me, but really most people on the street don't give two shits about you.

Also, while there's definitely a chance this won't be the case, I find age or just maturing in general helps social anxiety a great deal. It's not so much the fear going away, you just stop caring lol. That's what has been happening to me recently. Also, I'm just now really realizing that letting my anxiety have power over my decisions is silly. Depriving myself of things and experiences just because I have that anxiety isn't something my ideal persona does.

Interesting, I wish I could just do normal things though, and ignore how I feel about them, but it literaly shows on the outside.
I can't stop doing weird things like shaking looking around alot etc.

Gamma Male
February 11th, 2014, 04:23 PM
Have you tried wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes? For some reason that seems to work for me.

JamesSC
February 11th, 2014, 04:45 PM
Well the best idea is to just think, all you are doing is just going into a shop, you don't need to interact with anyone nor do you even need to look at anyone. Just go about your day like the shop is empty.

drmindfreak
February 11th, 2014, 05:50 PM
Have you tried wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes? For some reason that seems to work for me.

^
That, sunglasses and the hood on, it works for me too. It just feels safe

Miserabilia
February 12th, 2014, 01:27 AM
Have you tried wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes? For some reason that seems to work for me.

You know, that actually sounds like a good idea, I'll try that

sweet_girl24au
February 14th, 2014, 03:52 PM
Whenever I walk alone in public (shopping malls, shops, streets, etc.),
I get terrible social anxiety.
I can't go into a shop with people, it's just terrible for me...
I constantly feel like people stare at me and I get extremely nervous and scared.

What can I do to help to this problem???
How do I deal with this?
I just want to be able to do things like a normal person.

I was exactly like you and really scared to go anywhere, but i used to get super anxious over everything no matter what it was. My mum took me to the doctor and im on some medication for it which helps me feel more comfortable with everything, except now i kinda feel numb if you know what i mean

Miserabilia
February 14th, 2014, 05:04 PM
I was exactly like you and really scared to go anywhere, but i used to get super anxious over everything no matter what it was. My mum took me to the doctor and im on some medication for it which helps me feel more comfortable with everything, except now i kinda feel numb if you know what i mean

Thinking about going to a doctor about it actually makes me more anxious D:
But I suppose doing something about it that works would be nice ):

Emerald Dream
February 20th, 2014, 03:47 PM
I love going shopping, but I hate dealing with people. A lot of the time I am scared to talk to someone who offers to help me find something. I won't talk to any employees. I'll also wait for an aisle to be clear before I look at something because I don't want people to judge me for what I am trying to decide on. It's very difficult when you think everyone is watching where you go or what you find interesting.

I find it helpful to go out in public with someone I am really close with (like a friend or my mom) so therefore I can be more comfortable with being myself, and trying to take my mind off of other people.

Miserabilia
February 20th, 2014, 03:55 PM
I love going shopping, but I hate dealing with people. A lot of the time I am scared to talk to someone who offers to help me find something. I won't talk to any employees. I'll also wait for an aisle to be clear before I look at something because I don't want people to judge me for what I am trying to decide on. It's very difficult when you think everyone is watching where you go or what you find interesting.

I find it helpful to go out in public with someone I am really close with (like a friend or my mom) so therefore I can be more comfortable with being myself, and trying to take my mind off of other people.

I knew I wasn't the only one! When I'm with family and friends it helps as a distraction too.

Philleeep
February 20th, 2014, 04:50 PM
I have this problem too. And if I have to ask someome a question I freak and have to either get someome to do it for me or don't ask because I can't overcome it.

backjruton
February 20th, 2014, 06:11 PM
I just struggle when walking through town because it's a wide open space and there's always a lot of people there. My 3 biggest fears are spiders, very wide open spaces and crowds which means walking home on my own for me is a problem but I do it because I've asked my parents if I can have independance and luckily they're working on it...

CcRoder
February 20th, 2014, 11:12 PM
Have you tried wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes? For some reason that seems to work for me.

This is what I do. Can't wear a hood though, because head covering is against the law unless you're a nun or a Muslim or Sikh :P

It would help though. My problem is that I can't so much as go into a store and I have a friend with the same problem, so we go places together. It helps to have another person with SA as well. You can go hide in the back of the eating theatre and not look suspicious.

etfboy
April 11th, 2014, 02:42 PM
I'm always like that earlier today i went to the mall for the first time since last week (since vacation i did not go anywhere except im just in my house) and i don't know its like im shocked that theres many people its like im having a claustrophobia feeling.I always feel that people are talking about me or something whenever i see people laugh i always assume they are laughing about me i dont know why its so weird.

Miserabilia
April 11th, 2014, 03:24 PM
I'm always like that earlier today i went to the mall for the first time since last week (since vacation i did not go anywhere except im just in my house) and i don't know its like im shocked that theres many people its like im having a claustrophobia feeling.I always feel that people are talking about me or something whenever i see people laugh i always assume they are laughing about me i dont know why its so weird.

yes that exact feeling