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June 3rd, 2011, 02:54 PM
So at the YMCA, I like to shower after I run/swim, to get all the sweat/chemicals (from the pool water) off my body. But it seems that whenever another guy, usualy older (because I'm only 14), walks in I end up getting an erection. It's pretty embarasing, and makes me question my sexuality. I take a shower naked, so of course my erection would be noticable to anybody that cared to look. And yeah, I do look at some of the other guy's "equiptment". Not so much to compare either.

I also enjoy masturbating to gay porn, but I don't have emotional feelings for men, I just like the way they look masculine.

I also think that not having a father figure in my life makes me want to see how other men look, as I wish I did have a fatherly figure.

Does all of this pretty much mean I'm gay? I'm perfectly fine with accepting myself for who I am, but this just worries me, being confused and everything.

Your posts are welcomed :lol:

June 3rd, 2011, 02:58 PM
well, if your really confused, i always find, asking yourself if you could have a proper relationship with a boy helps. if you can see yourself having a proper relatonship wiht a boy, then the chances are you are gay or bi.

the father figure may have an influence, that you want to learn more, but nobody is there to help you. If you want to talk, just drop me a line :)

(also, is your sig meant to say "Parliment"?)

June 3rd, 2011, 02:59 PM
Thats a pretty deep and complicated question. based on you age it could just be hormones. Meaning that anything sexual at all (ie. naked dudes) turn you on. You could be bi, you could just be curious about your body so your looking at other guys or you curious about their bodies. You also could be gay, and could have and emotional atraction to guys and just not realize it yet.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:03 PM
I would have to say it is the hormones and I would also have to agree with Tristin about asking yourself that question.

Lemme know if you need anyhting man, we are all here to help one another.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:03 PM
(also, is your sig meant to say "Parliment"?)

Nope, its supposed to say Parlement :P

Parlement is a real word, pretty much meaning the same thing as parliment.

Let's get back on topic now, why don't we? :D

June 3rd, 2011, 03:05 PM
Nope, its supposed to say Parlement :P

Parlement is a real word, pretty much meaning the same thing as parliment.

Let's get back on topic now, why don't we? :D

i was on topic, my little bit there was in brackets :P

but yes, on topic.

one factor you did not mention, was if you had attraction to girls?

June 3rd, 2011, 03:05 PM
It's just hard to talk to an adult about the questions I have. I know I want to, but it's just really uncomfortable. I know that I could talk to my uncle or school counselor, but for me, I'm really nervous.

I'd also probably go as far as jack off/jacking off another guy... contributing for the fact that I might also like men.

I also have feelings for women, both physical and emotional.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:07 PM
Then you may just be bisexual?

June 3rd, 2011, 03:08 PM
hmm, but could you see your self in a relationship? if not, you could be straight curious. bi is also an option. i can see how you would be nervous, but just take the leap, you may be surprised how well things will go

June 3rd, 2011, 03:09 PM
Probably.... but I don't know how to come out to any of my friends. Because you know how guys are, somebody says you might like guys and they freak out and start teasing the person.... I don't want to lose any friends over this.

And yeah, I know that if they where my "real" friends they wouldn't care. But still, telling them could cause some akward moments in a friendship.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:12 PM
i know where you are coming from. try asking someone your not close to but have suspicions about

June 3rd, 2011, 03:17 PM
I have more friends that are girls than guys, and when girls joke around and say that I'm gay or something like that, I usualy just say "I know :P" But they just take it as a joke. And I've told like one guy, who said he'd been thinking the same thing (as in experimenting) but I'm not really a close friend of his, so it went no further than that.

As far as experimenting, all I want to do is find somebody like me that wants to experiment, so I can finaly see if it's for me, and what I truly like. But it's more easy said then done to find somebody like that...

June 3rd, 2011, 03:18 PM
And I've told like one guy, who said he'd been thinking the same thing (as in experimenting) but I'm not really a close friend of his, so it went no further than that.


your not really friends, so build it up an experament together. find out and then, go from there

June 3rd, 2011, 03:21 PM
He has a big mouth and tells everybody anything he hears.

And his ego is to big for my liking... all he does is brag about himself and make fun of others.

He's not exactly the person I'd like to expose myself to.

Meeting a teen in the showers at the YMCA is rare to, as many of them don't take showers. If I ever did meet one, and I saw they had an erection, I'd definatly start talking to them. But like I said... I don't go there much, and in reality, most teens won't expose themselves in a public shower.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:25 PM
well, next time you meet one, invite him for a swim, then to the showers and go from there :)

June 3rd, 2011, 03:28 PM
well, next time you meet one, invite him for a swim, then to the showers and go from there :)

Like I said, not many people go to the showers in my age range. It would most end up being me, feeling unconfortable because I'm the only one, or him being unconfortable, because I'm naked.


June 3rd, 2011, 03:29 PM
you can but try :)

im not really sure what else you could do?

June 3rd, 2011, 03:34 PM
Ugh... life dissions are so hard.

Since more older men (in their 30's) go to the YMCA to take showers, I've considered asking one of them if they ever happened to get an erection.

But with laws the way they are.... you know. :/

June 3rd, 2011, 03:35 PM
hmmm, i see.

life decisions are hard, but all the best things are :)

June 3rd, 2011, 03:41 PM
It would be so much better if an adult would come up and ask me if I had any questions to ask... Rather than me having to gather up the curage and do it myself. Probably won't ever happen.

On the up side... Only one more year until Highschool, then I get to be exposed to a lot of new people, with lots of different personalitys.

June 3rd, 2011, 03:44 PM
highschool will be filled with people just like you, so yes, that is a brightside :D

do ask questions though, it will help

June 3rd, 2011, 09:18 PM
U are just curious to look and compare

June 3rd, 2011, 09:55 PM
I too not have a father figure in my life, but I would not have a shower there, I would wait until I got home....

June 3rd, 2011, 10:06 PM
At 14 it is pretty hard to label yourself gay or straight or bi. most guys are really curious at that age and full of hormones. I know what you mean, I was an only child and I often wished I had a brother a year or two older to show me the way and talk to me about guy stuff.

June 3rd, 2011, 11:29 PM
I have the SAME EXACT feeling about gay porn. The rare times that I watch it, I really don't enjoy watching the actual sex in it but rather seeing how masculine and vulnerable the jocks/guys look and I think it's because I used to be really chubby and could never imagine myself thin (oh, how I'm glad that's changed :) )....but yet straight porn I actually enjoy.

It's really interesting how our sexual preferences and desires seem to be defined around who we were/are and our past.

I'm lucky enough to have a dad who supports me no matter if I'm gay, straight, bi, trans, etc. and totally supports (although kids w/ me) my choice to go to college for fashion.

As for you, I think you really need to delve deep into yourself. I really, really know how frustrating it can be at times but really dude, who cares? If you're accepting of yourself just do whatever feels right and screw everything else.

June 3rd, 2011, 11:44 PM
Nice to see there's at least a few people that might have the slightest understanding.

June 4th, 2011, 12:02 AM
Yeah, you could be bi

June 4th, 2011, 12:17 AM
Anybody could be bi. I guess I'm not really asking anybody to try and determine what my sexuality is, rather just venting on here about how I feel... It's about time I tell somebody.

June 4th, 2011, 12:49 AM
This is normal for someone your age it is mainly just your hormones messing with you. This happens with lots of strait guys. So you may be straight just a little curious about things.

June 4th, 2011, 06:44 AM
:arrow: Teen Sexuality

June 4th, 2011, 12:45 PM
it doesnt mean your gay it just means your curious :)

Jon Doe 401
June 11th, 2011, 10:38 PM
it natural to get a erection in the showers. your penis has a mind of its own and will get erect if your looking at anyone naked its just natural

June 12th, 2011, 01:21 AM
It is always nice to be able to tell someone how you feel. The other posters have given you good advice and good insight. I will tell you that tristin is most definitely correct. Can you see yourself having a real (not just sexual) relationship with a guy? If the answer is yes you may very well be bi or gay. Chances are, at your age, you are curious. People label themselves and others as being a certain sexuality based solely on feelings and while feelings can be an eye opener, they aren't always right. Don't take what I said the wrong way, I am in no way telling you that you need to go out and sleep with a few people so you can know your sexuality, I am only saying that you shouldn't label yourself until you know for sure.

Pm me of you want to talk or anything, and stay sharp kid, I'm impressed ;)

June 12th, 2011, 02:21 PM
It mean's your curious. As are many guys. Honestly, if I was showering at a public place, and saw someone else looking at my penis, I wouldn't care. If you wanna look, go ahead.
Places should have like "sectioned" showers. Places for straight, bi, gay, & curious people.

June 13th, 2011, 03:45 AM
hey, i know where youre coming from, just being around older guys with their shirt off makes me drool
i havent had my father with me since i was three, and i never talked to him until i was ten and that was the last day. ive liked guys since i could remember.
i belive that if you take that chance something may be figured out