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December 1st, 2013, 01:29 AM
I myself have never been abused but every guy I've ever seriously dated or been intimate with, have been abused and raped. This may just seem like an odd coincidence to some, but this is very weird to me. Anyone know why I may be drawn to these poor abused people? :/

December 1st, 2013, 06:08 AM
I've read we don't choose a partner at random. This person has a similar story, or sometimes brings you things you missed when you were a baby or a child. It may be beneficial and heals your deep grieves, or it may not be sane sometimes.
We don't know about your childhood and your idea of life, and you may not really know yourself 'cause it concerns your unconscious.
If it worries you, I think an analyst would be able to help you finding the key.

December 2nd, 2013, 06:17 PM
Some people are just drawn to damaged people unfortunately, well no, I suppose unfortunately is the wrong word. I don't think it's a bad thing, it probably shows you have a caring nature underneath, a desire to help others. Being drawn to damaged people isn't a bad thing at all, but as the poster above said you could go to some sort of counselling to see if it uncovers what it is about that sort of person that draws you in if you find it distressing to be involved with these people. Good luck love, it's not unheard of, my current boyfriend admitted to me he was drawn to me because I was somewhat "crazy" and I had a dark past, you're not alone :)

December 3rd, 2013, 02:18 AM
Its just a type like the APs have said.

I'm drawn to people that have an exceptonaly carring yet active and funny demeanor. However I could be considered damaged. Opposites attract and likes repell.

December 3rd, 2013, 03:14 AM
Without studying into it, I think maybe this
is what is known as Florence Nightingale Syndrome.
You are a natural born caregiver. The person closest
to me is like that. The fact that I have developmental
disabilities makes him more inclined to want me as a
best friend. Thank goodness for ppl like you and him.