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Jman437
June 26th, 2013, 05:19 PM
These past few days my brain has been swarming me with uncontrollable gay thoughts. I'm not gay, I do not feel attracted(physically or emotionally) to men, gay porn doesn't arouse me, but my stupid brain makes me think that deep down I'm gay. I'm going nuts with these thoughts!

I looked online and they say it's an OCD, but I don't care if it is an OCD or something else, I just want to get rid of these thoughts...

Miserabilia
June 27th, 2013, 01:14 AM
what? thinking about sexuality it porbably just a phase you are going through or something. unless its been bothering you uncontrollably for a looong time and its really really serious I would just say its either a phase or you are in denial of your sexuality, becaus you say stuff like: but my stupid brain makes me think that deep down I'm gay
I just want to get rid of these thoughts

Jman437
June 27th, 2013, 07:19 PM
what? thinking about sexuality it porbably just a phase you are going through or something. unless its been bothering you uncontrollably for a looong time and its really really serious I would just say its either a phase or you are in denial of your sexuality, becaus you say stuff like:

the thoughts insist on staying, they've been bothering me for a while now. and i know i'm not gay, i don't have any physical or emotional attraction to men, but these thoughts really grind my gears...

tubanic
June 28th, 2013, 04:17 PM
There is a lot more to OCD than that, I'm afriad. I think what you're going through is pretty normal.

Jman437
June 28th, 2013, 05:15 PM
There is a lot more to OCD than that, I'm afriad. I think what you're going through is pretty normal.

What is it then? Will I turn gay? I don't want to be, although I have nothing against them. I just hope this fades away and I stay the same way I am...

tubanic
June 29th, 2013, 06:48 AM
I personally think you have control over your sexuality. And even if you are gay and you feel you can't help it, noone will hold it against you. Well noone who really cares about you. You are who you are, and real friends will like you for it

Jman437
June 29th, 2013, 06:29 PM
I personally think you have control over your sexuality. And even if you are gay and you feel you can't help it, noone will hold it against you. Well noone who really cares about you. You are who you are, and real friends will like you for it

I have nothing against gays, I just don't like it, just that, and I fear that I may become something I don't like... And this thoughts won't go away! I hope this fades away quickly...

James Bond
June 30th, 2013, 01:14 AM
what? thinking about sexuality it porbably just a phase you are going through or something. unless its been bothering you uncontrollably for a looong time and its really really serious I would just say its either a phase or you are in denial of your sexuality, becaus you say stuff like:
It sounds like he has HOCD which is a scientifically proven disorder, it's a branch off of OCD.
These past few days my brain has been swarming me with uncontrollable gay thoughts. I'm not gay, I do not feel attracted(physically or emotionally) to men, gay porn doesn't arouse me, but my stupid brain makes me think that deep down I'm gay. I'm going nuts with these thoughts!

I looked online and they say it's an OCD, but I don't care if it is an OCD or something else, I just want to get rid of these thoughts...

It sounds like a different type of OCD, called HOCD.


Here's the symptoms:


Homosexual OCD Mental Rituals

Asking self, “Do I find that person attractive?” (often applied to both opposite sex and same sex individuals).
Asking self, “Am I currently aroused?”
Asking self, “Am I appropriately disgusted by this?” when seeing same sex couples.
Other questions like the above that are designed to “figure out” or determine one’s sexual orientation.
Re-analyzing previous romantic or sexual experiences to make sure that one is straight.
Trying to convince oneself definitively of one’s sexuality.
Reassuring self about one’s sexual orientation (“I’m definitely straight”).
Mentally comparing self to straight people vs. gay men (or lesbians).
Repeatedly redirecting attention away from same sex individuals to opposite sex individuals.
Other mental rituals designed to “reset” or neutralize unwanted thoughts (e.g., mental washing rituals).
Repeatedly telling yourself that you’re not gay.
Trying to figure out why previous relationships failed (to make sure it wasn’t related to your partner thinking you were gay).
Planning for and anticipating all the likely consequences of “coming out,” even though you have no desire to “come out” or have gay relationships.
Planning how to leave your spouse or significant other (when you don’t actually want to do this).
Neutralizing “gay thoughts” with “straight thoughts.”
Mentally picturing opposite sex genitals or heterosexual acts to reduce anxiety about intrusive thoughts.
Scanning the environment to identify people who might be gay.
“Magical” rituals designed to distance oneself from unwanted thoughts (e.g., imagining oneself getting sick or vomiting when having unwanted thoughts).
Escaping from unwanted thoughts by recalling/reviewing pleasant past sexual experiences.
Replacing unwanted gay thoughts with violent thoughts.
HOCD Rituals & Compulsions (Behavioral)

HOCD Rituals & Compulsions (Behavioral)


Checking one’s own body for physical signs of arousal (can also be a mental ritual).
Walking in an overly masculine (if a man) or feminine (if a woman) way in order to “appear straight.”
Interacting in a overly masculine or feminine way.
Talking only about “appropriately” masculine or feminine topics.
Washing rituals (hands, etc.) if one comes into contact with gay men, lesbians, or bisexual individuals.
Watching straight pornography in order to reassure self that your’re aroused by it.
Watching gay porn in order to “prove” that your’re disgusted by it or not aroused by it.
Asking other people if they ever find same sex people attractive.
Asking other “Is it normal to…?”- type questions over and over again to obtain reassurance.
Asking other people for reassurance about your sexuality.
Repeatedly asking ex-girlfriends/boyfriends why your relationship ended.
Dating excessively to “prove” that one is straight and/or that one is attracted to the opposite sex.
Compulsive masturbation to straight pornography in order to “prove” that one is attracted to the opposite sex.
Interacting in a way that is aggressive, insulting, or disrespectful to gay people.
In some cases, adopting a gay lifestyle because it feels like it is inevitable (due to OCD doubt). However, finding this lifestyle distressing and unwanted.
In some cases, dating same sex individuals or engaging in homosexual acts to figure out the meaning of these experiences, but finding these activities distressing and unwanted.
Homosexual OCD Avoidance Behaviors

Homosexual OCD Avoidance Behaviors

Avoiding gay men, lesbians, and bisexual people.
Avoiding things that have been touched by gay men, lesbians, or bisexual people.
Avoiding physical contact with same sex individuals (handshaking, hugs).
Avoiding being alone with same sex individuals.
Avoiding conversations with same sex individuals.
Avoiding places frequented by gay people.
Avoiding public restrooms, locker rooms, and other situations potentially involving same sex nudity.
Avoiding attractive same sex individuals or pictures/movies featuring attractive same sex individuals.
Avoiding activities that aren’t stereotypically masculine (if a man) or feminine (if a woman).
Dressing in a stereotypically masculine or feminine way (e.g., wearing pink [for men]).
Avoiding music by gay individuals or movies featuring gay actors or characters.
Avoiding romantic relationships and sexual activity for fear of unwanted thoughts “popping in” during sex.
Avoiding eye contact with same sex individuals.
When in public, trying to avoid looking at the groin, backside, or chest areas of same sex individuals.
Avoiding masturbation due to fear about an unwanted thought occurring.
Avoiding TV shows with gay characters or gay themes.
Avoiding purple items, rainbows, and other symbols associated with homosexuality.
Avoiding androgynous or flamboyant clothing.
Manipulating your voice so that it sounds more masculine or feminine.
Not eating in public (in case food was prepared by a gay person).
Homosexual OCD Maladaptive Beliefs

Homosexual OCD Maladaptive Beliefs

Straight individuals shouldn’t find same sex people attractive.
Straight people shouldn’t have any doubts about their sexuality.
Every thought means something. I wouldn’t be having these thoughts over and over again if they weren’t meaningful.
If I turned out to be gay, it would ruin my life.
Straight people should only have straight thoughts. Gay people should only have gay thoughts.
If I’m not 100% straight, it means I’m gay.
If I have a thought that’s inconsistent with my desired orientation, it means I’ve “crossed over.”
Sexuality can be contagious.
Every time I feel sexually aroused, there must be a reason for it.
Feeling sexual arousal must mean that I want to have sex with this person.
If my current partner found out I was having these thoughts, s/he’d leave me.
If I keep having this thought, I’m going to have to act on it eventually.
Maybe the only way I can be free of these thoughts is to act on them.

Source: http://www.steveseay.com/hocd-homosexual-ocd-sexual-orientation/

Jman437
July 3rd, 2013, 04:17 PM
It sounds like he has HOCD which is a scientifically proven disorder, it's a branch off of OCD.


It sounds like a different type of OCD, called HOCD.


Here's the symptoms:

Source: http://www.steveseay.com/hocd-homosexual-ocd-sexual-orientation/

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